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message 1: by I*rule*all (new)

I*rule*all  (iruleall) | 776 comments I have bad news on my part- my Mom has cheated on my dad for months and now has asked for a divorce.

It's a lot for me to digest, along with the fact that my classmate's dad just committed suicide. I'm only 13, and so much is happening, it's enough to make you scream...

But anyways, I'm not getting support from either of my parents or my brother, and my classmate needs her time in the spotlight, but thank God for my friends, wether online or not. I just need a little support, and an answer to this: What the hell do I do now?!


message 2: by I*rule*all (new)

I*rule*all  (iruleall) | 776 comments Well, the thing is, Dad still loves mom, and he more than eagerly would take her back. It's a war I wish I could fight and win.


message 3: by I*rule*all (last edited Aug 31, 2009 11:19AM) (new)

I*rule*all  (iruleall) | 776 comments Hey, don't worry, I'm a sailor mouth when I'm pissed.

But I feel like God's LAUGHING at me. (we're.. not on good terms) It's hard to explain.


message 4: by Devon (last edited Aug 31, 2009 12:20PM) (new)

Devon Hmm... Whoa. Well, is your mom only asking for the divorce cause she was found out or is it something else? (Sorry, I hope you don't mind my asking). Are your parents absolutely ignoring you when you try to talk about those king of things?

As for what you can do, I'd say the best thing is to talk to your friends about it. Blog. Whatever comes in handy. Last year, a close friend of my family's had committed suicide. It's really helped with them to talk about it and work their way through it. But just remember with those kind of things don't let people say 'it's been ____ weeks/months/years. You should be over it by now.' There is no timestamp that says when you'll be over your grief of that kind of loss.

As for the divorce thing... can't really help you there. True, my parents are also getting divorced, but it's something that's been a long time coming.

I hope this helps you somewhat at least.


message 5: by I*rule*all (new)

I*rule*all  (iruleall) | 776 comments I'm ashamed. I'm litterally ashamed.

I feel like Mom just.. just doesn't love us. All she cares about is that bastard!! I got so mad I broke a bottle yesterday.


message 6: by Ruchi (new)

Ruchi (ohlookitsruchi) Friends are always there for comfort, but sometimes you need someone wiser and older to advise you. Try talking to a school counsellor?

Also, you must understand that if your mum wants a divorce, then forcing her to try and make the marriage work will not do a whole lot of good. My parents did this for years, and it made everyone miserable. Sometimes, it just doesn't work out between your parents. That's their relationship. It doesn't mean that she doesn't love you. Talk to her. Talk to your dad. Try to rage as little as possible and to not dwell on negative emotions much, because it'll just make you more upset and incapacitate you. I know its going to be difficult and hard on you, but you have to be as mature about it as possible.

Don't hide your emotions, but also think about what you say. Its a hard time for everyone.


message 7: by Ain020596 (new)

Ain020596 AW man, Your strong, I'll give you that. Hugs and Smiles to ya!
Well, to be honest, I cant give much advice, because if i were you, I would have snapped, very very hard.
Just hang in there. I have friction with my mum alot, and sometimes i feel like i hate her and stuff. I know how it feels when you feel alone, ignored and damn f***ing furious. But hang in there. (I'm 13 too. So i totally understand)I promise you'll cope k? I'll give you tips. Distract yourself alot; listen to music, develop passions, work up that imagination. Your sad? Dont cry. Sing, Dance, draw something to express yourself. Your angry? Dont hit, dont go to the streets and beat up people. Get a private blog and use all the swear words you want, draw pictures of pure rage. I know people say talk to the parents, but sometimes you just cant. So talk to friends. You feel like just hitting anything in your path? Go to the gym and work out all that rage out. You have a huge boiling hate? Get on the cold floor and do as many push-ups as you can. Trust me, after all that exercise, you'll be satisfied with yourself.
Thats how you get your mind of. Just hang in there:):)


message 8: by I*rule*all (new)

I*rule*all  (iruleall) | 776 comments I think Mom's reconsidering.. My dad still loves her. Thanks everyone for your caring and support. LONG LIVE THE CARING ANTIS!!


