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Watcha Doin' - 2019
Margo wrote: "So sorry Sandra. I can imagine how you feel being so far from your family at this time. I don’t think we are ever ready for the end to come for our loved ones. Hugs."
Thank you, Margo. I hope you feel better soon.
Janice wrote: "I also shied away from telling about my situation in this thread with it's large audience. I did post about it in buddy reads, group reads, which have a smaller audience. Part of my issue is that I..."It seems the whole situation doesn't help. I think it is your right to mourn him if you feel you lost someone important to you. Big hug.
Travis wrote: "I was doing some fiels work on rented ground and going along road side I had some old fencing tangle. I dragged it to edge of field and figured I'll roll it and put it under that Willow tree. Under..."o.0
Kristie wrote: "Hugs, Janice!! I understand. There is some family drama around my brother’s passing and services. It’s difficult because everyone is hurting and just trying to do the best they can. It’s funny, I..."
Thanks Kristie. I was thinking about you all day today.
I was feeling bad about sharing my feelings, especially when others have more recent losses. Howver, by sharing our experiences, we learn that we're not all that different after all.
Margo wrote: "Apologies to everyone else whose posts I haven't read. Not feeling too good tonight and just spotted Sandras message in my feed and wanted to offer electronic support. .."I hope you're feeling better soon, Margo.
Travis wrote: "I was doing some fiels work on rented ground and going along road side I had some old fencing tangle. I dragged it to edge of field and figured I'll roll it and put it under that Willow tree. Under..."ROFL! You have the best stories, Travis.
i just caught up with this thread. Big hugs all around.
It does feel like 2019 is a rough year all around. I know it is drama after drama around here, Some huge, some small, but it never stops.
Esther wrote: "i just caught up with this thread. Big hugs all around.
It does feel like 2019 is a rough year all around. I know it is drama after drama around here, Some huge, some small, but it never stops."
Esther is spot on - echoing her sentiment - sending good thoughts to all those dealing with life's challenges.
Travis wrote: "I was doing some fiels work on rented ground and going along road side I had some old fencing tangle. I dragged it to edge of field and figured I'll roll it and put it under that Willow tree. Under..."Lol, you won't look at your neighbours the same again!
Sandra wrote: "Thank you, all. I am trying to go through the process. I think it is the healthy thing to do.
I didn't want to tell this here before, because I didn't want to bring up sad topics. I had "forgotte..."
Ah bless your heart Sandra. Thinking of you.
I didn't want to tell this here before, because I didn't want to bring up sad topics. I had "forgotte..."
Ah bless your heart Sandra. Thinking of you.
Travis wrote: "I was doing some fiels work on rented ground and going along road side I had some old fencing tangle. I dragged it to edge of field and figured I'll roll it and put it under that Willow tree. Under..."yikes!!! you are off not knowing that one Travis ;-p
Janice wrote: "I also shied away from telling about my situation in this thread with it's large audience. I did post about it in buddy reads, group reads, which have a smaller audience. Part of my issue is that I..."Pete faced a similar situation a few months age Janice when his uncle died . In this instance it was the new wife being oversensitive and ferling that she had no place at the funeral. My father-in-laws new partner managed to talk her in to standing beside the former wife and their son in church and at the graveside. Second families are not easy it would be awful to see jealousy and division at a funeral.
At a recent funeral locally where there had been a rift in the family there was security posted at the church to keep one set of relatives out. Not a dignified send off. It was the funeral of a 21 year old.
It's sad when differences can't be put aside at a funeral, or when someone doesn't feel welcome or is unsure whether to attend. I have a meeting with the manager on Monday about extension of my contract. I'm pretty sure I can stay, but don't know whether my contract will be extended by 1 year or whether I'll get a permanent contract. I hope the latter! That was also promised to me when I took up the job, but that was with a different manager and I don't have it in writing.
I'm also not sure what to expect on Monday, so whether it's more like a formality that already has been decided on, or whether I need to make my case and convince him.
Yikes, Margo! That's so sad that there was such a division in that family. I was at a wedding like that. There were people posted at the door to keep the groom's mother out. That marriage lasted a couple of years. I agree that 2019 has been a tough year. Here's hoping that 2020 will be better.
Yikes. Sad that people will go to measures to keep other people out. I’m going through old pictures today to see what I can find from when my brother was younger for my SIL. I am loving all the old memories.
I think it's so healing to go through pictures and smile or laugh at the memories.
Or finding surprises. I could not believe what I found in the pictures of Dad. Things I remembered half of but not the whole. Or the fact he was hot as a 20 year old!!! Never saw him at that age, as he was 45+ when I was born. The photos were astounding when I worked out who they were!
