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Cheating when it comes to tests, etc, I meannnn it's technically called Academic Dishonesty but I really can't talk without becoming a hypocrite.Cheating when it comes to dating is something else though. When you are in a relationship with a person you should be dedicated to that one person. When you cheat on that person then you are basically telling them, "I mean you were my person but then you weren't, and I pity you enough to stay together with you. But I'm gonna lie and do stuff behind your back."
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Also if I want to ask a girl out and then start dating her, but my Ex, keeps texting me to chat, is that cheating?
Austin wrote: "so like honest question. Is it considered cheating if you break up with your significant other to be with someone else?"No, you and that person are both aware you are no longer together, so there's nothing holding you back to that person.
Austin wrote: "so there should be no grace period? Like the day after breaking up, then you find a new partner and start dating. that is ok? It kinda hints at the idea of cheating at leastAlso if I want to ask ..."
I see where you are coming from, but from breaking up with said partner, you now have no bonds with them so you are technically free.
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Austin wrote: "so there should be no grace period? Like the day after breaking up, then you find a new partner and start dating. that is ok? It kinda hints at the idea of cheating at leastAlso if I want to ask ..."
I do feel that there should be a grace period, a time where both people reflect on the relationship. If you just jump into another relationship too quickly, it'll seem like you never cared for your original partner. Like you only wanted to get rid of them.
As long as you're not leading them on. Make whatever the relationship is between you and ex clear so they don't get misled. As well as the girl you're currently talking to.
Austin wrote: "ok for all you girls out there, would you be offended if your guy looked at other women in public? Like if you were at the beech and he glanced at another woman admiringly."I would, yeah, but I would also know that he is a guy and they all have their uh.. urges? (that sounds so bad omg)
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I would..."
so you would be offended but not take it personally
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Austin wrote: "Allison wrote: "Austin wrote: "ok for all you girls out there, would you be offended if your guy looked at other women in public? Like if you were at the beech and he glanced at another woman admir..."Yeah, unless it was a constant thing, then I would take offense to it.
I personally wouldn't be exactly offended, more like you've given me some subtle doubts. If there was a glance as we're at a beach and everyone has nearly everything hanging out, then okay, whatever. But if it's full on staring at someone, I don't know exactly how I'd feel.
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If my guy keeps looking at her or outwardly staring then I'm going to be upset. If he glanced at her once and that's it then I don't care.
Austin wrote: "ok what is the difference between a glance and stare?"A glance would be more passive, just slightly acknowledging something's there. A stare would be intentionally looking directly at something.
Not to mention if he/she is actively trying to ignore whatever the distraction is. If your trying to focus on something else or if you can move to another spot or look away, that is highly appreciated and shows your trying to ignore the temptation of staring. Just to clarify, I’m completely straight, however, I have been faced with a situation in which someone is talking to me and their neckline just plummets and I can’t help but glance and I’m always trying to focus on their eyes but it’s so distracting.
I hate it when someone bends over and you can see down their shirt.
Not that that happens often to me. I think it might have happens once
It’s also difficult to focus if they don’t wear a bra and their wearing a tight shirt… 😓As for men, if their stretching and trying to reach something high up, it can be kinda distracting if their shirt isn’t long enough and it shows a bit of their stomach or if their shirt is unbuttoned to see their chest. also a bit of the tight shirt thing too. I feel like men cover up more than women (generally) so women in relationships don’t get as distracted as guys do with people in their surroundings.
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As for men, if their stretching and trying to reach something high up, it can be kinda distracting if their..."
ok yeah it is distracting when women don't wear a bra and well you can tell.
Guys don't really distract me like that. If they're cute I'm going to notice and maybe glance at them a few times, but otherwise I'm fine.
How often do women not easy bras? I wear mine all day all the time unless I'm sick, then I wear pjs all day.
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I can't answer that question, but at college there is just random women that don't and you can tell when they walk or jog.
Part of the reason that getting older worries me is the fact that guys are going to start staring a little more. And I hate being stared at.
Yeah part of the reason we wears bras is because it hurts to run when you don't have one on. Or maybe that's just me.
Book wrote: "Yeah part of the reason we wears bras is because it hurts to run when you don't have one on. Or maybe that's just me."That's definitely part of it 😂
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Just curious. Sorry if that was weird or anything. I'm 14.
Well, it is 1:42. I'm going to do some reading and then go to bed. Goodnight!
I would agree it does depend on how attractive the guy is, and honestly it hasn’t happened to me all that much…. Some yes… but more with someone I know. XD My point is it does occasionally happen to girls too.Maybe in other ways depending on the girl, like if a guy dresses in a certain way and it stands out it can be distracting.
For instance, i like it if a guy wears a bit of eyeliner to highlight his eyes, or if he is wearing some dapper sweater in a restaurant I’m gonna keep glancing in your direction to observe your mannerism because you did something with your appearance that is interesting to me. It stands out so I’m distracted from the person I’m eating/hanging out with. Sometimes it’s when a guy seems to put off more confidence is what not only makes him attractive, but distracting if your with someone who isn’t confident. (Not saying it’s isn’t cute if he’s shy.;) they tend to draw your attention. Idk if any of that makes sense lol.
Oops I’m replying to a comment from a bit earlier lol. Funny how fast the thread adds up XD night!
