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Nov 16, 2024 01:40AM
So we're having our school's annual day in Dec, and two people from our class are supposed to do the anchoring and ever since I was a kid, I dreamt of being the anchor on school's annual day, but sadly, during the selection, I stuttered really bad, messed up whatever I was supposed to say and did not become the anchor. I'm upset abt this and I don't want such a thing to happen again. I wanna be more confident because even during normal lectures, when the teacher asks us any question and I know the answer, I don't have the confidence to stand up in front of everyone. I just overthink a lot which leads to me being shy and awkward. So, any tips??
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Building Confidence 101 Confidence is like a muscle. It grows stronger with use, and the fact that you’re reflecting on this shows how much you care about growing. It’s okay to feel upset about not being selected this time; it just means this dream matters to you. But remember, even the best anchors and public speakers have faced moments of doubt. Mistakes aren’t failures. They’re stepping stones. Instead of letting one experience define your abilities, see it as part of your journey toward success. Each time you practice speaking, you’re building the foundation for confidence.
Start small. Speaking up doesn’t have to begin on stage; it can start in comfortable spaces, like chatting with friends or answering one question in class. Each small step builds momentum. At home, you can practice anchoring in front of a mirror or record yourself. Hearing your voice and seeing yourself speak helps you become familiar with the process, and over time, the nervousness will ease.
Visualization is also a powerful tool. Imagine yourself standing confidently in front of an audience, speaking clearly and being received warmly. Positive mental rehearsal trains your brain to approach public speaking with assurance.
Nervousness often leads to shallow breathing, which can amplify anxiety. Focus on deep, steady breaths to calm your mind and stabilize your voice. Combine this with a simple confidence ritual, like repeating a mantra to remind yourself of your capability and worth. You might also try connecting with your audience by focusing on a few friendly faces during a presentation. Their supportive energy can help anchor you, making the experience feel less intimidating.
Celebrate your progress, no matter how small. Whether you answered a question in class or practiced anchoring at home, each step forward is worth recognizing. Confidence isn’t about being perfect; it’s about embracing your unique voice and showing up authentically. Your passion and determination are what truly captivate people. Keep practicing, keep believing, and trust that when the opportunity comes again, you’ll step up with grace and strength, showing everyone the incredible anchor you’re meant to be.
Quick daily writing affirmations to boost female confidence:
"I am strong, capable, and deserving of every success I achieve."
"My voice matters, and I have the courage to speak my truth."
"I embrace my unique qualities and trust in my abilities."
"I release self-doubt and welcome confidence into my life."
"I am worthy of respect, love, and every opportunity that comes my way."
"My past does not define me; my potential is limitless."
"I radiate self-assurance and inspire others with my strength."
"I choose progress over perfection and celebrate my growth."
"I am fearless in the face of challenges and trust in my resilience."
"Every day, I become more confident and empowered to pursue my dreams."
Writing these affirmations each morning or evening can help rewire your mindset for positivity and confidence.
Motivational Speaker: Mel Robbins: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kMtNk...
Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/4E5...
Confidence Playlist: (My friends feel more confident after listening to this playlist.) https://open.spotify.com/playlist/5cy...
Books:
1. Untamed by Glennon Doyle
2. The Confidence Code: The Science and Art of Self-Assurance—What Women Should Know by Katty Kay and Claire Shipman
3. You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life by Jen Sincero
Movies:
Legally Blonde (2001)
Wonder Woman (2017)
The Devil Wears Prada (2006)
if your interested in a deep dive of this subject when I have time I will upload it to: https://audio.com/aquatic-misfit
that's hard cus I can relate public speaking isnt my thing and in class if I knew the answer I would never say it or raise my hand. one thing I would say is take some breaths and really focus on that before whatever you're doing and take your time. no need to rush. and also people and school really don't care. if somebody else was presenting I never cared honestly so don't overthink about other people.
confidence is all about trust in yourself, if you trust yourself then you can do anything, you need to pretend you own the place, you have to tell yourself "im beautiful, i can do anthing" and i know that sounds cliche but if you say it enough times youll belive it
Practice a lot. I know most people say that since you're nervous it won't help, but it really will. Also if it's something you really care about you'll eventually shake off the nervousness.I'm sorry I can't help more.
Act confident even if you don't feel like it. Fake it until you make it!
Hey! I used to have the same problem. What really worked for me is faking it and also trying not to care what anybody thinks of me. I know if can be hard, but eventually if you do something embarrassing or like that and you think “wait, why do I even care?” It really helps. Best of luck, always remember your perfect just the way you are <3
I've always struggled with self confidence due to other people's opinions, but I've learnt to believe that no one else's opinions matter. a lot of fake it till you make it kind of thing to start off with but you do eventually get there. At the end of the day, there is only one you and that makes you unique and one of a kind 🩷 . own yourself and love yourself first 😌!
I've been trying to boost my confidence as well and its very hard to do I've just been trying to do what I'm scared of more often to I get used to it so I have more confidence doing it..
I think the main thing that helped is realising that we live on floating rock and literally nothing matters. It might just be the way my brain works but like even if you do embarrass yourself, who cares? Everyone forgets eventually. Public speaking still is not my favourite but fake it till you make it and picture everyone naked.
I had the worst anxiety all through high school & college. just remember: it’s only embarrassing if you think it’s embarrassing! over time, you realize that everyone else is just worried about themselves. also, getting your first job and/or working retail will do wonders for your social skills! seek as many opportunities as possible to practice working through your fears outside of school and it will help you in class.
