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Unknown Reader’s nook of ✨positivity✨
I feel like permissive parents are raising spoiled and arrogant kids.This is why I need there should be some boundaries, authority, also of course guidance.
Both extremes are bad
impulsvbtch wrote: "Unknown wrote: "impulsvbtch wrote: "I'm also so against teaching children what to believe and have no idea why so many adults continue to do it. My five year old cousin was telling me how she doesn..."Why ??
5-9 years should say dumb stories and go to sleep.
When I was 7, me and my sister used to do stupid skits and roleplays
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Unknown wrote: "I feel like permissive parents are raising spoiled and arrogant kids.This is why I need there should be some boundaries, authority, also of course guidance.
Both extremes are bad"
Tell me about it! I have this cousin, who's mom lets him do whatever he wants! you can't mess with him, because at the end, he always turns out to be the victim. He thinks he's the center of the universe, and there's nothing more important than him!
you think I'm spoiled or arrogant? I have literally permission to do nothing but study. they don't even let me watch TV. if they knew about gr or the web series I'm watching then they'll literally kill me. and it's not that they're bad parents. they want me to excel by banning me to do things.
T. wrote: "May I watch this conversation?"Hello! Yes ofc! hehe.
Ishika wrote: "you think I'm spoiled or arrogant? I have literally permission to do nothing but study. they don't even let me watch TV. if they knew about gr or the web series I'm watching then they'll literally ..."My parents are kind of the same way...
Ishika wrote: "you think I'm spoiled or arrogant? I have literally permission to do nothing but study. they don't even let me watch TV. if they knew about gr or the web series I'm watching then they'll literally ..."Yeah...They don't mean any harm, they're just doing what thinks is best.
Maya [semi-hiatus] wrote: "T. wrote: "May I watch this conversation?"Hello! Yes ofc! hehe."
Thank you <3
Ishika wrote: "you think I'm spoiled or arrogant? I have literally permission to do nothing but study. they don't even let me watch TV. if they knew about gr or the web series I'm watching then they'll literally ..."I think my parents have a good balance between homework and TV. But if they knew I talk to people in gr, you probably never hear from me again.
but I don't think it's the best thing to do
Maya [semi-hiatus] wrote: "Ishika wrote: "you think I'm spoiled or arrogant? I have literally permission to do nothing but study. they don't even let me watch TV. if they knew about gr or the web series I'm watching then the..."Same !!
Ishika wrote: "but I don't think it's the best thing to do"Yeah, I know 😞
Remember …If I suddenly disappeared without any warning, it’s because I’ve been discovered…
Ishika wrote: "you think I'm spoiled or arrogant? I have literally permission to do nothing but study. they don't even let me watch TV. if they knew about gr or the web series I'm watching then they'll literally ..."That’s gonna lead to burnout.
Maya [semi-hiatus] wrote: "Ishika wrote: "but I don't think it's the best thing to do"Yeah, I know 😞"
Yes... And then there are the parents who think they are doing the right thing by restricting their child from everything... But they also abuse them...
yes if I dissappear then either I'm discovered or I died(just kidding)
That's not good at all.
T. wrote: "Maya [semi-hiatus] wrote: "Ishika wrote: "but I don't think it's the best thing to do"Yeah, I know 😞"
Yes... And then there are the parents who think they are doing the right thing by restrictin..."
You can’t even talk back or defend yourself because that’s disrespectful and we’re not willing to listen to them.
Yeah...
T. wrote: "Maya [semi-hiatus] wrote: "Ishika wrote: "but I don't think it's the best thing to do"Yeah, I know 😞"
Yes... And then there are the parents who think they are doing the right thing by restrictin..."
Yes, I'm not saying that what they're doing is okay or justified, I'm saying that some parents don't realize that what they're doing is wrong, even though they have good intentions.
Yess exactly. to them they are just trying to secure their kid's future.
Ishika wrote: "yes if I dissappear then either I'm discovered or I died(just kidding)"Those are the only two reasons I would disappear from GR for more than a day.
Ishika wrote: "Yess exactly. to them they are just trying to secure their kid's future."And insuring you’re not spoiled or irresponsible.
Maya [semi-hiatus] wrote: "T. wrote: "Maya [semi-hiatus] wrote: "Ishika wrote: "but I don't think it's the best thing to do"Yeah, I know 😞"
Yes... And then there are the parents who think they are doing the right thing by..."
I know... I feel bad for the child and the parents in that situation.
Unknown wrote: "impulsvbtch wrote: "Unknown wrote: "impulsvbtch wrote: "it makes me happy to know that there are parents that can think past all the ideologies of traditional parenting and who focus on having thei..."I feel like this has the potential to be highly effective as long as the child is taught boundaries, respect and shit like that from a young age. But it could especially benefit the kid's relationship with their parents once they start becoming a teenager and start getting curious about things.
