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Parental favoritism; Justin and Esme work out Some Personal stuff and ignore everyone else.
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Helena wrote: "I was the favoured one. I had only one child so I could heap all of my neuroses love on her, no favourites here."
I wanted to have a whole brood, but things didn't work out for me. I have one beautiful daughter and I thank God for her every day. She is the apple of my eye!
Me too Petra, I would have liked to have had at least one more- but it didn’t work out that way. I’m blessed to have the one I do- she’s a keeper! @Jammies- I’m the oldest out of a pile of boys too! I agree completely with what you said about things ‘coming harder to you’. Oh, we should compare notes. I’m fascinated by family dynamics and birth order. Odd, I know.
Odd, is what we all have in common Helena. :)
My kids are 3 and 4. I love them equally, but I guess i treat them quite differently, because they ARE so very different. It's just very important to me that they both feel loved, and I think I'm suceeding sofar :-)Did you guys see the "Meet Joe Black" movie, where the oldest daughter tells Anthony Hopkins that she always felt loved so it's ok that he favoured the youngest sister? I think when kids grow older, if you have a lot in common with one of your parents, same interests etc, you automatically grow closer.
I've also heard that strong favouritism can sometimes have to do with an untreated/undiscovered post birth depression?
Gail «Cyborg» wrote: "Odd, is what we all have in common Helena. :)"I think you’re right, Gail... there are some odd ones around here- I mean it in the best way :D I like odd.
Barb wrote: "Helena wrote: "I had only one child so I could heap all of my neuroses love on her, no favourites here."^^^ This. I can't see how I could possibly love or like another child as much as I do mi..."
That’s exactly how I feel :)
We did try to have another, but it didn’t work out. Neither of us really mind, we’re both happy with the one we got. Our daughter is so well behaved and so sweet, I’m terrified that if we did have another we’d get a ‘normal’ kid and it would be Hard Work.
ms.petra wrote: "I wanted to have a whole brood, but things didn't work out for me..."
@Helena and ms. petra:
I have two extra, free to a good home. Housebroken and all shots up to date.
Let me know.
@Helena and ms. petra:
I have two extra, free to a good home. Housebroken and all shots up to date.
Let me know.
Thank You ever so much for your generous offer, Clark. As I live in Canada, it's really quite impossible. I recently imported an American and we're only allowed one every ten years. Thanks again for the thought though, so kind. Petra- all yours!
I was daddy's favorite and the baby as well, Esme. my older sister is now 44 and finally doesn't give me crap all the time...it takes a while for them to get over how annoying we were when we were little and cute and stole all their glory. Actually, I was both of my grandfather's favorite too until the Great-Grandkids came along. I was pretty much the only easy-going one in the crowd and a bit of a tomboy.
Justin, really...I have to say that you need to find a way to channel the hostility into something more productive. You're only perpetuating the negative in your own life. And, you really should look after your baby sister, not torture her...for sure not at this age. Do you at least stick up for her if someone else tries to be mean to her? My older sister was pure evil all of my growing up years, but she never let anyone else be mean to me, EVER! She wouldn't even let our own mother hit me. She, however, could swing me around until airborne and let go. *sigh*
Justin, really...I have to say that you need to find a way to channel the hostility into something more productive. You're only perpetuating the negative in your own life. And, you really should look after your baby sister, not torture her...for sure not at this age. Do you at least stick up for her if someone else tries to be mean to her? My older sister was pure evil all of my growing up years, but she never let anyone else be mean to me, EVER! She wouldn't even let our own mother hit me. She, however, could swing me around until airborne and let go. *sigh*
yeah, your older sister sounds like my brother. he's protective but he's been hell bent on revenge because of something i did like...i dont know, like three or four months ago. *rolls eyes*
My god, I hope that wasn't what happened! She'll be scarred for life...just thinking about my brother shirtless makes me gag *shudder*.
Gail «Cyborg» wrote: "#%@/#$!!!!Why can't I get my expletives to look convincing?"
!!!!!!
