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May 11, 2011 04:36AM
after I threw out my abusive 1st ex spouse and saw my income drop by 2/3rds, I went to Planned Parenthood for my gyn.exams and birth control. They were appalled that I had been on ortho novum for 10 yrs straight and warned me of the danger of blood clots and if I had any cramps or pain in my legs to come back. about 6 mos later I developed a "charlie horse" type of pain in my left leg. I went back. they sent me to the doctor. he performed a venogram (this was 31 years ago). Yep! huge clot in upper left thigh. I was in the hospital for 9 days while they injected heparin via IV and gave me coumadin by mouth. on complete bedrest. when it melted my left leg was navy blue from my ankle to my crotch. so, planned parenthood saved my life.
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Half of my left big toenail got ripped off last night after exercise class, and there is no pair of shoes that don't hurt it. :(
The problem with those is the filthy walk in to the office from the parking lot.
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poor Jammies. Hurts doesn't it? I have bone spurs under both my great toes and shoes are difficult for me too. looks like another trip to the doctor's office, sigh, to get them ground down again.
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Betty wrote: "FYI: "I think I broke my pooper with all those White Russains" is NOT a good thing to share with your husband."I love this quote. But I can see why Sweeter would be a bit thrown. Is he hungover too?
I think he'd be pissed off that all those white Russians were near your pooper. Hey, you Bolshevik bastards, get away from Betty!
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Ms. Nolte wrote: "FYI: "I think I broke my pooper with all those White Russains" is NOT a good thing to share with your husband."I've finally found a man I can say absolutely anything to. Last night, after a dinner of too much chilled shrimp I first commented to him that I really hoped all that spicy cocktail sauce didn't cause an, um, explosive reaction. Then, after he put all his weight on my full belly during a little sum'thin sum'thin, I told him if he didn't get off I might commense to shooting shrimp out of my 'pooper'. It took him a minute to get his braying laughter under control and get the hell off! Give it time, Ms. Nolte. Soon you'll be able to say absolutely anything to Sweeter. (This said with not a damn clue as to how long the lovely couple has been together. How presumptuious of me)
Now I'm picturing shrimp shooting out of someone's ass like machine gun fire.Gee, thanks for that. :P
Phil wrote: "Now I'm picturing shrimp shooting out of someone's ass like machine gun fire.Gee, thanks for that. :P"
Just doin' my part!
I think I have a major bout of depression coming on. It's just hanging over my head, waiting for me to let the first good cry go before it swoops down and swallows me. I put this in the TMI thread because it's not necessarily something I share with people, but TC feels like family. I seem to be screwing up a lot lately, forgetting things and making tiny errors that are piling up to look like one big mess. I keep trying to get a fresh start and try harder, but I can't seem to do it. I don't know what's wrong with me, and the people I work with treat me like being scatterbrained makes me retarded. (I know the r-word is not very kosher, but there it is). It's really hard to learn from my mistakes when they're constantly thrown in my face and now define me.
There, I shared and it was definitely TMI for me.
Amber, in my experience depression/the blues can be best dealt with once it's been named. Otherwise it's like the elephant in the room that no one wants to deal with. Good luck, honey
Living with someone with severe depression has taught me a lot about the disease, and how to cope with it. If you have anyone close to you who understands, please seek them out, not to "cure" the depression but to give you a shoulder to lean on and arms to encircle you.Add me to the ::GLOMP:: group.
Sorry to hear you're feeling down, Amber. You are not defined by the negative attitude of your coworkers. Hang in there.
Thank you everyone. I don't have many people to talk to outside of my virtual friends these days. My husband hasn't quite learned that talking about a problem doesn't mean I expect him to fix it. I feel horribly self-involved to be posting all of this, but if I don't get it out it will fester. This cloud hanging over me may be one of the reasons I want to go back to school; I was busy, happy and productive when I was there. There wasn't so much time to sit and feel sorry for myself.
It took me a long time to figure out that I wasn't supposed to try and fix everything that my wife talked to me about. So hopefully your husband won't take as long as I did.Let it all out here Amber.
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I had a boss who was like this and it was unbelievably frustrating (and confusing - I couldn't figure out why he was angry with me so much of the time) until I sat him down and we had a conversation about it. Once he realized that I wasn't asking for help every time I told him something, things went much more smoothly. (He told me that everyone in his family had communicated that way - no one ever asked for help directly, they just said something and it was assumed you were asking for other people to solve your problems.) You and your husband will figure it out....in the meantime feel free to unload here. I'm wishing the best for you...
Amber, I'm sorry to hear that you're being followed by a grey cloud.
The women at
www.hyperboleandahalf.com
and
www.thebloggess.com
have also in the throes of some bad stuff. I am not sure if reading their take on it would make you feel better or worse or the same, but maybe you'd like to check them out?
{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}I definitely understand what you're going through, Amber. Not many people know this, and the ones I get close enough to share it with are shocked because I "act so normal!" (really, people?) but both I and Mr. Angela are bi-polar. Most of the time our anti-depressants keep everything all good but every once in a while one or the other of us will have a bout of depression. Luckily, we have each other, so we have someone who completely 'gets it'.
The only advice I can give you is, first, to sit your husband down and stress to him that you are not looking for him to solve your problems, you just need a sounding board and someone to lean on. If the depression lasts more than a few weeks and you don't have anyone to talk to amoung your family and friends, maybe you should make an appt. with a therapist trained in treating it. Doing that doesn't make you 'crazy'. It doesn't mean you have chronic depression. It doesn't mean you've been defeated and given up. Many people simply have bouts of depression. Some of them just need to work through it and find a shoulder to lean on and some of them need a temp. round of anti depressants.
I hope you are feeling better soon, Amber. You're absolutely correct about one thing.......you have plenty of friends here at TC to help you through.
Thanks again for all the support everyone.Since I posted, it's been up and down; one minute I think my resolve is holding out and I'm going to do something (what that something is I'm not quite sure) and the next just completely dejected. It's mostly the stress of my job and my very weird, complicated family issues. I would like to think that I could have a fresh start if I could get out of this job; it's taking a massive toll on my self-esteem.
Angela gives some awesome advice. She might need her own Ask Angela thread. Amber, please know that TC supports you. Keep us posted as you feel you can.
Big hugs, Amber. Stress can be a big contributor to depression. Take care of you.
I really appreciate everyone here. I know everyone has problems of their own they are dealing with, between relationships, jobs, health and just life in general, so I know I'll work through all of this eventually and be stronger on the other side. I hate feeling like I'm just being sorry for myself, so I am determined to make a better effort. Thanks!
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I think that happened on an episode of I Didn't Know I Was Pregnant.
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But...they have been for... Wait...AWWW. That's screwed up. Dx Me and my odd mind.
Does anyone else hide in the loo for alone time?
Amelia wrote: "Does anyone else hide in the loo for alone time?"Raises hand sheepishly.
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I don't take a newspaper or a book with me to read on the loo, but I do hide there if the office gets noisy.
No paper...no book...at home...just for some alone time. I do sometimes take the phone & talk to y'all. :).
And, no. I am not currently in the loo.
And, no. I am not currently in the loo.
Amelia wrote: "Does anyone else hide in the loo for alone time?"Yes.