message 9: by I*rule*all (new)

I*rule*all  (iruleall) | 776 comments Awww... I heart you guys. Nobody at my school would care.


message 10: by Ain020596 (new)

Ain020596 Ohmygosh, thats so sad! But its okay! Anti twlighters have hearts!:)


message 11: by Luna (new)

Luna | 871 comments yay! heartful haters!


message 12: by Luna (last edited Sep 03, 2009 08:58PM) (new)

Luna | 871 comments wait that didnt come out right. or did it?


message 13: by Luna (new)

Luna | 871 comments that haters have heart! and so yay!


message 14: by Luna (new)

Luna | 871 comments oh then yay! correct use of words!


message 15: by Ruchi (new)

Ruchi (ohlookitsruchi) <3 hang in there, love


message 16: by I*rule*all (last edited Sep 04, 2009 03:58PM) (new)

I*rule*all  (iruleall) | 776 comments Thanks, Zeppelin. I'm feeling a lot better cuz of you guys. Pats on the back for everyone!!!


message 17: by Ain020596 (new)

Ain020596 Huggy!:P


message 18: by I*rule*all (new)

I*rule*all  (iruleall) | 776 comments Yay! Start the hug chain across the internet!!!!!




message 19: by I*rule*all (new)

I*rule*all  (iruleall) | 776 comments What?! If you start a hug chain across the internet, then... well, nevermind, bu we should still do a hug chain! Or a kill the twitards chain.


message 20: by Luna (new)

Luna | 871 comments ya neither do I, although I love giving hugs to people who have a free hugs! sign :) Im gonna have one during school :D


message 21: by I*rule*all (new)

I*rule*all  (iruleall) | 776 comments And I don't like being strangled by my nephew, but it doesn't matter to him.


message 22: by I*rule*all (new)

I*rule*all  (iruleall) | 776 comments He thinks it's funny to strangle me.


message 23: by Ain020596 (new)

Ain020596 hahahahaha!!!!:)
I like hugs! But i hate hugging adults. Even my parents. It just weirds me out.


message 24: by Luna (new)

Luna | 871 comments ya I hate it when Im at like some party that my parents make me go to, I halfta hug adults that know me but I have no idea who they are DX


message 25: by Ain020596 (new)

Ain020596 hahahha thats bad. When i got to my relatives houses and the old people try and act chummy its really weird. and my aunts and uncles would act tt way to. ew


message 26: by Luna (new)

Luna | 871 comments ya it gets worse, I also have to kiss them on the cheek! DX


message 27: by Ain020596 (new)

Ain020596 yea! My auntie asks me to kiss both her cheeks and her forehead! Can you believe it?!? And then she kisses me back!! Its so gross!!


message 28: by I*rule*all (new)

I*rule*all  (iruleall) | 776 comments Steph wrote: "*strangles him* WHO'S LAUGHING NOW? HUH?"

THAT'LL TEACH YA, YOU MIDGET PUNK!!!

...Sorry. Yeah, hugging adults sucks. Huging TEACHERS is the murder shot here.


message 29: by I*rule*all (new)

I*rule*all  (iruleall) | 776 comments Jeez, I have to hug all my teachers every year and the end.


message 30: by Luna (new)

Luna | 871 comments OMGI WOULD FREAKING DIE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


message 31: by I*rule*all (new)

I*rule*all  (iruleall) | 776 comments Well, I'm the "chick who makes friends with the teachers" at school, so... Yeah.


message 32: by Simona-- (new)

Simona-- I'm kind of intense  (completelyinsane) | 806 comments I have a guy teacher so I am not submitted to awkward hugging experiences.


message 33: by Ain020596 (last edited Sep 07, 2009 08:43PM) (new)

Ain020596 lol!
My teacher of three years hugged me for getting second in the whole school and one of the best results our school has ever had for the national exams last year. It was touching. Although awkward since she squeezed me infront of the school.*blushes* I suprisingly like it. I've grown attached to her, although she is pretty biased. sighs. Nice times. now i'm fluuunkiiing...


message 34: by Luna (new)

