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What do you find appealing?
I find that a nice smile and good teeth is always a good factor, Ilike guys who have dark hair and brown eyes, not too tall and well built. I also want a guy to keep me interested in him and not be too self centred.
Thanks Anthony, I guess there are so many ways to measure success, one that I particularly like is that if you do something you truly like and it provides for the life style that makes you happy, that's success. Independently of what others' idea of "the top" might be.On another note, if you are passionate about something please do share that with the world, I am one who loves to hear about it, but when it gets to the point into which that's all you know and care about, that's when its a turn-off for me.
Donna, while I understand that those are desirable qualities in a man, actually in anyone regargdless of gender, you have to really know someone to find out if they possess them or not. I took the question as more of an "attraction" thing, as if you saw someone at the library or the park, what would make me smile and approach kind of thing.
Yowza! Have you seen my avatar? I'm the glasses-wearingist gal around! I feel like you all have just written me a love poem!!! (Ok, I know the glasses comments were not directed toward me, but rather toward a general audience. So I'm gonna lie to myself for a while here, ok???)
I'm about to change my avatar, but THE GLASSES WILL NOT BE GONE!!!
Hey Amanda, I wear glasses in spring, because my allergies prevent me from wearing contacts then. So, can we share the flowers?
used to have a type i'd fall for. after the seventh nutcase redhead, i decided to move on.is it to much to ask for a girl with guts? come shooting with me, camping on the beach. ride on the back of a motorcycle, come play pool in a seedy bar.
i don't mind laying on the couch and watching movies. but there has to be more to dating.
I like to do exciting things but I stop short of the shooting thing - camping, motor bike riding and I love to pley pool, though I rubbish at it - Varmint you just need to find the right girl who wants do those things because she likes to do them and that can be the hard part, most girls will do them things because they think they have too.
Of course we can Lorena! I like zinnias. What about you?
Girls with lips; girls with hair; girls with skin. Girls whose wilsome mystery is inextricable from the sincerity of their innocence; whose profoundness of gaze is equaled only by the levity of her smile; girls who smile. Girls who touch without realizing; who speak without willing; who believe in more than their physical presence and I see it in her step, in the lilt of her hip and her hair as it falls abashedly on a shoulder or slips from behind an ear.
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What do I find appealing? Smarts, funny, irreverence. Strong hands and shoulders. Kindness, being lovingly teased, someone who isn't intimidated by me. Talent. Quirkiness. Steadiness. Depth. A good kisser. Affection. Someone who is comfortable with themselves. Flirting. A little kink. A little roughness. Tats. Scruffiness. Jeans, white t and a button down shirt. Facial hair on a guy. Perky tits on a girl. Sass. Glasses. The unexpected.
Women whose every footfall is tumbling blossom of a mystery---an invitation to ponder the inexplicable, inexhaustible, inexorable incandescence of experience---not youth but insight, the strength that comes from vulnerability and the vulnerability that comes with strength, the gray hair of substance, the Caesarian scar and stretch marks of wear and tear ... someone with stories to tell, in other words.Aw, who am I kidding?
I like someone who can drink me under the table. And a woman who's not opposed to wrasslin.
What do I find appealing? My wife.
She still has plenty of spirit, muscles, fun, and time for me.
David, how sweet! Amanda, I meant the compliments written here about gals that wear glasses; but I like all kinds of flowers, I really like orange so anytime I find an orange flower I'm extra-happy!
Kirk, yous such a sweet talker.. wrasslin'
hells yes, Tracy - I agree. Kindness, humor and smart. In that order for me.
I read page one and skipped to page 5, if this isn't on topic then it's because you've veered off. I am not that picky about physical appearance, although I must admit that I like a tall man. Being 5'2 most are taller, but I mean TALL like 6'3+.I also have a "thing" for nice hands, good teeth, and dimples. And to go back to the original topic: yes, no matter what someone looks like it can all change once they open their mouth if they aren't intelligent and funny. Well aside from that six month period I went through when I decided to treat men as I'd been treated, but that is another story...and off topic.
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I'm okay with it being off topic. I'm intrigued! Do tell...
My husband was just watching the Transformers movie. Shia LeBeouf's humor with Josh Duhamel's looks would be a really good combo.Also: Megan Fox is hot.
I'm watching Shoot Em Up. Clive Owen is totally doing it for me.
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Jackie- In short, I was coming off a bad break up and my mother had just passed away. I was a little "out of sorts" and decided that I was going to date as many boys as I could until I got sick of it (or couldn't find a date!). Lucky for me boys were not hard to find and I played the perfect b*tch, refusing to commit, not caring if they called, not calling them, making them take me to nice places, and in general not behaving as I typically would. Many Jenn stories have come out of that time period of my life, at least once a month someone will still bring one up. The best was having two guys show up at the same place to pick me up and going back and forth between them for hours until one found out. Oops! I was 22 and rather silly, but I look back fondly at that time period of my life. As far as juicy details, there weren't many as I was being a jerk, but I learned how to be an expert tease and there is a lot to be said for hours long make-out sessions! Before I am chastised let me just say that these were all "pretty boys" and I'm sure they were only out for one thing. As a side note I did learn that getting the pretty boys wasn't hard because when you truly act like you don't care they can't stand it. In the end I feel I got the best of what I wanted in a partner even though I really wasn't looking, I met my husband during that time and 16 years, 2 kids later he's still around. If only the hours long make-out sessions still were! HA!
