how to get over someone u never dated

[lipa✮⋆˙]

i fear this is haunting me 🧍‍♀️

[ella]

I need background story

[ella]

bc there has to be some connection even if you haven't dated if it's bothering you so much

[annabelle]

oof babe ik what u mean but idk how to help

[annabelle]

context?

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lipa✮⋆˙ wrote: "i fear this is haunting me 🧍‍♀️"
A little background would be helpful Lipa.

[Yumile]

Some context would help Lipa but in my experience, getting over someone you never dated is harder than someone you did. The "what if's" and "should have been" haunt you like nobody's business! It takes time to get over them, ngl, but you eventually do. It helps to not think about them hard as that may be and if y'all are in each other's faces too often because you run in the same circles, avoid em.

Just try those and find something to distract yourself with when you start thinking of them.

P.S It'll be harder if say this person is a friend that has no clue you like em 😭

[lipa✮⋆˙]

i'm sorryy i'll give u some background, so...me and this guy have been friends for a long time and i liked him but never really told him bcs i didn't want to ruin our friendship. Some months ago he and this girl started dating and i got a bit sad bcs i couldn't help but wonder the "what if i had told him i liked him" and sometimes i still think about it bcs what if...he at some point liked me too and i didn't know?
we are still friends and i ofc respect his relationship but at the back of my mind i still think about those questions sometimes.

[Eddy]

I had a huge crush on this person and I just got to point where I was sick of being sad. And then one day I just suddenly noticed he was actually really annoying. He's still a friend and a nice guy but I still find those annoying bits annoying. Idk if this helps?

[ela ꩜.‘✶]

The “what ifs” is the worst part,im having the same thing,i thought he was the right person cus he was acting like he was in love with me but then he said that he didnt get over his ex and we stopped talking😭😭

[annabelle]

oh okay so he's like the one who could have been. that's hard girl ngl. I would say there's not much you can do, but try not to dwell too much on what ifs cause like that doesn't help anything >3
life is what it is and this is sooo lame so i'm sorry but you just have to roll w it. honestly from experience you'll move on, even if it takes a while.
I'm sorry though, I totally understand how this feels and also i'm so proud of you for being respectful of his relationship!! I mean ofc that's the way it should be but so many people are just like whatevs.

[Yumile]

For some reason, I kinda guessed it was a friend sorta situation 😭 I'm sorry the what if's are haunting you girl because that just sucks absolute balls!!! I'm proud of you for respecting their relationship 🥹 I figure being around him must hurt quite a bit so try not to be in his presence too much or especially when he's with his girlfriend. Does he give you any signs of perhaps feeling a smidge of what you feel for him or is he just blind to it all?

[lipa✮⋆˙]

thank u all for the advice <33

[Yumile]

Pleasure 💜💗