how to get parents to say yes T.T

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hey yall, im nova, but yall might know me better by my cousin, vivian, who is more active on this app.

so vivian recently shared something about ballet. im young, about 12, turning 13. im in hs, which is surprising ik, but i moved up a grade early because of my academics. but enough abt my life story

i have ALWAYS wanted to be a professional ballerina. my whole life, but i never had the courage to ask. i felt like i was getting too old to start, so im "starting" now.

well after yall's kind comments on vivian's post/my cousin's post, i got up the guts to ask my parents if i could do ballet.


from the title, you can probably see where this is going, but they said no. they both agreed it was too structural and strict. but this is literally the only thing ive ever wanted to do in my whole life. like since i was seven.

they offered alternatives like jazz or hip hop, but i just really want to do ballet. they are pretty convinced i wont like it. they keep saying ill never be good enough for it, but agreed to try to look for studios. halfheartedly ig.

this is literally the only thing ive ever wanted to do with my life. i dont know what to do now. im a little old now so i cant wait. my dream studio is 'too strict' for them. but its not for me. i dont know what to do this is the only thing ive REALLY wanted to do

but they are so adamant on no ballet. or its too 'structural' or 'restricting' or 'strict' theyve supported everything else ive wanted to do. idr understand.

how can i get them to say yes? how about i ask again during christmas as my christmas present? i found a studio i really would be interested in taking lessons at, i can take private lessons, but i dont want them in the room because im scared they'll make fun of me.

idk but i also offered to drop tennis for ballet, they still said no :( but offereed like jazz. im not a fan of jazz, i just want to do ballet T.T

how can i turn their hesitant reactions and 'no' into a 'yes!'

[vivían .]

oh honey, i’m so sorry. i really thought auntie would say yes

[Heer ☽ (inactive era due to uni)]

use the internet. learn the story via interviews or yt or smth else of successful ballerinas who started out around your age with strict parents like you. maybe that can help?

[ella]

any parent who says their child isn't good enough for something is so ugh. ballet is a commitment and takes so much of a person's time. maybe tell them that you know how much hard work it is but you're ready to commit. I'm not sure tho. idk why they won't let you.

[ella]

you could ask them why there so adamant for no ballet cause that's just strange .

[vivían .]

we made a ppt and are showing it to them soon 🫶