i need serious help with my little sister

[A]

im 16, and my sister S is 13. we dont have the best relationship because we are really different. i really like spending my free time reading, listening taylor swift songs or watching sitcoms, and shes always locked up in her room listening reggaeton. she loathes reading and my music and everytime i try to bond with her by sitting down to watch whatever shes watching she turns off the tv and goes to her room, or when i say, hey lets watch a show together, she says she would never watch any of my shows. shes always bullying me because i like things she doesnt and always calls me a loser or a nerd just because i like reading or watching shows in english (its not my first language, but i like watching shows in their original language). ive sadly become accustumed to the bullying but lately its become really bad, we cant even have dinner without fighting. ill be just minding my own business and she starts insulting me or talking down on me. shes always like, dont you get bullied at school? or, your friends cannot really like you, when i talk about my interests. now that school is over i want to spend my summer chilling, hanging out with my friends and reading. im also really excited about writting my own book, which ive been postponing because of my exams. everytime i brought up my book, she laughs or or says mean things about me or my book and its getting really annoying. its gotten to a point where im couting the days till i can go to university and get out of the country. you might me thinking im exagerating, but i really hate her. shes always in my business insulting me and everytime i push back she locks herself in her room so my mom punishes me. she even kicked me in the nose and arm with her shoe for "looking at her for too long". i dont know what to do, i dont even know if the relationship is salvageable. there are days where she acts like a normal sister and others where she doesnt acknowledge me in school or insultes me at home, and its been like this for at least 3 years. what should i do? ignoring her doesnt work, but neither giving her attention. honestly, i just want her to leave me alone, but shes always in my room annoying me with her songs or dances or streaming clothes from me. what should i do???

[｡°✩ Rasha ｡°✩ {Free Palestine}]

I cant help much cause im going thru the same thing... I'm just waiting until I can get out of my house,, I read more so that I can ignore her and everything going around me.. I would probably say to keep going but that's just stupid... sorry,, wanted to rant too

[Marta]

I'm pretty sure all this hostility towards you comes from a place of insecurity. People who are insecure about something or being bullied themselves will try to put others down to make themselves feel better. The fact that she's going through puberty doesn't help, her brain is growing and she's having adult feelings but the capacity to deal with them is still childlike. Although I understand what she's going through it's not excusable. She's making you go through a lot of terrible things. The fact she's hurting isn't justification for hurting others. I'd have an honest conversation with your parents about this and if they dismiss it or don't do anything to help I would consider staying away as much as possible until you can move for university and hopefully by then she'll understand her actions weren't okay. Unfortunately I can't tell you for sure the kind of adult she'll be but I'm hoping you'll be able to rekindle your relationship once everybody's brains are devoloped and hopefully the problems in your sister's life have solved themselves. But it's gonna be a 50/50 effort, she's gonna have to put in effort to make you trust her again but you're also gonna have to make an effort to forgive her. I hope everything goes well for you.

[Sienna]

I'm not much help not gonna lie but maybe try not giving her the reaction she wants like if she's says something don't even react don't reply. ik it's sort of like ignoring but if you can maybe try to talk to her in a calm way like alone just saying like you want to get along. but if she starts hurting you or not listening I would either go to a parent and try to explain what you want to happen or just go to your room and dont react back.

sorry I'm not much of a help

[Sienna]

I agree with Marta

[Sandra ꨄ︎]

Honestly girl, the best thing you can do is ignore her. I think the reason she keeps doing it is because she knows she can get a reaction out of you. Whenever she’s in your room annoying you if you have headphones just put them on and turn the music up and read, she’ll most likely go away. As for when your around your parents I would suggest the same thing if she’s saying mean things at dinner just talk with your parents, ask them how was your day or just make conversation with them, talk over her or if you don’t want to do that because ik it’s kind of mean just look at her with a blank face then just look away and talk to your parents. My best advice is ignoring her because she will keep instigating stuff with you if she sees your reaction, at first she might try harder but eventually she’ll stop because it’s human nature and she might even feel bad after. I hope this helps!!

[vivie♡ {hiatus}]

i have the same issue
i think she’s immature and she’ll grow out of it

[A]

thank you so much everyone! rasha, feel free to rant, i know its a difficult situation. honestly, i just wanted to tell anyone because its been going for ages and everytime i tell a friend they say its normal or are surprised by how badly we her along. theres this friend that always says my sister bullies me because i bully her back, when thats not true at all. thank you for not blaming me, everyone, because lately it seems everyone else does. ill take your advice and try to ignore her, and if she still doesnt stop ill try talking to my parents seriously and look for a solution. ive tried talking to my sister by telling her to stop insulting me because it hurts my feelings and she just laughs at my face. idk. i hope when she sees im going away for real she will change her attitude towards me, because shes my only sibling and i want her to be a part of my life in the future, even if she seems to hate me now