A guy (I need help)

[⋆. 𐙚Elin𐙚 {Sturniolos Version} (Semi-Hiatus bc school😭)]

So basically I met this guy back in December but I never spoke to him again until I starting liking him late February of this year and got his number from a friend and started texting me. He wouldn’t really answer but then he started answering more and we started hanging out at lunch at school and we would have our lil cute (almost romantic) moments. Then around late march he sent me a text basically saying he can’t have gf because he wants to focus more on basketball (his life’s purpose I his mind istg) and he said he thought I was really cool and wants to still be friends. We worked it out and we were “friends” but I still wanted to try to date h eventually. Then he started playing basketball at lunch and I only got to talk to him after school if I texted him. Then me and my friend slowly started to show up where he would go for lunch so I could talk to him then me and him were officially “hanging out” again but my friend would stay w us so it wouldn’t get awkward. Then he started flirting a bit more and even calling me beautiful and coming up to me in the last day of school w no shirt on to say hi (it was a pool party thing and I was in my bikini) but now that summers started I’ve asked to call or play Fortnite and he’ll just say “maybe” but never get back to me so idk if he jus doesn’t like me and im delusional but idk if he likes me or what but there’s my story…

[♥ Alma ♥]

girl take what im abt to say with a grain of salt for 2 reasons im bi and iv never had any romantic feelings for men that arent fictional or famous
please you could do so much better if hes not putting in effort to talk to outside of school where you guys HAVE to run into each other than hes only flirting either bc hes akward or bc he feels obligatied if you're not 100 percent sure he wants to make an effort to talk to you outside of social situations you guys happen to end up in the same place at the same time then im sorry to say this but he doesnt want you ever heard the phrase if he wants to he will guys will only go out of their way to talk to a girl if he really feels something for her now i might have said i dont have experince with guys HOWEVER im experiencing the same issue w my gf? my friend idk what to call her where she not only barely answers my texts doesnt give me any explanation for anything and the worst part is im so inraptured and in love with her iv written her so many letters pouring my heart out too her and any info i want i basically have to pry out of her and iv done everything for her iv given up so much my time my effort my money my head she lives in my head every second of every day and she gives me almost nothing in return and iv been waiting to hear an answer as to if she wants to be my gf and its been wanna guess 3 months....... no im not joking i really wish i was anyway i have experience with this kind of thing also sorry for the mini rant lol

[Riedarh]

Both of you deserve better!

[ella]

Alma is right a guy really doesn't care if he ain't putting in effort to text you, those little things

[ella]

but also putting your whole being into a hobbies or sport can ruin you bc basketball isn't life it shouldn't be your only thing it's giving teenage movie

[Bella (Rhysand’s Version) (School Semi-Hiatus)]

I can say from limited experience, yall shouldn’t be chasing anyone. It’s the one race you’ll never win. If they don’t engage with you and you feel like you’re putting in more than you’re receiving, then you should try to move on. I js went through a similar thing recently. It’s not easy, but it’s better when it’s over. Good luck guys!! ❤️❤️

[Ivangelina]

@ElinLovesSturniolos and @Alma both you guys are putting in more effort than the other person. I'd say, if somebody wants to be with you or has the same interest as you have in them they would have made you a priority. if they're just playing games... you deserve much better. IMO since I don't exactly know the entire thing I'm just gonna say don't ever put in effort to some who do not value you as much as you value them. never forget your self worth

[mylittle•dove]

i'm sorry honey, but i just think that he doesn't know what he wants if he gives you on and off attention. you deserve so much better, because he isn't even doing the bare minimum. sending you loads of hugs, hope everything turns out well for you xoxo🫶🏼🫶🏼

[♥ Alma ♥]

ty for the support yall r awesome :)

[ella]

@ferye oh yes I saw a quote about that