_ Choosing Civility: The Twenty-five Rules of Considerate Conduct_ (2002) by P.M. Forni

[Joy H., Group Founder]

RE: Choosing Civility: The Twenty-five Rules of Considerate Conduct (2002) by P.M. Forni
I came across this book today. Thought it was worth posting about.
See: http://krieger.jhu.edu/civility/choos...
The Foreward: http://krieger.jhu.edu/civility/forew...

FROM ONLINE:
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The Twenty-Five Rules of Considerate Conduct by P. M. Forni, Cofounder of the Johns Hopkins Civility Project (http://krieger.jhu.edu/civility)
“Rules of civility have been around in one form or another for a very long time. They appear in the texts of all religions, from Judaism and Christianity to Confucianism, from Islam to Hinduism. They can be found in Renaissance tracts on the ideal gentleman and gentlewoman, in Victoria books of manners, and in the works of philosophers from Plato to Kant. Today’s self-help manuals on social skills try to keep these rules alive, as do pamphlets by civil society supporters of all stripes.”
1. Pay Attention
2. Acknowledge Others
3. Think the Best
4. Listen
5. Be Inclusive
6. Speak Kindly
7. Don’t Speak Ill
8. Accept & Give Praise
9. Respect Even a Subtle ‘No’
10. Respect Others’ Opinions
11. Mind Your Body
12. Be Agreeable *
13. Keep it Down and Rediscover Silence
14. Respect Other People’s Time
15. Respect Other People’s Space
16. Apologize Earnestly
17. Assert Yourself
18. Avoid Personal Questions
19. Care for Your Guests
20. Be a Considerate Guest
21. Think Twice Before Asking for Favors
22. Refrain from Idle Complaints
23. Accept & Give Constructive Criticism
24. Respect the Environment & Be Gentle to Animals
25. Don’t Shift Responsibility& Blame

"WE HAVE A CHOICE ABOUT HOW WE BEHAVE, AND THAT MEANS WE HAVE THE CHOICE TO OPT FOR CIVILITY AND GRACE." –Dwight Currie

"I have tried to condense that vast body of work and its wisdom into 25 essential rules. Although the rules of civility you will find here have withstood the test of time. I have reconfigured and rewritten them with the needs of our time in mind, drawing on my personal experience. Following them may not feel like a shortcut to a good life. If anything, these rules may feel like a “longcut,” since civility requires work and dedication. But they do offer a path to serenity and contentment.” -P. M. Forni (p. 31-32)
FROM: http://www.aauw-nys.org/culturalinter...
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*Below is link to an excerpt from the book about RULE #12: "Be Agreeable":
http://krieger.jhu.edu/civility/oneru...