That one always works for me, Gail. I think an exclamation point fills in the blanks quite well. Multiple exclamation points, even moreso...
i swear, all i did was i accidentally dented his car because dammit he left it right in the middle of the fucking driveway! the big baby whined all christmas break...
Big dent or little dent?
Did he buy the car, or did Daddy buy it for him?
What kind of car?
Did you fix it?
Did he buy the car, or did Daddy buy it for him?
What kind of car?
Did you fix it?
a middle sized dent. i didn't like completely ruin it or anything.
of course dad bought the car, justin hasn't worked a day in his life...
it was an audi r8.
yeah, i got it fixed for him and even gave the keys over to my baby so he could drive. but he's immature and keeps griping about it. boys are stupid.
of course dad bought the car, justin hasn't worked a day in his life...
it was an audi r8.
yeah, i got it fixed for him and even gave the keys over to my baby so he could drive. but he's immature and keeps griping about it. boys are stupid.
Justin, if she fixed it...didn't do it on purpose...AND, it wasn't even that bad to begin with, get over it. Seriously, people are dying in war torn countries, children are starving and dying of malaria, women are beheaded for being raped...be glad daddy bought you a nice car and pays for your college education and that you have a sweet sister who fixed what she ACCIDENTALLY dented. Sheesh. Talk about skewed view of what's important in life...
see!? that's what i said! and all the rest of my brothers are behind this too, because ive 'wronged' them over the years. assholes.
yep, being the only girl definately sucks.
yep, being the only girl definately sucks.
Amelia wrote: "Justin, if she fixed it...didn't do it on purpose...AND, it wasn't even that bad to begin with, get over it. Seriously, people are dying in war torn countries, children are starving and dying of m..."
::Cheers Amelia loudly::
::Cheers Amelia loudly::
i would take your boy, Clark. Now that you have all this knowledge from Britt, the girls will be no problem!
How old are they Clark? Toilet trained doesn't really give an accurate description. I toilet trained my brother Nick when he was two. My brother Seth weed his pants till he was 10...course, he's autistic.
I'm sorry Esme, you seem like a sweet girl. I'd be nice to you if you were my little sissy. :( I have one, you can ask her. I'm very nice to her. The older torturer I still avoid if I can. One day Justin will see the error of his ways. I hope, for his sake you are more forgiving than I am able to be.
I'm sorry Esme, you seem like a sweet girl. I'd be nice to you if you were my little sissy. :( I have one, you can ask her. I'm very nice to her. The older torturer I still avoid if I can. One day Justin will see the error of his ways. I hope, for his sake you are more forgiving than I am able to be.
Amelia wrote: "How old are they Clark?"
They're 10, going on 21 and entirely consumed with pre-pubescent headgames, marking their territory, chaos, mayhem, and anarchy. I'm fully convinced they both have futures as CIA-trained torture experts.
I'd gladly take a bullet for either one of them, but man...
They're 10, going on 21 and entirely consumed with pre-pubescent headgames, marking their territory, chaos, mayhem, and anarchy. I'm fully convinced they both have futures as CIA-trained torture experts.
I'd gladly take a bullet for either one of them, but man...
ms.petra wrote: "i would take your boy, Clark. Now that you have all this knowledge from Britt, the girls will be no problem!"
Lord save us all.
Lord save us all.
:) (Re: 128)
Twins? Twins are fun! I used to nanny for twins. Course, they were girls, and they were 2. I don't suppose yours would let me dress them in cute matching dresses with patent leather shoes?
Kidding, I had boys when I was a nanny as well, it's just a different tack. I play video games and watch stupid movies like Transformers...boys love me! In fact, I have a DS in my purse at all times with a load of games as well. I'm always the favorite aunt at family gatherings or boring things like weddings. :) My iPhone is always loaded with game apps as well, so I can accommodate more than one kid. That and so I can entertain myself when I need to. Heh.
But, alas, if they're "marking their territory" it might not be a good idea to send them my way as I already have a cat that likes to pee on the wall in the hallway. (I keep telling him that kitties that pee on the wall go to meet Jesus...)
