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Romance novels are definetly an unrealistic view of romance that I escape into. I get so attached to certain characters and their stories that like goes on without me sometimes. I feel obsessed until I get my fill. Outlander is different for me because there has been nothing else out there that has kept me interested for so long(maybe because there is so much time between books). But I'm just so excited to have the show now so I can feed my obsession in a whole new way. I do have times where I wish my husband, also named Jamie, could be more romantic. We've been married for 17 years and I have to just remember that he does do things it's just his way and not the way I would have chosen sometimes. I love him for all that he does and it's not fair to compare him to a fictional character but it can be hard not to want those things sometimes. His idea of romance is a couple of drinks and let's hop into bed. He doesn't need anymore than that so it's hard for him to understand that I do. I'm still working on him though. I was hopeing the show would help but he seems to be dead set on not likeing it, no matter how much I do!!!!
Chery,I can`t believe my own brain sometimes.I read these love stories and the things the guys supposedly tells the woman all the way thru the book and I know it`s the writer that's telling her that and then I wonder how can I believe any man Is going to talk like that?What I want to know is where they hide them?
Once they are comfy with you it`s all over for sweet words I do believe.
You should read https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/1...It was one of my first romance books when I was 16. I refused to read so my oldest sister gave me the book and read the first two chapters to me. OMG, I was a avid romance reader after that. It is a lot like the Outlander series. Not all the books have time travel but you learn about the family through generations and timelines.
Men are not made like that. It seems so simple to us but you are asking a cement ball to bounce. There is a movie you must watch "Don Jaun" that is about this very topic. He is addict to porn and she romance. Both equally unrealistic and alone.
Ya know, the other night I was at work and I had a patient die unexpectedly. It was awful. I came home and talked to my husband about it and he surprised me and took me shopping and told me to spend as much as I wanted. He took me to dinner and a manicure. That was just the sweetest thing.I think my husband is as sweet as Jamie in his own way. We've been married for 6 years and he just gets better as time goes by.
That is awesome. My husband is far from perfect but he is my Jamie. I was the first girl he kissed back in 1984! He was raised by his very old fashioned grandparents so he was raised with old school manners and respect. He is a gentleman most of the time. We have been married almost 29 years.
Aww, that's awesome Diane. I hope when we have been married for 29 years that we are still as close as you and your husband is.I think it's easy to compare our significant others to the men in love stories. I think that you and I are lucky enough that when we read romances we see our husbands in those characters and we don't have to wish they were more like those characters.
We were 19 when we married also. They gave us 6 minths! HA! here we are still getting butterflies for each other at times.When you say the Giant are you talking about the grocery store Giant?
That was my first job when I was 16 :) I was in Northern Virginia then. I know Giant is more regional of the DC, Va and Md area so I was surprised to see that.
Back then Giant didn't extend to Pa. yet.
Like unrealistic porn is for men, romance novels can be for women. Do you have a difficult time in relationships searching for the "Jamie Fraser"? Expecting, wanting, longing for unrealistic love?
What do you think?