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Yes, those make-out sessions are a thing of the past for me, too. But that's okay, the little mini ones add up steadily over the days and weeks and years.
It sounds like you shook the bozo tree long enough to find a winner!
(Thanks to Donna, I think, for the "bozo tree") imagery.
Why do those hours-long makeout sessions go away after a few years of marriage, huh?
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Did I miss something? What did Seth say?
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Donna, can you remember where that was?
Sarah- I don't know but I intend to find out now that it's been on my mind for the past 20 minutes! I'd also like to find out whatever happened to groping, I haven't been groped in a while.
Oh. Well I don't belong to the Hate group anymore so that explains why I missed it.OK, night, all!
Jenn,Gosh, my husband is still very much with the groping. It's getting so I can't walk through my kitchen without being molested in some way. It's just those hours-long makeout sessions that don't even have to lead to sex that seem to have gone by the wayside.
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“Hey honey, I still think you are attractive.”
Sarah- I know this isn't the haters group, but I hate that you get groped! I might get swatted, or poked, but it's been a long damn while since I've had a proper groping.
Oh gee thanks for that thought Nick...seeing how I am gropeless. *tear*
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Nick how long have you been married? You mean that she still gets that one to work? All I get with the friend complaining strategy is the speech that they are all going to think he is a jerk and it will all be my fault, etc...
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Keep talking ladies. This is all an elaborate strategy to get you to reveal your relationship tips so we can share them at the annual convention.(Writes "continue make out sessions/groping" in notebook, adds it to powerpoint)
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I would like to add that I am really quite please in all of your chemical imbalances. Life would be vary boring without the hoards of crazy women around to keep me company, and play with my mangina. }:-D
This is a most fascinating thread, but I keep finding myself whispering to myself: ...The GoodReads world is not the real world...In the real world, I've found there is only one piece of reliable information that one can get from a woman, and that is what she doesn't want in a man. How does one procure this information? By asking her what she does want. The answer is sure to be the exact opposite of what she actually goes for.
Am I alone in this experience? Am I showing my age?
Isaiah, What people want and what they need are two different things. What they end up getting is a whole another story!I love your name! One of my favorite boy names of all time.
You know Isaiah the Goodread's World might not be THE real world, but I think for some of us we're telling the honest truth about these things. My photo is on here, my husband is a member, so is my dearest friend from childhood, other friends, and even my mother-in-law! I thought about this earlier when I remembered my (lack of) groping talk, but then I had to figure if my m-i-l read it she would probably just laugh.I think as long as you are speaking to a confidant woman that has a decent self-esteem and is able to stand on her own without anyone else, then you are going to be able to obtain the info on what she is looking for in a man honestly. If you are talking to a 25 year old that still lives at home, has no responsibility, still hangs out at keggers, and thinks her cell phone is her life, then you are right. There is really no point in even asking her what she wants because she most likely has no clue. It might not be that she wants the opposite, she probably just hasn't dealt with enough in real life to be able to voice a list of things. In reality, don't we all just want to be with someone that will treat us with respect and be honest with us? All of the other things such as intelligence, having a good sense of humor, etc...are definitely right up there with those things but I certainly would rather date someone that was honest with me and not so funny, then a really humorous guy that lied to me.
Nick, I think you're doing yourself a disservice by not reveling in the glories of man. I read your post and started smiling as a I made a mental list of all things male that make me purr. There's anatomy, all parts. I especially like that chesty area just to the side of the neck that's good for nuzzling. It's also a good spot for listening to the deep sound of a man's laugh. Men rumble. I like that.Then there's your raspy morning face. That man scent that's impossible to bottle. That enticing Y shape so different from the curves of a female.
I frankly don't know what I'd do without you. Sure, a few may inhabit the bozo tree, but even the ones I've parted with are experiences I wouldn't have missed for the world.
I like men. A world of women only would leave me very, very sad indeed.
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By the time I was in my thirties I knew what I definitely didn't want... wondered what I was personally capable of... and had only begun to formulate what I wanted for myself.
Now... I mostly know what I want, what I am capable of, what I almost certainly cannot tolerate, and have more or less determined what is more or less unimportant in the larger scheme of things.
Of course now I also find that it all matters way, way less to me than it used to. Ah irony, you are life itself.
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Did you find any good bargains’ today? More clutter to fill your new palace?
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I have to try hard not to talk about work when I'm out. I'm conscious of it. I get what you're saying, Lorena, although I wouldn't characterize myself as particularly successful.