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I will say that is every shy guy's nightmare. Brining your girlfriend whom you are afraid is too good for you to a party. Then some other guy starts chatting her up about a subject they connect about and you know nothing about. Then you kinda just want to leave but she is having fun.
Oh no!! I feel so bad for that poor guy in that situation. 😩 same sorta fear with girls especially those who dress modesty, I think many feel disappointed or sad if their guy looks at another girl who is wearing significantly less than they are. Anyhow to the whole confident guy is attractive and a bit distracting thing……
Confidence is key. I don’t even think you can’t be shy and confident though. You can be both, you just need to know who you are, and what your worth. If you don’t know your worth, your gonna end up with someone who do doesn’t ether.
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Austin wrote: "so like honest question. Is it considered cheating if you break up with your significant other to be with someone else?"
I say no. I consider cheating to be anything you do with somebody else whilst in a relationship with another person
I say no. I consider cheating to be anything you do with somebody else whilst in a relationship with another person
We actually had a discussion at school about who would be to blame in different scenarios because my friend was getting confused.
If you are with a person and YOU get with somebody else. You are to blame.
If they do it, they are to blame.
If you get with another one of your friends who knows you are in a relationship, it's YOUR fault, but the other friend isn't any better if they don't mention anything or end it
If you get with somebody who doesn't know you are already in a relationship, they have no blame whatsoever
If you don't want to be with them, don't cheat. Just end it. You've committed to them and you have their trust. If lying isn't allowed then why is cheating
If you are with a person and YOU get with somebody else. You are to blame.
If they do it, they are to blame.
If you get with another one of your friends who knows you are in a relationship, it's YOUR fault, but the other friend isn't any better if they don't mention anything or end it
If you get with somebody who doesn't know you are already in a relationship, they have no blame whatsoever
If you don't want to be with them, don't cheat. Just end it. You've committed to them and you have their trust. If lying isn't allowed then why is cheating
Austin wrote: "so there should be no grace period? Like the day after breaking up, then you find a new partner and start dating. that is ok? It kinda hints at the idea of cheating at least
Also if I want to ask ..."
If it's only generic talking then no. But I would mention it to the girl just so they're aware and see if they are comfortable with it
Also if I want to ask ..."
If it's only generic talking then no. But I would mention it to the girl just so they're aware and see if they are comfortable with it
Okay so i am so sorry in advance because in this topic I might accidentally hurt someone in my rant. I want you all to know I never mean for it to come off that way ❤️
Alright time for 💅🏻another rant💅🏻
Okay so cheating is bad because it destroys your connection with the person. It makes you appear untrustworthy and unkind. You are breaking/burning your bridges and soon enough everyone will realize how I’m the wrong you were. Cheating has been blown out of proportion by society. But it is still bad. I believe cheating is a s bad as the partner that was cheated on says it was. If I was cheated on I would likely break up with the person, and give them a lecture. I would also let them know how I was feeling. Where as my sister would stalk the person online, and publicly humiliate them. I believe cheating is a flexible thing for HOW bad it is. But it is still an awful thing to do.
Alright time for 💅🏻another rant💅🏻
Okay so cheating is bad because it destroys your connection with the person. It makes you appear untrustworthy and unkind. You are breaking/burning your bridges and soon enough everyone will realize how I’m the wrong you were. Cheating has been blown out of proportion by society. But it is still bad. I believe cheating is a s bad as the partner that was cheated on says it was. If I was cheated on I would likely break up with the person, and give them a lecture. I would also let them know how I was feeling. Where as my sister would stalk the person online, and publicly humiliate them. I believe cheating is a flexible thing for HOW bad it is. But it is still an awful thing to do.
My opinion:
Cheating breaks trust. Trust is very important. We TRUST the pilot on a plane that he knows how to fly it. We TRUST our parents to make us food in the morning. Friendships are built on TRUST. Relationships are built on TRUST. So when one cheats, it breaks one of the most important things that makes that relationship work. And even if the one who got cheated on forgives, and they try to start a relationship again, a lot of times it's like walking on thin ice. Is he/she going to cheat again? Are they REALLY working late or are they seeing someone else behind my back. Is that REALLY just a FRIEND texting them, or are they something more? And when you're walking on thin ice like that, things are bound to get tense and it just goes down hill. So yes, cheating is a very bad thing to do.
Cheating breaks trust. Trust is very important. We TRUST the pilot on a plane that he knows how to fly it. We TRUST our parents to make us food in the morning. Friendships are built on TRUST. Relationships are built on TRUST. So when one cheats, it breaks one of the most important things that makes that relationship work. And even if the one who got cheated on forgives, and they try to start a relationship again, a lot of times it's like walking on thin ice. Is he/she going to cheat again? Are they REALLY working late or are they seeing someone else behind my back. Is that REALLY just a FRIEND texting them, or are they something more? And when you're walking on thin ice like that, things are bound to get tense and it just goes down hill. So yes, cheating is a very bad thing to do.
Okay, so I know cheating isn't really a dating thing, but we didn't have another folder to put it in so... deal with it. XD
This is actually a really interesting question and I would encourage y'all to get nitty-gritty with the morality debate. Why is cheating bad? Or is it? Thoughts?