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Hey, so I might as well just pop in. I'm the Gemma person, I made a separate post about this, she just did it more descriptively. I assure you we're not making this up and not using this for like clout or whatever. It was just a coincidence that we posted about the same situation
ngl it kinda sounds like shes trying to get attention. theres a difference between struggling but it seems like shes making a show about it
maybe she is genuinely struggling but it also seems like she's doing things on purpose to make you worried about her
I think she’s trying to use u I mean if she is asking u to buy her things then she totally wants something from u and if she was found by a bridge but like not looking like she was gonna jump? I mean come on girl it’s like ur not gonna kill ur self, i think she was just trying to get attention hoping u would post bout it and then she would be the one 2 get the clout. I know someone like this who tried to sLit her wrists in the bathroom at school but now she’s like fine she’s getting help and the depression is gone. I think Jess might have depression but not 2 the point of KILL-ING herself for it! I think she’s just an attention seeker and u need 2 drop her. Still stay in contact like don’t block her but dont refer 2 her as ur friend and then maybe she will learn trying to kill u self and asking a lot from people is not how u get friends
Rita wrote: "I think she’s trying to use u I mean if she is asking u to buy her things then she totally wants something from u and if she was found by a bridge but like not looking like she was gonna jump? I me..."Well she doesn't have GR so she wouldn't know that we posted this, so lucky she can't use us for clout, and this isn't posted anywhere else. She didn't look like she was going to jump because she had collapsed on the bridge. And yeah we've talked about dropping her I just have no idea how to without seeming like a jerk
A little unnecessary update: we told the school councilors idk what their going to do about it (they know her well so like idk how they are going to talk to her) but they told us if she does something like that again just call the cops. We should've done that yesterday but it was just so overwhelming that we didn't when we should've.
I would like to put my (shorter) version:Ry texted me about the situation and then me and her texted about what to do. 20 minutes we were on our way (her mom driving her and my dad driving me). When we arrived she was by the bridge collapsed because she had been walking for three hours before and her legs gave out. We rushed up to her and we talk for like an hour before she went home with Ry.
And for the May 25th thing, she has explicitly told us she was going to off herself on that day, she put it on her discord. She said she wrote letters (I haven't seen them) but last week she said she was joking but then she pulled this so idk. Yes she has asked me for stuff to but I don't really have much so she's usually asking Ry instead of me. Idk anymore
the thing is why would she ask you to buy you stuff is she was planning to off herself
Supposedly she wanted to live at that point she did stop asking for things eventually, idk, Ry might have a better explanation (let me text her)
Honestly I have no idea, but that whole situation sounds awful and so, so hard and I'm sorry both of you have had to go through this.
it’s all so confusing. i don’t know what to believe anymore. me and grace have talked multiple times about whether or not she’s serious and if she’s a good friend. at this point, i’m thinking about dropping her after school ends. i can’t handle being used like that.i’ve been used before by someone who i thought actually cared about me, but she didn’t. and it was a family member to makes things worse.
i think it’s better to just slowly split ways. what do yall think?
yeah i think u should, bc as much as she could be struggling you have to prioritize yourself sometimes
✿Della✿ wrote: "Honestly I have no idea, but that whole situation sounds awful and so, so hard and I'm sorry both of you have had to go through this."Thank you <333
lilly ♡ (busy) wrote: "yeah i think u should, bc as much as she could be struggling you have to prioritize yourself sometimes"Thanks I'll defiantly be spacing myself from her :)
☁︎-Grace-☁︎ wrote: "Rita wrote: "I think she’s trying to use u I mean if she is asking u to buy her things then she totally wants something from u and if she was found by a bridge but like not looking like she was gon..."Yeah I have a friend like that she is such a jerk and she is super rude and mean and we (meaning me and my friends) don’t know how to drop her. And I’m sorry for saying that she was using this space for clout if she was collapsed on the bridge maybe she’s genuinely depressed. To drop my toxic friend it’s almost the end of the school year so we are not really gonna do anything but next year me and my friends are giving her 2 weeks to find a new place to sit before I’m talking 2 the principals and getting her out of my life (if u can’t tell I really don’t like her)
i have a friend, let’s call her Jess, and i think she’s using me and my other friend, let’s call her Gemma.
so i met Jess at the beginning of this school year in my tech theatre class. she was quiet and shy, but we bonded over the fact that we both need accommodations for school. she has a touch of autism, and i have bad anxiety, which aren’t the same, but both of us require accommodations.
