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Bella (Rhysand’s Version) (School Semi-Hiatus)
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May 17, 2025 04:18PM
So basically, my parents haven’t let me date since forever, and when I’ve tried without their knowledge, they’ve threatened to homeschool me. I don’t like lying to them and it makes me really guilty, but I don’t think it’s fair because I feel ready enough to be in a relationship. In the past my dad has guilt tripped me and made me feel bad by saying that I made my mom cry and stuff. I don’t know how to deal with it. What tips and stuff do you guys have, and does anyone else have dating restrictions from their parents?
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I just die inside there's no way around strict parents
I liked a dude my junior year he was a senior and we went on like two dates one solo then one with a friend and her bf (I'm surprised my parents even let me do that) but he wanted me to be his gf. but my parents are strict. and there is a difference between going on dates and being somebody's gf or bf. also my parents have this idea of "dating around". like wth would I date around if I like this one person. that didn't go anywhere (I lost feelings). I'm 19 now and I have literally no friends and no social life (I only keep in contact with one girl she's still in hs) never been in a relationship. like if I'm doing nothing with my life how the hell do I meet with people.
oh my god that sounds terrible!! You poor girl. I also have dating restrictions but definitely not that strict. I don't know how your family takes confrontation but maybe you could try to talk to them about dating and how you are ready. Talk to them about how you are very grateful that they are looking out for you but you need to live *your,* not theirs. Mention the good things you've done and how you appreciate the opportunities your parents have given you. Say that this is only a small thing to ask and it wont change the way you act towards them or your love towards them (even if it might be a little lie or you don't mean it.) To sum it up, just talk to them. listen to what they have to say then make your points. you can take my advice or not but i seriously wish you luck and that i hope your parents understand.
I'm lowkey in a similar situation and I genuinely have to sike myself up to even ask to go out ):
Thank you everybody!! I think they don’t let me date because they think I’m too young and that it’ll distract me. I don’t think I could really talk to them about it because my dad would just get mad, but I might try one day! I appreciate everyone for trying to help!! ❤️❤️
if you are younger than 15 I feel like that's valid because nobody needs to be dating when they're like 13 in my opinion
YEA, I feel the same way im 13 and I think if you are aroun my age you should stick to just having a lot of friends.My parents are like my BFF I tell them everything so they are not strict and wouldnt be mad at me for that...
My dad is really strict and won’t let me but my mom is a little more lenient and lets me so basically I just have to lie to my dad and I say I’m going out with friends he tracks my location so I have to tell him where I’m going, but as long as he doesn’t go through my phone(which I just delete the texts) it’s all fine so if you’re willing to go more sneaky route, I guess I would say delete texts make your friends kind of an alibi
My parent only let me date cuz they know there's no chance of me getting a bf/gf anyways lmao
im in the same boat i’ve dated 2 people (which wasn’t exactly good for me, one girl and one boy.. my mom made me ghost the girl and my mom did not know about the boy and i got myself out of that situation, im \freshly/ 15 \my birthday is today actually/ so when i was dating these people i was 14. now i know everyone says this but i genuinely feel like i am mature enough for a relationship.. (now looking back.. it was only 5 months ago but ive grown more now.) anyway my parents are OMG strict, my dad once said “she’ll be 45 years old when i finally let her date” brother 😭
im homeschooled and have no way of meeting new people so he honestly shouldn’t be worried. (i know he’s only worried because he doesn’t want me to get pregnant, which i know sounds really weird and overprotective and stuff like that but i know it comes from a place of love and affection, he “doesn’t want me to end up like his sister”
honestly i feel so bad for you, because strict parents suck. ik what it’s like to want to experience all of these supposed “teen activities” yk? i wanna go to parties and have relationships but my parents won’t let me.
i’d say try to talk to them (but omg i understand if you can’t because my family isn’t the talking type either. back then when i was so sad all the time because my mom made me dump my gf, i was crying and thinking “ill ask her, why did you make me do that?” but when it comes down to it my family isn’t like that)
i hope you can figure a way around that girl, honestly i get it. lots of love babe 💋
me to girl, me too (except i am currently dating someone and they think i am/ anybody my age is too young and i should be "focused on school" like it affects anything)
Ugh me too! They won’t let me date until I find a job “for my own good”
Ik yall said that like being at least 15 is important. I’m 14 and I’m turning 15 in like 2 months. I feel like I’m mentally ready to be dating people, and I do good in school with straight A’s, so that wouldn’t be a concern for me. My parents said I have to wait until I’m 16, so I guess it’s not that long, but I don’t think it can come fast enough. There’s a kid I’ve liked for multiple years, and nothings gonna happen because of my parent’s rules. Thanks again guys. 😞😞
Ferye Archeron (Rhys’ Version) wrote: "Ik yall said that like being at least 15 is important. I’m 14 and I’m turning 15 in like 2 months. I feel like I’m mentally ready to be dating people, and I do good in school with straight A’s, so ..."I say give it a shot
Im 15 and ive only ever dated one person and my parents didn't know about it (it was a girl and I'm in the closet). whenever I mentioned her they assumed she was a friend. Their advice on dating is that I shouldn't date until after I graduate because, as my dad says, "my mom didn't date people until after she graduated" which is a lie she had multiple boyfriends in high school but I say if you have a good relationship with your parents talk to them about wanting to date. (I've only dated 1 person so not very good at advice)
