Question A

[Jonetta]

Max and Nick are continuing their relationship long distance. Were you surprised that they are attempting to make a go of it? Will this be the one to stick? Why or why not?

[Sharon]

I'm not surprised as they seemed to have a good connection. Nick calms Max's wilder side without giving ultimatums or putting limits on expectations.

I don't know if it will last. Nick has a lot to deal with in his personal life. I don't know if Max will get tired of always traveling to him. I'm sure Nick will need to save his vacation time for his son.

[Jonetta]

Like you, Sharon, I was surprised but was pleased. There is something about Nick that works for Max. Maybe it’s because he doesn’t try to compete with her, nor does he try to change her. She has the freedoms to be herself with him, whatever that is. They just might stick, depending on what happens with his son. Nick’s ex seems to like using their child to play stupid games.

[Robin]

I was happy to see Nick was still in the picture. I think you're right, Jonetta. Nick isn't trying to compete with Max. He seems to accept her for what she is. I think that is what she needs.

I guess we'll see down the road if they can keep up the long distance relationship for long. It won't be easy.

[Jonetta]

I dated my husband long distance for three years (5 hour road trip or a one hour flight). No, it wasn’t always easy but we talked every day…my rule😏

[Robin]

Jonetta wrote: "I dated my husband long distance for three years (5 hour road trip or a one hour flight). No, it wasn’t always easy but we talked every day…my rule😏"

That's a good rule, Jonetta. How often did you get to see him while you were dating?

[Anita]

Max didn't have a lot of faith in long distance relationships and I was surprised, but pleased, that she decided to give it a go. Nick is great for her. He respects her and what she does and he doesn't try to change her. He is good for her and she is good for him. She knows that he has a lot to deal with and supports him trying to be a father to his son.

[Jonetta]

At least once a month, most often two weekends/month. The plan was every two weeks someone came to visit, alternating turns. I got lucky as I was living in the Washington DC area (Alexandria VA) and the airport was 10 minutes from my home. This was before all of the TSA rules so it was easy. He lived in Greensboro and for an entire year, their was an airline bidding war and I got round trip tickets for $39. The most I ever paid was $100.

[Sharon]

My husband and I had a long distance relationship too for a time. When we met he was a long haul trucker and going to Univ of Md correspondence class. I don't remember how it worked because online wasn't even a dream. I know he started in the military. Anyway, we did that for eighteen months. Three years is a long time.

[Sharon]

I agree with everyone; Nick is good for Max. I'm not sure she sees it though I'm hoping it works out.

[Jonetta]

Sharon wrote: "My husband and I had a long distance relationship too for a time. When we met he was a long haul trucker and going to Univ of Md correspondence class. I don't remember how it worked because online ..."

We both had really busy careers so it went by fairly quickly. When I got weary, I told him I was changing jobs so he needed to decide. He did, and quickly. We actually were worried if we’d have problems being in the same city 24/7.

[Sharon]

Oh we had a gift shop for a few years. Talk about 24/7 all day/every day, but it worked for us.

[Anita]

My middle daughter met her husband the summer before she started Moody Bible Institute in Chicago. She worked as a crew captain for the top catering company in the city. She would work a weekend and fly home the next weekend. I didn't know about this.

[Sharon]

Anita wrote: "My middle daughter met her husband the summer before she started Moody Bible Institute in Chicago. She worked as a crew captain for the top catering company in the city. She would work a weekend an..."

Looks like it worked for them. When people are meant to be, it happens no matter how many obstacles get in the way.

[Jonetta]

Hey, when it’s worth it, it doesn’t feel like work.

[Sharon]

True

[Anita]

It did work for them. They have been married 15 years and still very much in love.

[Jonetta]

See! We’re coming up on 26 years.

[Jonetta]

You know, that distance forced us to get to know each other in a more meaningful way. He was my friend before I realized he’d be my life partner.

[Sharon]

Congratulations on the 15 years, and your 26 years Jonetta.

We made it 25 years when my husband died. I wouldn't change a thing except to have the past 6 years together. I can say honestly that we had a great time even when things weren't that great.

[Jonetta]

Congrats to you, too, Sharon💜

[Melissa]

I wasn't too surprised. I know Max really likes him. I was surprised by how often you flies out to see him. I feel like it's still too early to tell if he's the one for her.

[Charlene]

I like Nick, so I do hope Max (who seemed to at end of this book) wakes up to a less rigid self and opens herself to a deep relationship with Nick.