How to get over a guy? (Help pls)

[☁︎Grace☁︎]

Summary: About six hours ago, I broke up with my ex-boyfriend because my parents forced me to. I know it's been less than a day and that I will be healing for a while because seven months isn't just something that is easy to forget. And most ppl are like find a red flag. I tried. If I found a red flag that was just too much I would've broken up with him. There's tips on how to get over a break up when the guy cheated on you, when he was toxic, when he just didn't love you anymore, but there seems to be none for "We were both happy but was forced to break up." So yeah, I cried all day yesterday, and I feel my mental health taking a toll again. I know I can't just forget right now, or maybe ever, but some tips on how to heal and forget. Please. Thank you. (Just to clarify I have suck around them before but this time I gave up because he doesn't deserve to be led on)

[maryanne]

tbh it’s your life and I get u probably want to make your parents happy but you should focus on your happiness since it’s your life and not theirs doesn’t mean they don’t want ur best interests but there’s different ways of going about that instead of forcing you to end things with someone. but honestly time and keeping yourself busy with friends or school/work is what heals. I hope something works out for u!!

[Blairy]

Same as Marianne said.
Other than that: cry. A lot. Get all the emotions out. Try to keep yourself busy. Study, read, meet friends, go for a walk. Just don't watch any romcoms :')
Hope you're feeling better soon!

[katerinoula]

nvm just read the comment — i’d say keep it secret from ur parents. it’s ur love life, u can do what u want they can’t force u to do anything regarding that

if you guys really really love eachother then you’ll be able to surpass this barrier

[⋆˚୨ৎ˚⋆ Kim ⋆˚୨ৎ˚⋆]

The one thing I’ve learned about love from my parents was that if you and the other person were meant to be together, like you guys were actual soulmates, you will always find a way back to each other no matter the circumstances. True love always finds a way! Maybe you guys will get back together sometime in the future.

For the time being, cry and allow yourself to be sad because keeping those emotions inside won’t help. Take as long as you need to; I think I cried almost every day for a month after my first breakup. And like Blairy said, keep yourself busy! Study, read a book, hang out with friends, watch some shows or movies, do some retail therapy, work out, etc.

[☁︎Grace☁︎]

And what if everything I do just reminds me of him. Music, teddy bears, thunderstorms, hoodies, hecking snow, I look EVERYWHERE all I see him or things that slowly lead me to him

[katerinoula]

*~Grace~* wrote: "And what if everything I do just reminds me of him. Music, teddy bears, thunderstorms, hoodies, hecking snow, I look EVERYWHERE all I see him or things that slowly lead me to him"

Then girl GO GET YOUR MAN. I’m so sorry for what I’m about to say but genuinely fuck what your parents say. It is YOUR decision whether or not to be with him, and despite what you think, they have no say over who you are with. They can suggest, they can’t demand. If you want him then go get him girl. Allow urself to feel everything ur feeling rn bc ur so valid, but go get him, even if u keep it secret. Nothing good will come out of a connection like that being severed.

[☁︎Grace☁︎]

It's really not that easy. Plus I already did that before. TWICE. I'm not trying to be rude but I'm genuinely so done with a lot right now and I don't know if it's due to the situation, maybe my mental health, or just because life sucks

[Luli]

can i ask why your parents dont want yall to be together? you dont have to answer but maybe it would help us understand more about the situation

[☁︎Grace☁︎]

Luli wrote: "can i ask why your parents dont want yall to be together? you dont have to answer but maybe it would help us understand more about the situation"

A) We're too young
B) Love isn't real at my age (I'm a sophomore in high school)
C) I'm unlovable (I'm not joking they said that)
D) They don't like his family (his family isn't really stable)
E) Prob. religious reasons too

[Luli]

ok im not quite sure what sophomore´s age is cause im not from the US but if im not mistaken its 16 or so? i understand how u can be young and all but that doesnt mean the love isnt real. i met my boyfriend when we were 16 almost 17, here we are at 21 still together. if theres consistency and effort why wouldnt the love be real? youre not unlovable, dont let anyone not even your parents (who shouldnt think of you that way first of) tell you you arent worthy of love, only you determine your value.

