advice

[Ananya ⋆⭒˚｡⋆(only book updates)]

I need help with something.

[ava ⋆˙⟡]

I might be able to help what is it?

[Ananya ⋆⭒˚｡⋆(only book updates)]

Okay...umm..it is a bit complicated and the paragraph will be long because the problem is big for me. The thing is we live in a family, where our parents are strict in many things...we are not allowed to do many things but we have enough freedom and I respect that.
I have a sister, she is older than me (5 yrs)..she is in college.
A year and half ago...we went to a mall for shopping and she gave me her to hold while she went to dressing room. So, a message popped up in her phone and I found out that she is with someone..maybe in a relatioship. I was devastated. And the thing is...I found out that she-...um..it is hard to type this too..she maybe drinks or more than that who knows. I kept that inside me because if I had told my parents..they will break from inside. My mother is specially sensitive she will not be able to bear that. I am not telling this to my parents only for their sake...I don't want to see my parents break down. And yesterday I was using chatgpt for something and I guess my sister doesn't know that she is using my email to use chatgpt. And it showed everything which she asked the chatgpt and I found out that she also went to another town without telling and she was there with a boy. It was a photo which she asked the chat to turn into ghibli art. I know in many of your homes you are allowed to date but here it is not like that. And personally I don't beleive in dating until you are a mature person. So the thing is it is so much to keep inside me now..and I don't think I can confront my sister. I don't know what I should do. I can't tell my friends maybe I'm afraid they'll think bad about me idk. I can't just hold this up anymore or maybe I can but I'm suffering to keep it all inside me. I feel betrayed, angry, sad..and I don't know what else. What should I do?

[ava ⋆˙⟡]

I’m really sorry that you’re going through that. Honestly, that seems like too much to keep inside, and I feel like it might be good to tell your parents even if it’s hard, because they’ll likely find out at some point. Also, talking to your friends is a good idea, because if they’re good friends they won’t judge you for it. If you ever need anyone to talk to I’m always here <33

[Ananya ⋆⭒˚｡⋆(only book updates)]

Ik that I should tell my parents but they'll break down badly. I don't want to see them like that. And apart from that if I tell my parents everything will change immediately..like now everything is normal my sister don't even know that I know all that. After I tell my parents everything will change in an instant.

[ava ⋆˙⟡]

I get that, I’m glad you’re able to talk about it here though, and I honestly feel like if eventually you can tell her you know it might help. Sorry if this is really bad advice lol

[Ananya ⋆⭒˚｡⋆(only book updates)]

Yeah, it feels better to pour this out somewhere.

[ava ⋆˙⟡]

Yeah that’s good

[Ananya ⋆⭒˚｡⋆(only book updates)]

Thanks for hearing this all out.

[ava ⋆˙⟡]

Anytime <33

[Ananya ⋆⭒˚｡⋆(only book updates)]

So I told this to one of my best friends, and now I'm feeling better. Thanks Ava. <3

[ava ⋆˙⟡]

That’s great, your welcome :)

[ava ⋆˙⟡]

can I have some advice for something?

[₊˚⊹⋆agnes⋆⊹˚ ₊ (semi-hiatus)]

Yeah sure (I may not be useful depending on what it is)

[ava ⋆˙⟡]

Ok, basically I just need advice for counselling/therapy, because it’s supposed to work but it never has for me 😭 every single counseller I’ve been to was such a bad fit for me and I’ve been to 4 and one school counseller which was the worst fail of all time. I can’t open up to the. Even after months and when I finally opened up to one she literally cried and I felt so guilty. But I know I should try to get my mental health better because it’s… pretty bad… so it’s important but after so many bad experiences I’m scared to try agai

[ava ⋆˙⟡]

Ok thanks! Yeah, I think all I tried were talk therapy even though they all said they did all the different types but yeah I’ll try that

[₊˚⊹⋆agnes⋆⊹˚ ₊ (semi-hiatus)]

Help I just came out to my best friend in the world and we are on WhatsApp using view once photos but she’s taken like 5-6 min so far and she opened it at 22 past and I’m scared and overthinking everything I also told her that my mental health isn’t too good right now I’m so scared

[₊˚⊹⋆agnes⋆⊹˚ ₊ (semi-hiatus)]

She replied wish me luck guys

[ava ⋆˙⟡]

Good luck!

[₊˚⊹⋆agnes⋆⊹˚ ₊ (semi-hiatus)]

She supports me!!!!!!! And understands that it’s hard to figure things out and stuff
Also she said I can talk to her whenever but also if I needed to to talk to someone who can help abd what ever
I just said thank you for supporting me and stuff abd that it’s not bad enough to talk to someone about it but thatnk you

[ava ⋆˙⟡]

Thats great!!

[₊˚⊹⋆agnes⋆⊹˚ ₊ (semi-hiatus)]

Ik I was so scared for a sec cause she took like 10 min to respond