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Apr 03, 2010 10:30AM
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i need help i really like this guy and have for like 6 monthes or so and we went out a cpl times, he says he likes me actually he says he loves me but he wont be with me me cus he doesnt want to hurt me first of all its bolagna that he loves me and if he did like me he wouldnt have to worry about hurting me i mean hes done it so many times even when he doesnt mean to... and please don tell me to forget him becus hes all i have ive been through a lot and hes been here for me through it all so yeah if u make a topic for all problems i can fill u in but lets stick to the topic... anyways so i dont know what to do i cant have him, but its like i already do and it hurts knowing he could be telling me he loves me and messing around with another girl which he did but he promised he wouldnt again and hes not verry good at keeping promises
then yall should just be friends until he is ready
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it should help!!!
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your good at it!!!
Lol we got in a huge fight last night and I'm refusing to speak to him yes that's very childish but he ticked me off so we'll see what happens
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i think you should try to talk to him when his friends like go away somewhere else and if that doesn't work you should ask one of your friends to give you his number so you can text him and tell him how you feel and soooo GOOD LUCK WITH THAT!!!!
okay i get that u really like a guy he loves ur bff and she can care less... u have to be straight forward with him tell him she doesnt like u and if she gets with u out of pity its really going to get u hurt, second tell him u like him and ur worried hes turning into his friends, u said that he said they lead different lives, but whats he doing? and thrirdly tell him u like him and hes hurting u ask him if its even worth bothering, u likeing him if he says its not and u think otherwise then dont give up but some guys just arnt worth it
yeah what Rebecka said
Uhmmm hi....Me and this boy used to be really good friends since 7th grade and well then i started liking him in October and well i guess he got weirded out since he only thought of me as like his best friend...He wont talk to me anymore and im getting guilty and sad cuz i want our friendship back...I feel like i ruined a good friend relationship....but then my friend Stephanie spent the night and told me that in like September she asked him if he likes me like more than a friend and he said yeah and so idk what to do about him!Any advice??
this was a long time ago, do u still like hem, does he still like you? if yes tell him that u want to just be friends but slowly progress up, if u guys dont like eachother anymore then just be friends either way if he was a good friend dont let him go becus good friends arnt that easy to find these days
i still like him and idk if he still likes me...I cant ask Stephanie to ask him or would that be a bad idea?I want to be friends with him again(because he soo nice and awsome!)but my friends think he just needs time and i have given him space and time since like December-January..how much time does he need?
just tell him ur orry u didnt want to ruin your friendship and ask if things can go back to they way they were, things will work out the way their supposed to
The boy is not texting me or talking to me unless he has to so I couldn't ask him for you)= sorry. And with him, I would say to just wait. If you have his number text him and explain what happened and tell him that you just want to be friends...
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Thats alright Stephanie...Man!Hes just like his brother huh?ahahI dont have his # and u know that he wouldnt wanna talk to me...member on the bus today??
Thanks Luna...I wish it was that easy...he is ssoooo weird and hell prob just walk away so im trying to find another guy to like...
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haha ya....:D idk y i like him when hes such an ass about me liking him! grr....:/...i think i might of found someone but im not sure...
So, my friend likes this guy... He recently foud out that she likes him and he likes her back... They're super good friends and they like Each other ALOT... He's got a girlfriend though... She's mean and rude and he doesn't like anymore but he doesn't want to hurt her feelings,.. They've already gone out once awhile ago (my friend and the guy) and it was a good relationship but it brought up drama... They keep coming to me and asking for help because I am best friends with both of them... I don't know what they should do and I need help... Please??? (he still kind if likes his girlfriend but he likes my friend a lot and it pains me to hear about how he misses my friend whenever he is not with her.....)
I think that if the guy doesnt like the girl anymore that itll just be worse if they stay together and not break up know....It will be worse in the long run...uhmm that skind of all the advice i can give sorry Steph!
Thanks for the advice haylers, I'm sure my friends will be benifitted greatly by it.... Umm... Could anyone else give me a little more advice?