[☁︎Grace☁︎]

Thank you for that, it feels better to know that seven months actually meant something

[Laramie]

my best friend is literally going through this same thing as you. and hers happened yesterday as well. except for her, her boyfriend's parents are the problem and it's for religious reasons.

and honestly, I agree with Kim. if you two are truly meant to be then believe this is just a phase. and it'll surely pass. take it as a test. honestly, after reading what your parents reasons are (particularly the third one), I'd say EFF them and you should just go behind their backs and keep dating him. but it won't bode well for your mental health. so for now, you should focus on healing. a day at a time. allow yourself to think about him, cry it all out then pick yourself back up again.

I believe you can pull through this, love. just as I believe in my best friend. you two will be fine. I'm sending you my love and hugs. 🫶🏽💞

[☁︎Grace☁︎]

That sounds a bit too familiar, that actually kinda freaking me out. Not in a bad way, just, you know. What are the chances. Going behind their backs twice is how we got to this point yesterday. I had to delete his contact and my snap account yesterday in front of my parents and I deleted his number too. I should've memorized it but I didn't, or maybe I shouldn't I don't know anymore. I miss him so much right now. But thank you, and good luck to your friend

[gaia☆]

honestly if you two love each other you should explain to him the situation and maybe get back together. you surely aren't unlovable, no one is and don't ever believe it if someone tells you. i also think that in some cases it is possible to experience true love at such a young age, and it sounds like yours is.
i get that you don't wanna disappoint your parents, but if this situation hurts you and they don't wanna listen you, then you should just do whatever makes you feel happy, and honestly they should be happy to see you happy

[☁︎Grace☁︎]

We've actually talked about this moment for months and it just, shattered yesterday. I couldn't do it, I don't want to lead him on

[☁︎Grace☁︎]

I hate how it ended I regret it so much. Everything hurts. I think about him almost every second I'm not occupied. Honestly? I miss him. But isn't not the sweet "I miss him" its like a stab in the heart "I miss him"

[cozybabe.reads]

it's your life. they done lived their lives already. I hate how parents always try to control our lives omg

[Kendra]

For one your parents should say things like your unlovable in the first place but being someone who that exact message was instilled in my head my whole life at some point you have to think about you and even if you deleted the number I would maybe like get a friend to get it for you have them save it and then write it down somewhere important you can save his name as something random (like a friends name or something) explain the situation to him and if he truly wants to be with you he will understand also even tho your like 15,16 or even 17 anyone is capable of loving (Im 17) and know this I don't know how your parents are but I do know that mine are strict and sometimes you have to be sneaky to do things you should be able to do at your age. I really wish the best for you and hope things work out in the end for you and him you deserve it

[☁︎Grace☁︎]

Kendra wrote: "For one your parents should say things like your unlovable in the first place but being someone who that exact message was instilled in my head my whole life at some point you have to think about y..."

I just want to move on now. I tried for months, this has happened before. It wasn't fair to him. I didn't want to keep worrying about him. He deserved so much better than what he got with me. I did my sneaking, and I got caught more than once. I just want to move on by now. Maybe I'm just saying this because I'm hurt

[☁︎Grace☁︎]

Unnecessary update but I've tired to get in contact with him and nothing. I'm just so done and I just want to move on. I need something else other than to cry it out. Because I've run out of tears by now but I have been nothing but anxiety ridden for the last 24 hours. I almost passed out yesterday because of that reason. I need something to help me keep going. I tried to distract myself but everything I do suddenly just goes back to him.

[Kendra]

*~Grace~* wrote: "Unnecessary update but I've tired to get in contact with him and nothing. I'm just so done and I just want to move on. I need something else other than to cry it out. Because I've run out of tears ..."
I would try to hang out with friends and do things that are distracting and that keep your mind off of him maybe try some new hobbies or something