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Mark
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Jun 07, 2011 12:11PM
Got Dumped by a 32 year old yesterday... he met me for lunch and drinks... and then told me three hours later in The George. I think he was trying to be nice about it and ended up making it much worse. I immediately up walked over to the bar and told the twenty-something one who is reminiscent of Cillian Murphy that he could finally have me. I ended up having several free drinks. He dropped me in the right place I suppose.
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My sister is married to a guy 16 years her senior, he's the only man she's dated who could be her equal when it comes to willpower I guess :-)I dated older guys when I was in my early 20's - they didn't play lame games and were a lot more mature than most of the guys my own age.
I don't think age matters all that much - it's the person you fall in love with not their age. But sure, there can be challenges you won't experience with someone closer to your own age.
My dad has been married 3 times, and each time he has never chosen anyone less than 10 years his junior. His last girlfriend was probably not much older than me. It creeps me out, and I think he does it not only because he considers them more attractive, but because he can feel somehow smarter and superior to them. He is a smart guy, in an intellectual sense, and he seems to intentionally choose women who are less well-educated than himself as well as younger. I think he's afraid of women who could be his equals, but he also can't quite seem to realize that this is the very reason his marriages are always a disaster. My mother was probably the only one close to his equal, at least in natural intelligence, but they barely made it a year before she got fed up with his condescension (not to mention other issues). He was 32 and she was 20.Some people can do the big age gap thing, but I think it boils down to the motivations behind the relationship. Love, equality and the willingness to allow for the differences that large age gaps produce are vital to the survival of a relationship. Personally, I like that my husband is a little older than me, but it's only by 2 years so it's not terribly significant.
Bummer, Mark. At least you got some free drinks.
My husband and I are 18 years apart in age. Does it matter which one of us is the older? We have been together for 17 years, 7 of them married. Are we happy?Very.
Age differences don't matter that much, as long as someone (usually a woman, but sometimes a man) isn't in it for money. It that's the case, it's fraud in my opinion, and any assets shouldn't go to the spouse. If you're the older one, always have a prenup.