This is my friend's email and she wanted me to post this here. Apparently she's too embarrassed. Pls. help her:I heed your help. I'm thirteen and I look mature. I don't know...I think sometimes I'm older than my age. I think more maturely than others too. Plus, I am attracted to guys who are a lot older than me. I met (well we didn't really meet, I saw him)this guy at my aunt's house when I was about three to four years old. Yeah...that young. I liked him right away but I heard that he likes my sister (older sister). Our age gap is ABOUT 9 years. I think he doesn't even know me. He's a great guy...he's faithful to God and he's close with his family and friends. But he has a girlfriend now and I still can't get over him. Besides that guy I'm also having crushes on other older guys (some celebrities like Matt Lanter {is that Lanter or Latner?} and Mark Salling). And I've noticed that guys my age aren't attracted to me...but guys older (let's say 6 years and up older than me) thinks that I'm their age and develops a crush than they'll ask me my age and I'll tell them. Once they knew they'll stay away. I'm such a looser. I keep on pushing opportunities away like this one time when A guy sat beside me and I thought he was trying to make a move with my friends but he was really looking at me...I blew it! He has a girlfriend now...and I just kept hating myself for not being good at this! I NEED HELP. REALLY. SORRY FOR THE MANY MANY PROBLEMS...I'M A MESS RIGHT NOW. :(
Sorry guys, but I'm back for more advice....My friend really really likes this guy a lot now and she doesn't know what to do. She doesnt want to mess up a friend ship or anything but she really likes him at the same time. What should she do????
StephanieJean wrote: "Sorry guys, but I'm back for more advice....My friend really really likes this guy a lot now and she doesn't know what to do. She doesnt want to mess up a friend ship or anything but she really lik..."Tell your friend to just be herself and stay put for a while. If the guy comes to her wanting more than friendship then she should follow her heart. But for the mean time...let them both figure it all out. Who knows? Maybe cupid's just playing with both of them for a while...let the problem sink in a little deeper and figure it out. I'm not an expert with love and relationships but that;s what my mom always tells my older sister when she was in high school and totally had a crush on her best friend. GOOD LUCK! GOD BLESS. HOPE IT'LL WORK OUT!
So at the end of high school my best friend and boy friend since 5th greade had an awful falling out he was going to the air force and things got rough. he wanted to get merried and no less and it scared me.. the only friend that stood by my side was this kid that I knew liked me but I never saw him that way cause I had ben... Now its three years later and he has been my life line through some very heavy stuff and I think that I love him... it happened slowly and I know that he use to like me that way but I feel like he finely done waitingn for me... he ois two years younger than me and he just finished his first year of college I feel so selfish like my pain is always causing him pain... what do I do? should I tell him or will that make me an even worse person?
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I heed your help. I'm thirteen and I look mature. I don't know...I think sometimes ..."
Woah!! Try to get to know some guys your age. Even if they don't like you, just be friends! Once they see how awesome u are, u never know what might happen!!
Going after older guys is risky stuff. Just be careful... Also, if they are scared away by ur age then they really don't like u!! If u really do like them but are trying not to give away your age, DON'T LIE. A subtule, oh I need to take this call will stop him for now. But, your going to have to be honest.
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That is so romantic! Sorry. You HAVE to tell him. It won't make u a worse person if you tell him. If he still does like you, he will be soo happy. If not, that can only be ur fault that you left him waiting. But, if he liked you that long he probably still llikes you.
Don't feel selfish!!! You can't control what your heart OR his feels.
Urgggg i hate this i just cant get this guy outta my head!!We have been like best friends science i was 10 and he has always sent me all these mixed messages and flirts with me all the time EVEN THOUGH WE DECIDED WE WERE BETTER OFF AS FRIENDS!
And then he'll get a gf (he cant go longer than a couple days w/o one ) and he'll come and ask me for advice about her and im like "why dont you just dump her and ask me out ?" in my head
But instead im like " well i guess everyone deserves a second chance and as long as your happy...."
And i just really like him and hes been given me like a lot of non brotherly hugs lately ( like a brotherly hug is like from the side and a non brotherly hug is like full on ) ever science him and his gf broke up and hes just messin up my head lol
