Question H

[Jonetta]

Emma and Parnell Vaughn had a dysfunctional relationship. When Frank determined that Emma was the abuser, no one seemed to be able to even envision a woman abusing a man. Your thoughts about this reverse role in domestic violence?

[Phrynne]

I think people still find this difficult to accept, There was a case recently in Australia and the woman in question was a tiny little thing who looked totally sweet and demure. I think she used a combination of emotional and physical abuse.

[Jonetta]

I agree, Phrynne. In this story, they out and out rejected the idea. Today, most would at least consider the possibility but it’s still hard to fathom when the male is physically stronger.

[Robin]

People today still have a hard time believing that a woman could be the abuser. I don't think they believe that a man would put up with it.

[~ Giulia ~]

It's sad but even today people have a hard time believing a woman could abuse a man. As if the man being physically stronger is the only thing that keeps women from leaving a situation of domestic violence.

[Lauren]

Yes, no one wants to believe that women can abuse men just like they don't want to accept that children kill.

Battered wife syndrome should be battered spouse syndrome.

[Robin]

Lauren wrote: "Battered wife syndrome should be battered spouse syndrome."

So true.

[Jonetta]

Amen to that, Lauren!

[Sharon]

It is hard to believe that women can get an upper hand on a man even today. The fact is that some women start as "nagging" then it progresses to more verbal and physical abuse. I watch a lot of true crime. It isn't unusual for a policeman to say something like, how can that little woman hurt her husband.

I don't think it happens as often, but I can see where men would be just as ashamed and afraid to report the abuse as women.

[Jonetta]

I agree, Sharon. It’s still hard for people to see this role reversal but we’re getting there.