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[Jonetta]

Nick and David take great pains to maintain cordial relationships with their children’s mothers, even when the mothers are behaving badly. Talk about the contrast of their behavior with that of Paula and Jenny. What are the noticeable differences in Logan & Emma in comparison to the Lake and Wallace children?

[Anita]

All four of these women are behaving badly in their own ways. Paula and Jenny want Bill to be more involved with the kids and basically want to pretend the other doesn't exist. Brittney and Nancy want their ex's to totally disappear. Nick and David have both made their children a priority and the kids know it. That makes a big difference in why Logan and Emma are great kids.

[Jonetta]

Shame on Brittney and Nancy for using their children as weapons against fathers who are taking responsibility and doing the right things for them. These women can’t seem to move on and Brittney definitely needs to get over what happened. She had every reason to be hurt and angry…13 years ago! Why wouldn’t you want the best for your child?

Unfortunately, I see a lot of Nancys and Brittneys. The kids really suffer and for the life of me, I can’t figure out why the mothers don’t see the damage they’re wreaking.

Emma and Logan seem to be well adjusted and both have acknowledged to their fathers they know they’re loved. They also know they have to maneuver around their mothers to keep the peace and maintain a relationship.

Ivy, Austin, Tommy and Amanda are on the other extreme. Only Bella stands a chance at a better outcome.

[Sharon]

I agree. Personally, I don't see any of the mothers in this story putting their children first or wanting their children to be happy more than they want revenge. At least Britney and Nancy make their children feel love when their fathers aren't around.

One of the many things that I'm so proud of my son and his ex is that they did all their arguing alone when the children weren't around. They had a lot to iron out before the divorce was final, but the kids never heard them say "your father this" or "your mother that". I had this conversation a few months ago with my son's ex MIL. She said they all get along like they are a big family including the current spouses. They are a strange group. LOL

[Jonetta]

Bravo to your son and his ex! I imagine he was well raised😏

[Jonetta]

True story. My paternal grandparents were divorced before my parents were even married. By the time we came around, both of them had remarried. My Dad was career Army so we were gone a lot. Whenever we came back home, my grandfather would be at my grandmother’s house. He was there a lot. I actually didn’t know he was my grandfather (everyone was Daddy Joe, Pop Ervin, Mama Helen and Mama Cat). They were just all the people who loved me. I was about 11-years old when I figured it all out. I had no idea who couldn’t stand who😏

[Sharon]

That's so sweet. It is so much better to have a lot of people to love.

[Melissa]

You all answered the question for me. I agree.