The thing most parents don't understand is that by being strict, you are not ensuring the safety of your child because chances are, they either will do it anyway behind your back, or they won't but only out of fear of the punishment you'll inflict upon them and not because they know why they shouldn't do it. which might work alright, until the kid grows up and then boom, you've got a dependant adult who has no developed critical thinking skills, terrible communication skills and very low self esteem, which is much more harmful in the long run.
the purpose of having rules is to keep your kid safe and so many parents somehow forget that?
Ishika wrote: "you think I'm spoiled or arrogant? I have literally permission to do nothing but study. they don't even let me watch TV. if they knew about gr or the web series I'm watching then they'll literally ..."that's my point. the purpose of rules and boundaries is to keep your child safe. excessive rules never work
impulsvbtch wrote: "Unknown wrote: "impulsvbtch wrote: "Unknown wrote: "impulsvbtch wrote: "it makes me happy to know that there are parents that can think past all the ideologies of traditional parenting and who focu..."What you’ve describe is called ‘Authoritative Parenting’ which basically means setting clear expectations and also listening to your child’s demand. Aka being caring and nurturing.
Permissive parenting means only listening to your child’s demands and keeping no boundaries.
impulsvbtch wrote: "Unknown wrote: "impulsvbtch wrote: "Unknown wrote: "impulsvbtch wrote: "it makes me happy to know that there are parents that can think past all the ideologies of traditional parenting and who focu..."But exactly how are you supposed to explain that to them?
impulsvbtch wrote: "Unknown wrote: "impulsvbtch wrote: "Unknown wrote: "impulsvbtch wrote: "it makes me happy to know that there are parents that can think past all the ideologies of traditional parenting and who focu..."Omg! Yes! This is so true! If there's too many restrictions, your children will start hiding things from you, and do things behind your back.
my parents say that if I give up 2 years of my life then my future would become very easy. they don't care about college pressure and job pressure (and they think I'm an idiot who don't know about these things)
Unknown wrote: "impulsvbtch wrote: "Unknown wrote: "impulsvbtch wrote: "Unknown wrote: "impulsvbtch wrote: "it makes me happy to know that there are parents that can think past all the ideologies of traditional pa..."ah, I see. well, these are my thoughts anyway
Maya [semi-hiatus] wrote: "impulsvbtch wrote: "Unknown wrote: "impulsvbtch wrote: "Unknown wrote: "impulsvbtch wrote: "it makes me happy to know that there are parents that can think past all the ideologies of traditional pa..."You’ll lose trust and make the relationship suffocating.
Now your child has low self esteem, low communication skills and does not know how to express their feelings.
Oh, and they also do things behind your back.
and actually I have heard a lot of people say that giving up your life for 2 years is worth it.
Ishika wrote: "my parents say that if I give up 2 years of my life then my future would become very easy. they don't care about college pressure and job pressure (and they think I'm an idiot who don't know about ..."Give up 2 years ??
Why ??
Unknown wrote: "Maya [semi-hiatus] wrote: "impulsvbtch wrote: "Unknown wrote: "impulsvbtch wrote: "Unknown wrote: "impulsvbtch wrote: "it makes me happy to know that there are parents that can think past all the i..."This is exactly why I'm not friend with my parents.
Unknown wrote: "Ishika wrote: "my parents say that if I give up 2 years of my life then my future would become very easy. they don't care about college pressure and job pressure (and they think I'm an idiot who do..."I'm lost too 😅
Ishika wrote: "and actually I have heard a lot of people say that giving up your life for 2 years is worth it."Maybe ?
When I was young, I used to think whatever my parents are doing or saying is always right and fair. I also used to think they know me really well.As I grew older, this illusion shattered.
In my situation I already gave up a long time ago. I'm just worried about my younger sister...
no matter how pure their intentions may be, it does not change the damage they are causing. also, I don't see how any of what I said is rocket science? it's common sense. I have no interest in ever being a parent and don't know much about parenting and yet I can clearly see how harmful it is?
Ishika wrote: "You all know about JEE right?"Yes.
It’s for engineers ?
Ishika wrote: "You all know about JEE right?"I didn't, but I just googled it :)
Maya [semi-hiatus] wrote: "impulsvbtch wrote: "Unknown wrote: "impulsvbtch wrote: "Unknown wrote: "impulsvbtch wrote: "it makes me happy to know that there are parents that can think past all the ideologies of traditional pa..."yep. then when they need help, you'll be their last option because they know how badly you'll react. in what world does any of this seem safe?
JEE is an exam which around 10 lakh student give and out of which 10000 get a good college
Unknown wrote: "When I was young, I used to think whatever my parents are doing or saying is always right and fair. I also used to think they know me really well.As I grew older, this illusion shattered."
nah I never thought that
and my sister couldn't clear and she was much smarter
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