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Unknown wrote: "impulsvbtch wrote: "how many years have you got till you get you BS?"One more year."
niceee
impulsvbtch wrote: "Unknown wrote: "impulsvbtch wrote: "how many years have you got till you get you BS?"One more year."
niceee"
I’ll rather have more tbh.
Ishika wrote: "BS? Is it a degree?"Yes
Bachelor of science.
BSc ?
My parents mentality (most Indian parent's mentality)- Let the study (I'm talking specifically about girls) and if she couldn't get a job then marry her off to some boy she hasn't known in her life
Ishika wrote: "My parents mentality (most Indian parent's mentality)- Let the study (I'm talking specifically about girls) and if she couldn't get a job then marry her off to some boy she hasn't known in her life"Yes,
Marriage, the ultimate solution and cure to all problems.
(Spoiler alert, it’s not)
And I'm deas serious about what I said. My uncle made her daughter who's 22 marry someone she never knew in her life.
Ishika wrote: "And I'm deas serious about what I said. My uncle made her daughter who's 22 marry someone she never knew in her life."Yes, ishika I know.
That’s common in India.
Arrange marriage is the norm
Ishika wrote: "My parents mentality (most Indian parent's mentality)- Let the study (I'm talking specifically about girls) and if she couldn't get a job then marry her off to some boy she hasn't known in her life"That sucks. I'm sorry...
Unknown wrote: "Ishika wrote: "My parents mentality (most Indian parent's mentality)- Let the study (I'm talking specifically about girls) and if she couldn't get a job then marry her off to some boy she hasn't kn..."Yeah, it's not!
good intentions you said? mhm okay
AND I FUCKING HATE THE CONCEPT OF ARRANGED MARRIAGE. LIKE WHAT IF THAT IDIOT IS SEXIST OR A HOMOPHOBE AND etc etc.
Ishika wrote: "AND I FUCKING HATE THE CONCEPT OF ARRANGED MARRIAGE. LIKE WHAT IF THAT IDIOT IS SEXIST OR A HOMOPHOBE AND etc etc."exactly! You never know what kind of person you'll end up with!
my mom thinks I shouldn't get married cause she knows I dont want a family
Ishika wrote: "AND I FUCKING HATE THE CONCEPT OF ARRANGED MARRIAGE. LIKE WHAT IF THAT IDIOT IS SEXIST OR A HOMOPHOBE AND etc etc."Ahhh…I see.
I’m not against the concept of arrange marriage.
But I feel like the parents don’t take the actual persons opinion in consideration.
Arrange marriage should be done with complete involvement of the future bride/groom and the possible match should be thoroughly screen and researched upon.
sorry, but I gtg ;( I'll try to talk later!
I don't really like the idea of marriage either tbh, it triggers my commitment issues real bad
Maya [semi-hiatus] wrote: "sorry, but I gtg ;( I'll try to talk later!"
Bye Maya ✨
Maya [semi-hiatus] wrote: "sorry, but I gtg ;( I'll try to talk later!"
see you around :)
impulsvbtch wrote: "my mom thinks I shouldn't get married cause she knows I dont want a family"Huh ??
Isn’t that your decision to make ?
impulsvbtch wrote: "my mom thinks I shouldn't get married cause she knows I dont want a family"I think marriage is not about making a family. you and your partner are a family. There's no need to have a "traditional" family.
impulsvbtch wrote: "I don't really like the idea of marriage either tbh, it triggers my commitment issues real bad"Ohhh…yeah, I can see that.
Completely contractually committed to one person, possibly for a lifetime.
yes exactly. I don't want to be married but my parents... Though I trust my parents to not force me
Unknown wrote: "impulsvbtch wrote: "my mom thinks I shouldn't get married cause she knows I dont want a family"Huh ??
Isn’t that your decision to make ?"
it is but she like talked to me about that. it was more of a suggestion (thankfully. I can only take so much lmao)
Ishika wrote: "yes exactly. I don't want to be married but my parents... Though I trust my parents to not force me"That’s good, most parents would be super against the idea.
Maya [semi-hiatus] wrote: "impulsvbtch wrote: "my mom thinks I shouldn't get married cause she knows I dont want a family"I think marriage is not about making a family. you and your partner are a family. There's no need to..."
yes!!
