physical appearance

[saraa]

does anyone else struggle w this 😭 maybe this sounds too dramatic but i don't really know what to do anymore. i'm 18 and i think i've been struggling with body dysmorphia since i was 13 or so? i'm still not getting any skinnier though which is upsetting because doesn't matter what i do, i will always be stuck in this body i hate and i'm not comfortable with. i was kinda recovering from it but now i'm back and god i can't even spend two hours without thinking about it i fear i'm actually obsessed lmao + i've got a new crush on this girl who is super pretty and soft spoken and so i can't help but think that if i ever told someone they would laugh at me for even thinking about someone while looking like this. it's starting to seriously interfer with my everyday life and i don't even go out as much as i used to do because i'm scared of people just seeing my face 😭 please does someone else struggle with this because i feel so alone sometimes i feel like people don't understand how much this impacts me

[lilly ♡ (semi-hiatus, reading slump)]

yeah i totally struggle with this too ... especially when i like someone part.. like I'm scared if i tell my friends theyre gonna be like you? or smth..so i just keep it to myself and i feel like I'm missing out on girlhood

u can always dm me love <3

[saraa]

yea same i feel like i've been missing out on so much. for example a few years ago i skipped my own secondary school graduation because everyone else was going to look so good and i just can't. i also missed a bunch of school trips and parties and now it sucks to think that i wasted my teenage years (and i still do) but anyway

tysm btw !! you can also dm me if you ever feel like u need to talk to someone <33

[ella]

you're too hard on yourself. not being flat doesn't mean you're ugly. I'm not flat but my body fluctuates during the day. a stomach is supposed to be filled with food. before you go on and be with someone love yourself, be nice to yourself. I bet you find yourself comparing your body to other girls. it won't do you any good loves. it will just leave you wishing and that only makes us sad and yucky.

[ella]

men literally created the idea of how women should look but that's literally so bullshit. I've been adding lots of body image things to my "women" board if any of y'all want to check that out.

[ella]

trust me if you wanna be close to someone and they're true and kind they will not care about your appearance. meaning their not going to judge you based off of how you look.

[shyla]

I'm so sorry you feel like that! But to give you a different perspective from someone who's considered "skinny" or unhealthy. I'm 26 now and I recently looked at my photos in high school and college and was surprised at how unhealthy I looked. Remembering the days when I would starve myself because I felt fat and trying to fit myself in clothes that's clearly the wrong size just so I could say I still wear a XS or 0. I also deleted all my prom/dance photos when I was 18 because I hated how I looked (I'm wishing I didn't). It took me years to finally feel comfortable with my appearance. What helped me a lot was going to the gym to work out and being surrounded by people who genuinely want the best for you. I felt more comfortable in sizing up and now maintain a healthy weight. Although I won't lie that there are still times when I look in the mirror and hate what I see but I catch myself and admit that I'm just falling into my depressive mood and it will pass. You're young, and I'm wishing you find that comfortable space where you can feel welcomed just the way you are <3

[Bella]

For me it's all about mindset bc you're always going to find a flaw if you're looking for one. It takes time to become more positive with yourself and some days I feel like I look like shit and that's okay.

Some things that help me:
Take time with yourself like listening to pop music when getting ready and be overly dramatic " I am sooo pretty like omg I don't think there is a more perfect being on earth" it might seem silly or self-obsessed but it really helps and it's also quite fun. And then when I look at myself in a window or something later in the day and feel ugh I look so bad. I try to remember how fun I had in the bathroom mirror and how happy I was when telling myself I looked good.

Find people who have similar "looks" like you that you like this works best with fictional characters so you can't obsess over body shape ect since you picture how this person looks like in your mind. So I like Feyre from Acotar I think she's badass super cool whatever and she has the same eye color as me and the same hair color so I try to think omg she's me. feyre= super cool beautiful therefore I'm super-cool beautiful this helps if you're a bit delusional but is also a fun way to appreciate yourself more.

Then, the most important thing to remember is that NO ONE CARES there is not a single person who cares even 5% of how much you care about your looks. This can be quite freeing to remember that you and only you care about how you look. Everyone is too busy caring about how they look.

[Hannahhh ;) [free palestine]]

I don’t have body dysmorphia but I have bad acne which in so insecure about so I get what you mean. It’s important to remember that some things are kinda out of our control and that if anyone judges you for your appearance then they are superficial and not worth being friends with

[Alexandra⋅˚₊‧ ❀ ‧₊˚ ⋅]

me too :( i feel like shit bc of it. im underweight, but still feel too fat. about two years ago i had a bad ED. i recovered, but i still feel like every time i eat there's a voice in my head asking me why im eating, that ill never lose weight like that. i feel like shit bc of it, and i feel insecure about like 60 other things too.
sorry for ranting.

[Karigan]

your not ranting your just showing empathy

[Alexandra⋅˚₊‧ ❀ ‧₊˚ ⋅]

thx, i just don't wanna make it abt. sorry

[Jenna]

Im the exact same way. I was doing okay for a while and now I feel like I'm right back to where I started.

[saraa]

Alexandra⋅˚₊‧ ❀ ‧₊˚ ⋅ wrote: "me too :( i feel like shit bc of it. im underweight, but still feel too fat. about two years ago i had a bad ED. i recovered, but i still feel like every time i eat there's a voice in my head askin..."
hi i know how much it hurts and i feel the same way. i really hope you can finally find peace with your looks bc i'm sure you are super pretty. remember you are not alone in this and you will recover <3
also u are not ranting dw, i made this post to vent lol

[saraa]

S.S. wrote: "I'm so sorry you feel like that! But to give you a different perspective from someone who's considered "skinny" or unhealthy. I'm 26 now and I recently looked at my photos in high school and colleg..."

hii i'm so happy that you were able to recover and that you know how pretty you are. <3 i hope that someday i will be able to take photos of myself and think i look good but honestly it seems unlikely right now. i tried to go to the gym earlier this year but had to drop out because i didn't have enough time for studying.
idk i know it's a me problem bc i literally see everyone beautiful, i don't think i ever find someone ugly lmao while i can't see anything good looking in my body. i know being pretty isn't everything but for me it is. anyway thanks for ur comment it does help a lot ^^