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At first the book seemed to be a random set of thoughts and reflections on life. Then it told more of the story about his grandfather, Gilead, his life etc.
For me the turning point was when Jack came to visit John to talk (he was wearing a tie and everything). He had asked about Pre-determinism (your fate is predetermined versus you have free will). John seemed to take the question as a challenge to his religion or to his knowledge, and he seemed to approach the question theoretically. But then Jack hinted that he believed that his own fate was already determined and that he was already fated to burn in hell. (That's how I interpreted it.) My heart was aching that John didn't recognize this, and didn't realize the pain Jack was in.
I felt like he wanted John to tell him that no, it's not too late. Your fate is up to you, you're worthy, god loves you, your father loves you, I love you, etc. But I guess it's easy for me to say that because I don't believe in fate, and I'm not sure I believe in hell.
It made me think about conversations with friends and family, and questions that I got from students or clients in the past. I'm wondering how often I failed to recognize the emotional subtext of questions. Did I recognize when questions were personal versus conceptual? Especially with my kids.
For me the turning point was when Jack came to visit John to talk (he was wearing a tie and everything). He had asked about Pre-determinism (your fate is predetermined versus you have free will). John seemed to take the question as a challenge to his religion or to his knowledge, and he seemed to approach the question theoretically. But then Jack hinted that he believed that his own fate was already determined and that he was already fated to burn in hell. (That's how I interpreted it.) My heart was aching that John didn't recognize this, and didn't realize the pain Jack was in.
I felt like he wanted John to tell him that no, it's not too late. Your fate is up to you, you're worthy, god loves you, your father loves you, I love you, etc. But I guess it's easy for me to say that because I don't believe in fate, and I'm not sure I believe in hell.
It made me think about conversations with friends and family, and questions that I got from students or clients in the past. I'm wondering how often I failed to recognize the emotional subtext of questions. Did I recognize when questions were personal versus conceptual? Especially with my kids.

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Thanks for researching that Codie! I've read a lot of books about slavery so far, but few of them really dealt with abolition movement. (Some of the story lines are so similar, I think they must be based on the same source material.) I'd like to read more about the real underground railroad.
I'm sorry for all the things you're going through now. I agree that parts were hard to get through, sometimes for different reasons. The tenderness really came through on the audio. The contrast between the tenderness and coldness of different parts really affected me. It brought up unexpected memories. The honesty and transformation he went through was quite powerful.
Ella recommended a book about grief that I want to read. Have you read this? Grief is the Thing with Feathers
I started years ago to write a letter to my son, but I didn't get very far. It was really hard to find the right words for what I wanted to say. I kept rethinking key ideas. I couldn't finish it, but it did force me to think about things from different perspectives. Maybe those new perspectives improved our verbal communication a little.
I'm sorry for all the things you're going through now. I agree that parts were hard to get through, sometimes for different reasons. The tenderness really came through on the audio. The contrast between the tenderness and coldness of different parts really affected me. It brought up unexpected memories. The honesty and transformation he went through was quite powerful.
Ella recommended a book about grief that I want to read. Have you read this? Grief is the Thing with Feathers
I started years ago to write a letter to my son, but I didn't get very far. It was really hard to find the right words for what I wanted to say. I kept rethinking key ideas. I couldn't finish it, but it did force me to think about things from different perspectives. Maybe those new perspectives improved our verbal communication a little.

Codie wrote: "I got the Grief book from my library today. A short read, it looks like. And we’ve got a 5 hour drive to Florida Wednesday. We’ll see how it goes! I also picked up a composition book from the store."
Good for you starting a new journal! Have a good trip!
Good for you starting a new journal! Have a good trip!
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Grief Is the Thing with Feathers (other topics)
Questions that came to mind...
What did you think of the characters?
Do you keep a journal, or have you written a letter for someone to read later in their life (or when you're gone)? Could you?
How did John and Jack perceive each other? Did they help, hurt or influence one another?
Does anyone know if there was a significant history in Gilead and the Abolitionist movement? Or was that fictitious?
Is there anything else that John might have done to help Jack?
How did the book make you feel?
Did you see the discussion as more theoretical or more personal?