Once I was having a panick attack and my mother seriously asked me if it was a boy problem. I wanted to laugh right there
impulsvbtch wrote: "Unknown wrote: "impulsvbtch wrote: "my mom thinks I shouldn't get married cause she knows I dont want a family"Huh ??
Isn’t that your decision to make ?"
it is but she like talked to me about th..."
Pretty extreme…suggestion.
Oh well, maybe it isn’t ..
Who knows ?
Ishika wrote: "Once I was having a panick attack and my mother seriously asked me if it was a boy problem. I wanted to laugh right there"Oh no…
Is that really the first thing that comes to mind ?
settling, future plans, commitments, etc.. they're all equally terrifying
yes exactly (I was in grade 10 ig and I used to study with 25 boys and I was the only girl so...)
impulsvbtch wrote: "settling, future plans, commitments, etc.. they're all equally terrifying"FUTURE itself is terrifying.
ANYTHING can happen in the next minute.
Oh well…let’s not go down that road…
Ishika wrote: "yes exactly (I was in grade 10 ig and I used to study with 25 boys and I was the only girl so...)"ONLY GIRL ??
Oh wow…I can’t imagine.
( ps - studied in only all girls schools)
Unknown wrote: "impulsvbtch wrote: "Unknown wrote: "impulsvbtch wrote: "my mom thinks I shouldn't get married cause she knows I dont want a family"Huh ??
Isn’t that your decision to make ?"
it is but she like t..."
HAHAHA you don't have to pretend like it was a reasonable suggestion to make T-T. she basically sees marriage=family=children and thinks if I disagree then i probably shouldn't get married and tried to not so subtly imply it
Ishika wrote: "I hate thinking about future"TERRIFYING.
no seriously, future is dark and unknown
And my anxious brain can come up with 100 negative possibilities.
she also thinks I'm too emotionally distant to satisfy anyone's emotional needs which makes me go like, ''who's fault is that???''
Unknown wrote: "Ishika wrote: "yes exactly (I was in grade 10 ig and I used to study with 25 boys and I was the only girl so...)"ONLY GIRL ??
Oh wow…I can’t imagine.
( ps - studied in only all girls schools)"
It was a coaching institution and not school(my school is all girls too)
impulsvbtch wrote: "Unknown wrote: "impulsvbtch wrote: "Unknown wrote: "impulsvbtch wrote: "my mom thinks I shouldn't get married cause she knows I dont want a family"Huh ??
Isn’t that your decision to make ?"
it i..."
Ohh…that’s a bit narrow thinking.
Unknown wrote: "Ishika wrote: "I hate thinking about future"TERRIFYING.
no seriously, future is dark and unknown
And my anxious brain can come up with 100 negative possibilities."
YES AND I HATE THAT
Ishika wrote: "I hate thinking about future"same, I'm very present oriented
Ishika wrote: "Unknown wrote: "Ishika wrote: "yes exactly (I was in grade 10 ig and I used to study with 25 boys and I was the only girl so...)"ONLY GIRL ??
Oh wow…I can’t imagine.
( ps - studied in only all ..."
Ohhh…I see, that’s better.
But…still, that’s kind of …. uncomfortable?
what's the longest romantic relationship y'all ever got in?
Unknown wrote: "Ishika wrote: "Unknown wrote: "Ishika wrote: "yes exactly (I was in grade 10 ig and I used to study with 25 boys and I was the only girl so...)"ONLY GIRL ??
Oh wow…I can’t imagine.
( ps - studi..."
You want to know the punishments boys used to get? Sitting with me for the entire 1 hour 10 minute
impulsvbtch wrote: "she also thinks I'm too emotionally distant to satisfy anyone's emotional needs which makes me go like, ''who's fault is that???''"There’s a term for that…
impulsvbtch wrote: "what's the longest romantic relationship y'all ever got in?"0 min
my classes were mostly Half girls and half guys
impulsvbtch wrote: "what's the longest romantic relationship y'all ever got in?"Sarah…I’m laughing so hard right now.
Went straight for the personal question didn’t you ??
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One more year.