i need boy advice😭

[leila ♡]

okay so there is this guy (WHO BTW IS THE ONLY PERSON I KNOW IRL WHO ACTUALLY ENJOYS READING AND WE HAVE SIMILAR BOOK TASTE) who've i've had a little crush on, so i obvi told my friends so i would have someone to yap about him to (because i'm a hopeless romantic and i hate pining in silence)

this other girl who has a big mouth found out someone and threatened to tell him for no reason, so i'm crossing my fingers that she chooses not to

but basically i found out from some mutual friends that he 1) doesn't really date anyone, 2) another girl likes him and HE KNOWS (she's way prettier than me btw😭), and 3) it's hard to tell when he likes a girl because he just kinda treats them like he would any other friend. but i feel like i've been getting close with him, and we talk a LOT, and have a lot of inside jokes and he finds a way to include me in other convos/jokes with mutual friends. we only have two classes together this school year, so i don't get to see him a lot.

but like....what do i do? should i just keep my mouth shut and not make any moves or should i do something? also sorry for yapping so much, i didn't realize how long this was😭

[Rachael]

idk if my advice would be good but I would just ask him out lol.

For context, I've been in 2 long term relationships.
1st relationship - around 2 years
Current relationship - almost 5 years and counting.

For all of these relationships, I was the one who asked the guy out first.
I wasn't super close to the first and current guy when I first asked them out, I just thought they were attractive. However, I knew they at least had a positive impression of me, and weren't interested in anyone else, which sounds like what's going on with the guy you like. So there's a chance it could work if you just ask :)

[anastasia]

Okay, here's my take:

1. So what if that girl tells him you like him? Either way he likes you back and he'll be BEAMING about it or he doesn't in which case - forget about him, there's many many more cute guys to come in your life.

For now, enjoy that you have something in common you can talk about and that you have inside jokes. And him including you in convos? Yeah, not sure about romantically liking but he likes you as a person.

Maybe you could ask him if he wants to come to the book store with you because you can't decide between two books (make up two you want to buy and you know he'll be interested in too). That would be a great first start for an activity outside of school.

[ambs]

Always choose to make the move! This may seem difficult or scary but at least you'll know how he feels. If he says yes, you'll have a boyfriend and you'll have what you want. If he says no then you will understand how he feels rather than still holding onto the hope he likes u back. then you can choose to move on and find someone else who appreciates you the same way you appreciate them.

I made the first move with my boyfriend and I'm GLAD I did because otherwise we probably wouldn't be together. <3

[Srujan]

It's always better to let them know about how you feel, because the more you hide, the more your feelings might grow. 2 years back I had a big crush on this guy in my college for ig 4-5 months, my best friend was friend's with him so I decided to make a move and started a convo, eventually we became friends and so I confessed. He didn't say a yes then but he said let's see where this goes, and we ended up dating after a few months! So it's always a good if you let them know

[shreya]

girl if you tell him and he rejects you, you're gonna lose your close friend. me personally, i would never say a word and shut my mouth

[leila ♡]

aww thank you guys so much! this is such good advice. my school's currently on spring break right now and i'm grounded from my phone (whoops), so i'll talk to him when we get back <3

[Fawn]

Honestly, it sounds like you two have a really sweet friendship. It would be best for your own interest to stay focused on schoolwork and your own personal hobbies and interests than stress out over boys! It’s a great idea to stay friends with him, but I think it would only cause more drama and potentially could ruin your friendship if you pursue him as a lover, especially since someone else has their eyes on him.

[georgia (gnr’s version) (semi hiatus) &#x1f490;]

honestly i agree with shreya i’d be keeping my mouth shut so i wouldn’t ruin the friendship if he didn’t like me back, and you’ll still have a close friend that you can talk to about books and stuff.