Luna | 871 comments I remember in 6th grade, I had a teacher I didnt really like, like I didnt hate him but ya he was okay, and we had to learn the most retarded dances eva! and so one time it was partner dance and so when the teacher was pairing us up I was the one who didnt have a partner and I HAD TO DANCE WITH HIM!! worst 6th grade memory ever


message 35: by Ain020596 (new)

Ain020596 Rose wrote: "Luna wrote: "I remember in 6th grade, I had a teacher I didnt really like, like I didnt hate him but ya he was okay, and we had to learn the most retarded dances eva! and so one time it was partner..."

lol!!!!!!


message 36: by Ain020596 (new)

Ain020596 Rose wrote: "I know exactly how ya feel Aino, I used to be such the smarty pants!!! Then middle school happened and I was never THAT perfect again. I mean, I'm not HORRIBLE IN EVERY CLASS!!!! I'm just always cl..."

Hey! Call me Ain!XD


message 37: by Luna (new)

Luna | 871 comments Rose wrote: "Luna wrote: "I remember in 6th grade, I had a teacher I didnt really like, like I didnt hate him but ya he was okay, and we had to learn the most retarded dances eva! and so one time it was partner..."

awwwwwwwwwwwww that sucks. BE STRONG ROSE BE STRONG! I remember one of the retarded dances was like this, ummmm it was a scottish dance? no I dun remember but it was a partner dance and so the formation was like every person was facing their partner and it was like two circles and ya, so at one point we had to spin in our cirlce thing and my partner WAS LIKE CRASHING INTO THE DUDES NEXT TO HIM AND IT WAS SO HILARIOUS I WAS CRASHING INTO THE PEOPLE AROUND ME AND YA! I dont think I really explained that too well... oh well!


message 38: by Luna (new)

Luna | 871 comments Ain020596 wrote: "Rose wrote: "Luna wrote: "I remember in 6th grade, I had a teacher I didnt really like, like I didnt hate him but ya he was okay, and we had to learn the most retarded dances eva! and so one time i..."

u wouldnt laugh if it was you! hes a very... how to say this, determined dancer(not in a rapey perverted way tho)




message 39: by Ain020596 (new)

Ain020596 lol guys, Where i come from, we dont have dances:)
The government's big on education. Our education system *sits upright and starts talking in a lecturing voice* is excellent and students almost die from stress. In fact, you can actually wikipedia our education system! aha! http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Educatio...
well, its boring. but hahah! So wats it like having to find dates and dancing with bad food?


message 40: by Ain020596 (new)

Ain020596 Yep. Why?


message 41: by Ain020596 (new)

Ain020596 lol!
But wats it like having dances? I'm really curious!


message 42: by Luna (new)

Luna | 871 comments it was retarded dances, I went to a private school up till 5th grade and the public school I went to made you do retarded dances but then i graduated and ONWARD TO MIDDLE SCHOOL and so I dont do dances anymore


message 43: by I*rule*all (new)

I*rule*all  (iruleall) | 776 comments Wait, when in hell did we start talking about our worst memories?


message 44: by Luna (new)

Luna | 871 comments lol, ur right!


message 45: by I*rule*all (new)

I*rule*all  (iruleall) | 776 comments Oh, well. lol



message 46: by Madeline (new)

Madeline (madelinemoghimi) I*rule*all wrote: "I have bad news on my part- my Mom has cheated on my dad for months and now has asked for a divorce.

It's a lot for me to digest, along with the fact that my classmate's dad just committed suici..."


dont do anything stupid stay in there just remember the closer you are to 18 the better dont let them drag you to therapy and keep your friends close


message 47: by *Sklip* (new)

*Sklip*  (stalkerninja) parents........~sigh~


message 48: by Madeline (new)

Madeline (madelinemoghimi) i know my parents got divorced when i was like 3


message 49: by *Sklip* (new)

*Sklip*  (stalkerninja) my parents fight a lot nowadays. they might get a divorce.

wow, i am so mad. one of my all-time fave songs is You Spin Me Right Round by Dead or Alive. well, Flo Rida just totally KILLED it


message 50: by Madeline (new)

Madeline (madelinemoghimi) that sucks (about your parents)


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