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anastasia
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Jan 17, 2015 12:31AM
Take your time. Don't rush the information.
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Ah... we all want to be accepted sometimes, right? But there's always going to be that one person who doesn't accept you for who you are, but that's fine, right? Because not everyone you meet or everyone you know can accept you. No matter how much you feel like you belong, you'll always be a stranger in another place. I'm not saying this in a harsh way, but you shouldn't force your friend to change his viewpoints/feelings towards homosexuals. If he accepts you, great! If not... well, it's not the end of the world, nor will it necessarily be the end of your friendship. You'll still be friends, except with a few boundaries. At least, I hope so. Anyway, though, don't be afraid to tell him about who you are.
Whichever way you think will be more comfortable for you. Or whichever way you think will be best for your friend to take in the information.
Maybe just flat out tell him, and then start getting into a deeper conversation about your sexuality and how you know he's a homophobic, and such.
I would probably do that. I'm a bit more straightforward sometimes when it comes to these types of situations... Well, whatever way works best for you. Good luck.
Anytime you need advice, I'm here. ;) Tell me how it goes, alright? I'm a bit tired, but a bit hyper at the same time. You know what I mean? I've been doing math for hours straight. ._. I'm pretty good overall, though. Thanks for asking. :) I'm about to go to bed, though. 'night!
Approach the subject a bit more lightly. Maybe tell him that you need to tell him something important, and then tell him flat out.
Ah, so this is online then. Personally, telling someone something like that is always easier for me wen I'm not face to face. You don't have todo this, but I would probably just say it now.
I think you'll feel better once it's out there. Slightly better anyway. Waiting for the reply will be painful, but at least you'll feel a bit at ease to some extent.
I know you can't really tell the tone of that comment since its online, but can you tell if he meant it in a harsh way or...?
Haha, it's nothing. There's no need to apologize. I'm always here for anyone who needs advice or help.
Is it alright if I talk to you later? It's hard to type a super long response on my phone and I would rather be able to type a response on my laptop. Alright, night for real. I hope all goes well between you and your friend!
I've... experienced a fraction of what you're going through right now, but I don't think in any way that I know how you feel. All I know, though, is that what you're going through is difficult. I've known and met a lot of homosexuals before and their coming out stories are--most of the time--difficult. But the good thing is--and hopefully this will ease the pain slightly--is that you're not denying your homosexuality and that you've already accepted yourself for who you are. Pretty much all the homosexuals I've met have said something about how much of a struggle it was for them to accept themselves and stop denying what they are. I'm not implying that I think it was easy for you, but I'm saying that it's a good thing now that you're not denying your homosexuality. Letting that be known to others is also a very difficult part. I know you're reluctant and scared to talk to your family about it, but you can't keep denying them that information forever. They should know, but I'm not forcing you to tell them. If you do choose to talk to them, ask them first to spare some time to talk with you. That way--I hope--they'll see that the conversation you're going to have with them will be serious. What you'll say to them will be up to you, though. Are you aware if your family is against homosexuality or not? Or do you don't know/You think they're pretty neutral on the subject? That may play a key role in how you're going to approach the subject when you talk to your parents and brother. Oh--I want you to know that I'm not trying to force you into doing anything XD. What you do is up to you, but I'm just giving you advice based on what I would do if I were in your situation. How you're going to explain it to them later is pretty much up to you. Talking face to face is a hard thing to do, but there's nothing you should be afraid of. It'll be easier to come out to your other friends and relatives after you've came out to your parents and brother. At least, that's what I hope. Besides, your parents should love you for who you are, right? They shouldn't treat you differently if they know you're a homosexual. The way they treat you now should be the way they treat you even if they knew about your sexual orientation. I'm not going to call them out as bad parents if they don't accept you; as I said before, sometimes, you just can't force someone to change their opinions or viewpoints on something. But, ultimately, even if they don't agree on the same things you do, that doesn't mean they can't accept you, even if that acceptance has a few boundaries. Anyway, I hope I seemed coherent in this and that it makes sense and that it helps you in some way. Probably not. But yeah.
Omfg I just read over my comment and it doesn't make any sense at all ;_;
Lol I just had a bit of a hard time trying to piece my thoughts together coherently
yeah well I'm a nice person xDgood luck :3
I was literally just singing this song and I posted the lyrics in my journal just now .___.
anastasia ⊰ ᴀɴᴅ ɪɴ ᴛʜᴇ ᴇɴᴅ, ɪɴ Wση∂єяℓαη∂, ᴡᴇ ʙᴏᴛʜ ᴡᴇɴᴛ ｍａｄ ⊱ wrote: "I was literally just singing this song and I posted the lyrics in my journal just now .___."I Know Places I mean xDDD
Good job :) I'm sure your brother will be fine with it, too.
Good job :) I'm sure your brother will be fine with it, too.
you held on tight to me'cause nothing's as it seems
spinning out of control
(no that's right)ooh, didn't it all seem new and exciting?
I felt your arms twisting around me
I should've slept with one eye opened at night
Hello there,I don't believe we've met beforeWell you see I'm dark aurora,but you can call me dark.a
And I believe that I'm bullshitting right,sorry for that,btw....XD
And they sayShe's in the Class A Team
Stuck in her daydream
Been this way since eighteen
But lately her face seems
Slowly sinking, wasting
Crumbling like pastries
And they scream
The worst things in life come free to us
'Cause we're just under the upper hand
And go mad for a couple grams
And she don't want to go outside tonight
And in a pipe she flies to the Motherland
Or sells love to another man
It's too cold outside
For angels to fly
Angels to fly
☾Max☽ wrote: "i am so done. just people stop."
:( what's wrong?
:( what's wrong?
i think he meant don't talk to him.
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-adonis ❰Stitched you up, put you together With cotton and feather Gave you love, put my heart inside you Oh what could I do When you started talking
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I feel the exact same way, I am so sorry. I know how horrible it isAs Meiyu said, pick the good golden apples of friends off the tree and leave the fuji ones to die in a hole :)