Twins? Twins are fun! I used to nanny for twins. Course, they were girls, and they were 2. I don't suppose yours would let me dress them in cute matching dresses with patent leather shoes?
Kidding, I had boys when I was a nanny as well, it's just a different tack. I play video games and watch stupid movies like Transformers...boys love me! In fact, I have a DS in my purse at all times with a load of games as well. I'm always the favorite aunt at family gatherings or boring things like weddings. :) My iPhone is always loaded with game apps as well, so I can accommodate more than one kid. That and so I can entertain myself when I need to. Heh.
But, alas, if they're "marking their territory" it might not be a good idea to send them my way as I already have a cat that likes to pee on the wall in the hallway. (I keep telling him that kitties that pee on the wall go to meet Jesus...)
Amelia wrote: ":) (Re: 128)
Twins? Twins are fun! I used to nanny for twins. Course, they were girls, and they were 2. I don't suppose yours would let me dress them in cute matching dresses with patent le..."
They might, but while you were busy with one, the other would be lifting your wallet.
Twins? Twins are fun! I used to nanny for twins. Course, they were girls, and they were 2. I don't suppose yours would let me dress them in cute matching dresses with patent le..."
They might, but while you were busy with one, the other would be lifting your wallet.
:) Are they both mischievous? I found that though mine looked identical they were VERY different. Lina was a sweet, quiet, cuddly little pixie of a girl. Rachel was spawn of Satan...smarty pants, tantrum thrower, defiant, I could go on and on. They couldn't have been more different with regard to disposition!
They're identical and very different in many ways (one is a dreamer, one is more serious) but neither one is dominant, which is where the shit truly hits the fan. Since neither one will back down, we usually host at least one dust-up per day. It generally gets physical unless I step in.
Somewhere my mon and dad are laughing their asses off.
Somewhere my mon and dad are laughing their asses off.
Hmmm, Rach was for SURE dominant. Lina wouldn't have pushed back on anything.
Are they pretty well matched physically, or does one usually come out on top if left to their own devices?
Maybe you could get them into Lacrosse or something? :) We have a professional Lacrosse league here and there were these three enormous Canadian lads who played for us a couple of years ago. They said that their mom got them into Lacrosse when it wasn't hockey season, because they were tearing up her house. It seems it gave them a place to go, a very physical outlet and they could beat the crap out of each other with sticks...legally.
Are they pretty well matched physically, or does one usually come out on top if left to their own devices?
Maybe you could get them into Lacrosse or something? :) We have a professional Lacrosse league here and there were these three enormous Canadian lads who played for us a couple of years ago. They said that their mom got them into Lacrosse when it wasn't hockey season, because they were tearing up her house. It seems it gave them a place to go, a very physical outlet and they could beat the crap out of each other with sticks...legally.
Give the girls boxing gloves and send them outside. If you're something of an entrepreneur, sell tickets.
Amelia wrote: "Hmmm, Rach was for SURE dominant. Lina wouldn't have pushed back on anything.
Are they pretty well matched physically, or does one usually come out on top if left to their own devices?
May..."
One twin eats everything in sight and the other eats like a bird, so the former is slightly larger and more solid but I'd be hard pressed to bet on either one in a loser-leave-town match.
They're in every sport known to mankind, but alas nothing very physical. Perhaps you and Phil are on to something.
Are they pretty well matched physically, or does one usually come out on top if left to their own devices?
May..."
One twin eats everything in sight and the other eats like a bird, so the former is slightly larger and more solid but I'd be hard pressed to bet on either one in a loser-leave-town match.
They're in every sport known to mankind, but alas nothing very physical. Perhaps you and Phil are on to something.
LONG DISTANCE running, wrestling and boxing each day aught to keep them exhausted enough that they couldn't cause too much damage. You may have to get a second job to keep up with all of the fees, dues, tuition and myriad of equipment...but, your wife will enjoy the quiet. :)
I treat all of my children equally, especially my favourite one.
I only have one as of now so yes he is my favorite.
being a baby sucks. being the only girl does have a few perks.