Friend help HELP PLEASE

[Hailey]

So my friend and I got into an argument and it was about the same thing it was always about so we’re saying like all the same stuff and I guess my bsf got her sister and her sister said “ you will not talk to my sister like that, I will talk to your mom, y’all need a break.”
I immediately couldn’t breathe and had to call my mom for help I couldn’t breathe at all and so I started talking to my mom and I read her all the texts and she said we were having a healthy argument and nothing either of us said was to bad so she didn’t know what happened either and so now I’m pissed cause my friend talks bad about her sister so I don’t know why she jumped in but it really upset me and I have serious mental issues idk let me know what you think

[Scout (shouta aizawa’s version) ੈ✩‧₊˚]

i’m sorry about your friend. it sounds like you had an anxiety attack :( I get them pretty frequently so I totally understand. If you start to feel like you can’t breathe again, try to distract yourself or ask somebody for help. it also sounds like your friend isn’t very nice tbh so maybe try distancing yourself from her. i hope this helps and i hope you feel better <3

[Scout (shouta aizawa’s version) ੈ✩‧₊˚]

i’m sorry about your friend. it sounds like you had an anxiety attack :( I get them pretty frequently so I totally understand. If you start to feel like you can’t breathe again, try to distract yourself or ask somebody for help. it also sounds like your friend isn’t very nice tbh so maybe try distancing yourself from her. i hope this helps and i hope you feel better <3

[Scout (shouta aizawa’s version) ੈ✩‧₊˚]

oops idk why it sent twice

[Hailey]

Thank you and I’ve had people tell me yo drop her but this time last year she dropped me cause I was “ pushing to throat and making her feelings, feel invalid” but anytime I try to help her she pushes me way but we re became friends in may and she had the same complaints today but I’m slowly realizing she does that to me not me to her like not the pushing down the throat thing but the feelings. And idk her sister really made me upset cause I didn’t say anything bad and she made me feel horrible like I used to (⚠️trigger warning ⚠️ ) sh ⚠️and struggle with being social to anyone that isn’t my friends and I really love my friends mom and I’m hoping she doesn’t hate me I hate when people don’t like me I try to be perfect ig

[Hailey]

And I even apologized cause whenever I have breaks with my “friends” I always end up reaching out and taking responsibility so I can have my friend back and my friend is also in a bad mental place but last year she didn’t talk to me for months and she was my only friend so I would text her a bunch and no response for months till she called me and said she’s didn’t wanna be friends like she didn’t even give me time to assess the issues idk I think I have trauma from the friendship that’s more deep rooted like my bio mom abandoned me for a couple years and ever since I was a kid I would be myself and my friends would talk meanly about me behind my back and say they were talking about dogs keep in mind I was like 6 but I still knew they weren’t

[A]

i think from what you said that you are accidentally hurting each other, so i agree with scout, maybe you should take a break and focus on yourselfs and your mental healths and reach out again when you feel ready. i would talk to her and explain how she makes you feel sometimes and try to talk things out and also see what she feels about your relationship. i think in this case comunication is key, and even though arguments are sometimes healthy, you should maybe revaluate your relationship and how it affects your and your friends mental health. i hope you feel better girl!

[lilly ♡ (semi-hiatus)]

i had the same exact issue with this girl i used to be friends with and everytime we got into an argument her sister would text me and say a bunch of mean stuff to me and how i'm not allowed to talk to her sister like that etc and then my friends cousin also started texting me stuff like that to the point where i couldnt focus on a lot anymore.

if you dont like the way her sister talks to you definitely tell your friend cause it sounds like its giving you lots of anxiety and your friend should know how her sister is causing that

[Hailey]

Thank you all of you

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I’m sorry about all of this ml☹️💕 I really hope it works out if you ever want to vent you can always dm me💕

[Hailey]

update
I texted her on her birthday the 14th. I sent paragraphs tryna tell her about how I love being friends snd appreciate her and our friendship and wanna work it out and let’s not ruin the friendship over stupid stuff and teenage hormones (when we got into a argument the period rage was heavyyyy) and happy birthday blah blah etc. and she’s hasn’t answered at alll like idk what to do part of me wants to text her but my parents keep telling me to leave her alone but like UGGGGGGHHHH it’s hard like im pissed cause her sisters way older then me and yelled at me and so that’s a reason and then her not answering when I’m tryna work it out idkkkkk

[lilly ♡ (semi-hiatus)]

i understand u tryna work it out, i would too . but u can't force her to want too . maybe smth came up and she hasn't had the time to respond but over a week is sketchy. shes and plenty of time to respond. if she can't answer you trying to fix your friendship then she's not worth it

[Hailey]

So much has happened… so first she’s didn’t talk
To me for 3 months and as soon as I got over it she wanted to talk and basically trashed me and said some pretty messed up things and said when I was having suicidal thoughts I was manipulating her cause I said I did?? But among of many other things she was pretty much spending 10 minutes bullying me and then said my friend showed her what I had texted her about her and all I said was “if she says she doesn’t wanna be friends ima be like b!tch we haven’t been for months” I know it isn’t great but it isn’t horrible and I guess she had said something behind my back idk my friend wouldn’t tell me and so my parents made me block them both and told the girls mom and she was apologetic very much and I love her mom so it sucked having her feel bad for her daughter’s actions but anyways I feel like theres more but I’ve just blocked it out. but now I have zero friends besides a girl I’ve known since like birth and we don’t talk much and she lives far away so yeah

[Autumn]

Well everything does happen for a reason but keep in mind that for some people (including me) having some time away from the people that where causing stress and axienty even if you think they are good for you and have known them and feel like you understand them and you can try to make it so you get your desired result but somethings having time away from those people, you can have moments to better understand yourself. and when I lost some people I thought were my friends I became closer with myself and than with some people who actually care about me and I learned that life is short and it's not worth wasting with people who only make life less enjoyable
Hope you grow and heal girly 🫰