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Savannah
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Oct 07, 2024 03:04PM
Okay so I have a teacher, we’ll call him j and he teaches me religion,band,study block, and home room. He’s always been kind of weirdly obsessed with me, he’s always staring at me, always picking on me infront of the class and embarrassing me, and if he has a question he’ll always ask me, no one else. He’s just been very creepy from the start. It’s gotten a lot worse recently, and one of my friends in the grade about told me she think he’s m0lesting of her friends because he always keeps her in at lunch and after class. I’m scared I don’t know what to do. He doesn’t ask like this toward anyone else in my class/grade. I’m scared and I don’t know what to do I’m scared he’s going to try and do something to me. I was crying during band class today because of this, and today during study block he said he enjoys watching me suffer. I don’t know why to do I feel so uncomfortable and so unsafe around him and I have to see him multiple times a day. I’m so scared.
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omg i’m so sorry that’s awful. tell a teacher or other adult abt it bc it would be terrible if smth happened to you too. stay safe !! <33
oh you poor girl. as someone who’s been sa’d by a teacher i can promise it is not fun at all. i’d 100% report this to someone/a trusted adult. it’s better to be safe and wrong than unsafe and right. if you really believe you’re in danger, report it. just be carefully with your language (i.e. make sure you say “allegedly” if you’re not 100% sure that he did something, as it is a serious report). wishing you the best and praying for you ml🫶🏼🫶🏼🤍
I js don’t know if I should get him in trouble or smth if it’s not actually happening. Idk I just feel so unsafe and I see him at least twice a day
yes pls tell someone. thats not okay at all. im so sorry.
you feel unsafe and thats all that matters
There’s really only one person I feel comfortable talking to, but she’s always busy. If I talk to her I’ll try and bring it up.
Telling a trusted adult is definitely one of the best course of action. I'm so sorry to hear that is happening, you're so brave speaking out about it, if you need anything my DM's are open. Stay safe girly, you got this!
@graceYou said “one of the best courses of action” what would be other courses of action?
yes please tell another teacher or your school counselor. a teacher that is making you uncomfortable is a big no.
especially since he's a grown ass man he shouldn't be saying stuff like that to literal kids
GO TELL SOMEONEIK U THINK IT MIGHT NOT BE WORTH IT BUT YOU FEEL UNSAFE AND WHAT IF SOMETHING BAD HAPPENES LATER?? TRY AND PREVENT IT NOW
THATS SO CREEPY AND HARASSMENT FRR
aww sav I'm so sorry, I rlly hope this gets better. try to tell someone
Savannah wrote: "@graceYou said “one of the best courses of action” what would be other courses of action?"
Well, this would push some people out of their comfort zones, but if you can get other people to vouch for you, or some sort of evidence you can report to the school. If you have evidence that he's only doing this to you then the school can't pass it up as "just being overly friendly." If you can do it anonymously (and that's what you want to do) then you could do that. Switching out of that teachers class is also an option. I understand this is terrifying, but we are here if you need anything.
At my school you can’t switch out of classes :(A lot of my friends in my class have said that they feel weird abt the way he treats me too so maybd
yeah you and your friends can tell an adult on your school cus that's not funny
you could do tmrw tell whoever maybe your school counselor
Ya I’m gonna try and tell one of my teachers but she might be too busy for me so idk
Savannah wrote: "Ya I’m gonna try and tell one of my teachers but she might be too busy for me so idk"Hi, can you see the dm I sent you?
well just tell her you have something important you need to talk bout and teachers always have time if there kids need to talk to them
@aru she said they can't at her school, switch classes.
It's gonna be alright hun, I would talk to a consular about it and maybe report him. If he's been making you feel uncomfy for quite some time its never to early or late to report him. Luv you and you can get through this.
I’m scared to go to school today I see him four times today I’m scared
I’m gonna try and talk to one of my teacher about it today
im sorry this is happening to you, please tell someone even if its just your parents or a teacher, doesnt matter if nothing actually happened, the fact that this "man" is telling you he ENJOYS seeing you suffer is just beyond disgusting and how he feels comfortable saying it cause he thinks he can get away with it, DONT LET HIM. and if you dont wanna do it for you do it for other girls, cause i can assure you that creep will do the same or worse to others.
@Savannah , please, I beg you, TELL SOMEONE. This isn’t okay, and you shouldn’t keep quiet about it. The longer you stay silent, the more he thinks he has power over you, and the harder it gets to speak up. We live in such a messed-up world, but you need to stand up. Talk to someone you trust, a teacher, a school counselor, your parents, siblings .You have the right to feel safe at school without feeling scared or uncomfortable.
Savannah wrote: "I’m gonna try and talk to one of my teacher about it today"Please do hon. I'm sure she'll understand. Plus it's her job to take care of students. Protect from other students, other teachers, etc.
