why are most people in the book community so queerphobic and non empathetic?

[jivika ♡]

i was in a bookish gc and the people there were so transphobic and insensitive. they also supported cohoe even after knowing that she's the mother of a grapist. I called them out for it and then those mfs removed me from the gc. sometimes I hate this community ngl

[jivika ♡]

the group was om's bookclub by @nightowl_om on instagram, if you wanna go there and give those motherfuckers a piece of your mind. :)

[Lara]

wish i had instagram :( but for real there are so many queerphobic people here too. they don't have to approve but at least respect

[Brianna]

I've noticed this myself. I've been trying so hard to find a queer friendly book group. I've found one, but we don't do a book club. We just talk books and life. Its a "sapphic" book club.

Other groups, I get kind of nervous to talk about my queerness in.

[Carl]

that's a shame... sadly we already expect this kind of behaviour. Are you trying to find an online or in-person book club?

[Matt]

My sincerest apologies for what you are going through, friend- but it’s one of the unfortunate realities of being an LGBT+ person. I know how this feels, hurts a lot. Focus on those who care and want the best for you, and support you for all that you are, not in spite of who you are. I promise there are people like that in the world. There are many people like that here! If it means anything, I love and support you and will always be a safe person for anyone. Hugs and support from a bi guy! 🫂❤️🏳️‍🌈

[Michael]

I did a post about that awhile ago. “Why is this so hard?” It was about how difficult it was to be open about my bisexuality. I still struggle with it somedays, but I’ve been so much happier lately. I’ve met some amazing people and made some great friends. And I realized that anyone who did have a problem with it were people I really didn’t have to talk to very much anyway. I’ve found more people accepting of me, and it’s been great.
I get it though. Some people can be cruel. If that happens, remember that you have groups like this one that will never give you a hard time for being you. Be yourself. The right people will find you if you do. You’ve got this 🙂

[maya ☆]

from my corner of the lgbtq community online and irl, i can't say i share your experience even a black bisexual woman. truly what makes a bookclub a good club are the people. it's better not to be in such a club than anything else. i myself am in a queer bipoc bookclub irl with girlfriends, we have our monthly meeting in the gay village, but it took time to find them and i wouldn't have it any other way. bcs in my previous irl bookclub, half of them turned out to be fervent zionist israel-riders when october 7th happened, when my friend and i were staunch defenders of palestinian people... safe to say, there was no contact after learning about this. and that's rlly the best you can do :(

i'm rlly sorry you have had this experience :( but its best that you know now and focus on finding other similar queer people with openness, especially towards trans ppl too - who became the new scapegoats once gay marriage and gayness was more and more accepted.