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message 1: by [deleted user] (last edited Sep 17, 2009 09:08AM) (new)

After Kanye West's (un)planned outburst, after Rep. Joe Wilson's "liar" outburst, after Serena Williams' threatening a shove a tennis ball up a line judge's ass, one thing they've done is apologize through their blogs or via Twitter. Well, except for Wilson; he may be too stupid to use the InterWebz.

I think this goes without saying, but using technology to apologize for something you've said or done wrong is a meek and extremely passive-aggressive way to cop out of actually apologizing to the person you've wrong. Are we to assume that Taylor Swift has read Kanye's apology via his blog?

Man up, people. Apologize personally to those you've done or said something to, and leave the drama out of your blog. That's like back in the late '90s, when it became nearly acceptable to break up with someone via a voice mail or fax. Inexcusable.


message 2: by [deleted user] (new)

I believe that Joe Wilson did apologize on the phone to the Prez. What he wouldn't do is apologize in person to the rest of the House.

But I agree, make the effort to apologize in person, that will always be deemed more sincere.



message 3: by Julie (new)

Julie | 568 comments It's only okay if you are apologizing for something you said on a previous blog or tweet. Like when the newspaper prints an apology.
Otherwise, definitely in person.
Unless Kanye or Serena were apologizing to people in general for their behavior, to let the rest of the world know they are sorry. I can see doing that if you are famous.


message 4: by Stephen (new)

Stephen (stephenT) I say do it face to face or you're coward.


message 5: by RandomAnthony (new)

RandomAnthony | 14536 comments I think you can sometimes, face to face, tell a sincere apology from public relations. An insincere apology is worse than none at all. But on twitter/blogs/etc. it's hard to gauge sincerity.


message 6: by RandomAnthony (new)

RandomAnthony | 14536 comments Well said, Misha.




message 7: by [deleted user] (new)

Yes, well said, Misha. Thank you!


message 8: by Leslie (last edited Sep 17, 2009 03:07PM) (new)

Leslie | 777 comments That's interesting. Apologizing is so important--in public and private life.

One thing that we used to do when our daughter was little, if she saw my husband and me argueing, then she had to see us make up. If she saw him be rude to me, or me him, she had to see the rude person apologize. We apologized to her if we hurt her feelings or were rude. And she is great about apologizing to people when she does something wrong or that hurts someone's feelings. I don't think it bothers her much to do it. I feel good about it, I'm just sad about all the bickering and worse she witnessed before we got divorced.

If it is the case of a public figure, then a public apology should be made, along with a personal, private apology, I think.


message 9: by Leslie (new)

Leslie | 777 comments Thanks! I appreciate that! I know, we fight in the livingroom and then make up behind closed doors--that's not good. And I know people who won't apologize to their kids no matter what they do, but they expect the kids to apologize to them. That's just wrong and hypocritical. It makes me mad!


message 10: by Erika (new)

Erika Rich (erika2976) | 25 comments It is a cop out!! If you were man enough to get in her face in front of everybody then MAN up and stand in her face and say you are sorry!!!That is like breaking up with someone with a text message!!!!!


If I were her I wouldn't even want to hear it from him!! I agree with Misha when she said 'I question their motives'!!!! Is the "apology" forced or sincere?!!




message 11: by Stephen (new)

Stephen (stephenT) What Erika said. Hear hear.


message 12: by [deleted user] (new)

For me, I'm more galled by Serena Williams' apology via her blog, and her "ignorance" she demonstrated during the press conference after her match meltdown. She swore she did not threaten the line judge, when she clearly did. I think her blog apology came across as very hollow; she should have apologized to the line judge right then and there, and been the better person for doing so, rather than hide behind technology.


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