Please tell another teacher and/or adult you trust about it. I am so sick of men making life harder for girls to exist and they do it in this sneaky ways that make you second guess yourself about it. But no one has the right to make you feel unconfortable and unsafe anywhere, so don't feel scared and ask for help to solve this situation! I wish you luck.
Me and my friends told a teacher, and she told the principal, and I got sent to the principals office, js me n not my friend, and I was so scared I couldn’t explain anything and because I couldn’t explain anything they don’t believe me and they want to have a conversation where it’s me him and the two principals and I don’t want to talk to him because I feel like it’s just going to make it worse I can’t fucking do this
even if you were scared you should've spoken up. but you should go on with that. even if you hate it. even if you are uncomfortable. or you could go to the principal yourself and say "sorry I was super uncomfortable and scared before but I wanted to say what's on my mind" .
if I were in your position I would be nervous and possibly crying but it's best to tell them because you shouldn't feel as uncomfortable as you do at school from a teacher
I was crying so hard and I’m still crying I’ve been crying for like two hours and it’s not that I didn’t want to explain I just psychically couldn’t say anything I didn’t know how to explain anything
Savannah wrote: "Me and my friends told a teacher, and she told the principal, and I got sent to the principals office, js me n not my friend, and I was so scared I couldn’t explain anything and because I couldn’t ..."I can't believe that they thought it would be a good idea to have a
"meeting" with you and the teacher. I don't care that there are other people. That's infuriating I'm so sorry that they don't believe you. That's a terrible feeling.. but I ask you, don't shy away and hide. That's when things seem to get worse. You must get other people to vouch for you. Even people that don't get harassed by him. They can vouch that he is too "friendly" with you.
I told them that so many people think he’s weird towards me and they still don’t believe me
And then what was worse was I went to my favorite teacher after because I needed someone to talk to and I was talking to her and she was really caring abt it and she was comforting me and then the other teacher that she was friends with came in and she was kind of mad that I was talking to her and she was just like “if the situation has already been dealt with then stop talking abt it” and all I wanted to do was cry and I can’t do this anymore no one ever believes me all I wanted to do was talk to my safe person and I can’t even do that anymore without people getting mad at me I can’t fucking do this
Savannah wrote: "I told them that so many people think he’s weird towards me and they still don’t believe me"Well you still have a few options and don't feel like you're alone. If you are comfortable tell your legal guardian. It is likely they would take the case much more seriously. I know it's hard to talk about because you feel as if you're alone and no one else knows what you're going through. Unfortunately this is more common than most people think but people just pass it off as "being too friendly." If you aren't comfortable to tell them, then like I said if there is a way to show proof (anonymously or not) that is definitely going to help. I understand that you and a friend have talked about this to the principal, but if you can get more people to talk about this case it is more believable. Or if one of them can get their legal guardians involved that would help. More people speak out to more people it is hard to be denied.
Savannah wrote: "And then what was worse was I went to my favorite teacher after because I needed someone to talk to and I was talking to her and she was really caring abt it and she was comforting me and then the ..."You can do this, it's so so hard right now. I'm aware you are not alone. I assure you that. You feel trapped by that other person, and you feel trapped because people didn't believe you. But remember you have other students that can vouch for you. You're not alone, you have others that are dealing, or have dealt with these situations before.
But their not asking any of the other people and their not going to and I just can’t do this
maybe it's not that they don't believe you sav, they just need more information. I bet these adults do want to know what's happening but what can they do if they have no information ??
give your principal more info. be brave and brave can look like shaking and crying. brave looks different in all forms. there could or could not be other kids also afraid to speak up but you could be there outlet.
you are the only one saying you can't do this. and we can't do anything bout that. you have to believe you can.
Savannah wrote: "But their not asking any of the other people and their not going to and I just can’t do this"You can do this, I and so many others believe that you can. I agree with Ella. You may be struggling with it but the more information the better. Keeping this quiet will only make it worse. Please trust me on that.
I’m not keeping it quiet! I have been trying to tell them what’s happening and I’ve tried my best to explain and I don’t know how to explain it to them if they haven’t seen it! Idfk how to explain it and I’m not keeping quite I just don’t know how to explain it
how have you explained it like what did you say ?
I was just saying that he was looking through my stuff and he always talks to me and he’s always staring at me and I feel really really uncomfortable and he doesn’t do that to anyone else
Reading this hurt me so much, because no one should ever experience this kind of things. He's an adult and should be acting like one, but sometimes people are disturbed (and I'm not justifying him). I think the best thing you can do is to express your fear to someone, like the principal or another teacher. Because not only this put you in danger (we can't really know what he thinks or what's in his mind) but if he's a dangerous person, he can have this behaviour with other people, even younger than you. If you tell someone, you will protect not only yourself but also other people. We don't have to wait something bad happen. Ask for help. If he ever get close to you, you can try reasoning and say something like "Your behaviour is highly inappropriate for the context we're in. I'm a minor and I'm not scared to report you to the authorities."
