A Few Basic Secrets

[Daniel]

Missing Links is full of very practical and surprisingly effective tools for self-transformation and behavior modification. Because most of us lead very busy lives, I show how to proceed by tiny “Baby Steps” (B/S) and in thin “salami slices” (S/S) of time. I show how to do this in all aspects of our lives … at work, at home, as we drive, as we shop, and as we play.

A FEW BASIC SECRETS
• One of the basic secrets of self-transformation is that, before we can change a self-defeating behavior, we need to learn to minimize its « gravity, intensity and frequency ».
In my experience, trying to proceed too quickly and trying to find shortcuts usually only ends up being a huge waste of time and energy. We usually have to “bottom out” before we start to make any consistent progress.
• We also need to reduce the pressure on ourselves and have more pleasure and more fun. It is easier to make progress if we allow ourselves to make a game out of what we do.
• If we want to be truly happy, we need to learn to be satisfied with everything we do.
• We also need to learn to criticize ourselves less and empower ourselves more.
• Another secret of behavior modification is that: “frequency is more effective than quantity.”

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THANK YOU

Daniel