we started talking, becoming friends, and getting comfortable with each other. around november, she wore a short-sleeve shirt and i saw scars all up her arm. they went from her wrist to her shoulder on both arms. there were at least 50 per arm (not an exaggeration). i noticed one that wasn’t healed, so i gently asked, “are you okay?” and she said “yeah, i’m fine. that was from two days ago. i was stressed, but i’m fine now.” and she said it in a happy way.
i thought it was odd she was happy, but didn’t say anything else to not trigger her. as we went on with school, i noticed she was becoming more vocal to the class. the kids in our class are awful. they say the n word, put lead in the chrome books (which almost set the auditorium on fire), and have done countless other things i can’t be bothered to lay out.
well, Jess started saying things like “shut the f up”, “i hate you”, “i wish your mom sw@llowed you”, and just cussing them out. i kept telling her to stop because she was gonna get in trouble.
the scars kept coming back and i kept asking her about it, she always brushed it off. she’s been bullied before, which caused the depression and SHing to happen in the first place. she also has a bad home life. her and her mom fight a lot to where she doesn’t want to go home.
fast forward to about two months ago. i was leaving the school parking lot, and she called me and asked for a ride. i have no problem with that, so i picked her up and dropped her off at her house. i also pick up Gemma because we go to the gym together after school. Jess started waiting where Gemma waits so i could drop her off at her house. the problem is that i have three people to drop off now. since the day i got my drivers license, i’ve dropped off my best friend at her house, and then i started going to the gym with Gemma, and then Jess started riding in my car with me without asking.
it started using up a lot of my gas and caused me and Gemma to be late to the gym (which, if there’s any gym girlies here, you know that after 6:00 all the machines are getting taken up, and the gym is packed). we talked to her and said i wasn’t gonna be able to drive her anymore because i have after school things i have to do. she went back to riding with her sister.
fast forward a week later, she told me and Gemma that she’s gonna 🪦 herself on May 25th, which is three days after school ends. me and Gemma were freaking out, thinking she was actually gonna do it. we told her to think about her cat, her mom, her sister, us, her bf, and she wouldn’t respond to us. right after telling us this, she asked me if i could buy her stuff.
i was confused because it was such a switch in conversation. she started asking me to buy her coffee, bandages, liquid band-aids, and other stuff.
me and Gemma started suspecting she did that so that we would feel guilty for saying no. a week later, Jess came back to us and said she’s not gonna do it anymore. we were relieved, but she kept asking for us to buy her things. she started asking if me and Gemma could pay for her gym membership so she could come with us. she asked if she could sit in the lobby while we work out (which she can’t because she will be told to leave for loitering). she started being weird about stuff. she would randomly text me and ask if i could drop her off someone random.
now, yeaterday she was having a rough day. i dropped her off at her house and went home. around 8:30, she called me. she said she’s on a walk. it’s pitch black outside, and she’s on a walk. i asked why and she said because she needed to. i’m thinking she’s walking a street from her house, but no. she informs me she’s by a bridge. she said she called me because she needed a distraction.
i started asking her to leave and go home. i was scared she was gonna jump. i begged her to go home, but she refused. then, she said “(situationship) is calling me, i gotta go” and hung up before i could say anything.
i texted her and asked if she was okay, but she wasn’t answering. i texted her for an hour, trying to get a. hold of her, and she still wouldn’t respond. her read receipts are on, so i could see she was reading my messages.
i was freaking out, thinking she jumped. i texted Gemma and explained what happened. me and Gemma kept trying to get a hold of her, but nothing.
i finally got a hold of Jess and asked where she was. she gave me a vague answer, but it was two streets from
my house, so i drove there. it’s 10 at night by this time.
i find her sitting on the ground, by the road, in the dark. i jump out of the car and run to her and hug her. Gemma arrives and hugs her too, and we start asking her questions.
she came back to my house to stay because she didn’t feel safe at home.
but now i’m thinking, why wouldn’t she answer our messages? we were clearly in distress, thinking we were gonna arrive to see her b0dy in the water. we spammed her over and over again. why wouldn’t she answer? did she want us to come to her, so didn’t answer to make us look for her? did she want to test our friendship?
i’m rethinking our entire friendship. its toxic, i know. but me and Gemma can’t leave her when she’s clearly struggling.
so, i guess the question is: is Jess using me and Gemma?