I keep finding old pictures and taking pictures of them and texting them to people so they can see them too. Mostly these have been pictures of my kids and nieces and nephews when they were little, but I sent some to my best friend of her kids when they were little and even us back in high school. I forgot I had most of those pictures.
Sorry for your loss Kristie. I can't imagine what it's like to lose two people in quick succession. Sorry to hear about your gran Sandra. And sorry to hear you are struggling Janice. I remember we had a ylto new year party at the beginning of the year because 2018 had been a hard year for a lot of members but it seems this year is another bad one . It's the funeral of Rob's stepdad on Wednesday . His former family won't be attending. There wasn't supposed to be a funeral but now there is because the lab wouldn't accept his body for medical research due to him having a condition linked to asbestos. There is a compensation claim going through and a will which his kids aren't liking and it has all got very messy. Luckily we're not involved but Rob's mum is finding it hard.What a find Travis! At least your kids didn't find it. Rofl.
I've just been on a 2 day suicide prevention course .I knew it would be heavy going but it was so emotionally draining . It's the hardest course I've ever done . But also one of the best. Today has been lovely weather and we moved the boat down the big lock flight. We had some friends surprise us by showing up to help us so we made it down in record time.
I'm sorry to hear about Rob's stepdad, Sarah. Emotions are so raw at a time like that and trying to settle estates just compounds things. I hope the course will be helpful to you in your practice. I have 2 friends who are social workers and work with Suicide Prevention. Actually, one was in charge of the "Men at Risk" program and has recently retired. The other's daughter committed suicide a number of years ago. I have always admired the work these women have done and that fact that they are both such positive people.
Kristie you have my heartfelt prayers. Two losses so close together is so hard. Please remember to take good care of yourself. At a time like this it is easy to forget that you have to take care of yourself.i>Kristie wrote: "This week has been a bit rough for me. On Tuesday I found out that a friend of mine passed away. She was ill and it was expected, but still very sad. She was such a wonderful and kind person.
Abo..."
Thanks, Renee. I'm trying. This will be a long stressful week with preparation and travel. I'm hoping I'll have to time to just relax next week. As of now, I think my brother's services will be on Friday (we're just waiting on confirmation tomorrow) in New Hampshire and my friend's will be Saturday in Virginia. So, I'm probably going to have to miss hers.
Definitely a class you need some self-care after, Sarah, but I'm sure you learned a lot. Hopefully, there was content you'll be able to apply to your work.
My godson started a suicide prevention nonprofit in high school. He decided to stay local for college so that he would be around for it. It means a lot to him and he's worked really hard raising money for awareness. https://www.miasp.org
Kristie I'm so sorry to hear about your friend. I missed that post.
Yes self care was definitely of importance. That is fantastic what your godson has done!
Kristie, what an amazing thing your godson has done! We need more young leaders like this.
He's a really impressive kid. For years he said he wanted to be president when he grew up. His heart is really in this project.
Maybe someday he will be president. :)
Maybe. He recently decided he didn't want to do that. There's too much going on in our country around the presidency right now. I can't blame him. But you never know, he could change his mind.
My grandma passed yesterday. I am very sad but also calm. At some point I realized that my anxiety was specially linked to my terror of her being in that unconscious state for too long. She was like this at the hospital for more than a week, and although the situation was irreversible, her heart was healthy and strong. It was frightening for me to think she could stay like that for a long period. I didn't want that for her. It would have been unfair. I am terribly sad, but I know she is better now.
Sandra wrote: "My grandma passed yesterday. I am very sad but also calm. At some point I realized that my anxiety was specially linked to my terror of her being in that unconscious state for too long. She was lik..."So sorry to hear Sandra, it must be very difficult being so far away - sending good thoughts your way.
Sorry to hear that Sandra. It will be a sad time for your family. Will you make to the funeral?
Sandra wrote: "My grandma passed yesterday. I am very sad but also calm. At some point I realized that my anxiety was specially linked to my terror of her being in that unconscious state for too long. She was lik..."
Thinking of you Sandra.
Thinking of you Sandra.
I'm so sorry, Sandra! Big hugs to you.
Thank you, guys.The funeral was yesterday, since we don't do embalming in Uruguay.
Sorry to hear about your grandma Sandra. Sending hugs to you. Actually ,I think the whole of ylto needs one big group hug.
Sorry for your loss, Sandra. I'm glad she wasn't in that state too long and you can relax a bit now. Sending hugs. I agree, Sarah. Hugs all around.
Sandra you have my heartfelt condolences. I will keep you in my prayers.
So sorry to hear that Sandra.I have some happy news, hope you don't mind me sharing. I'll get a permanent contract at work!!!
Long version: I had a meeting with the manager yesterday about extension of my contract. I was pretty sure I could stay, but wasn't sure if it would be 1-year extension or a permanent contract. So the guy said it's policy to do 2 contracts for a year, and permanent after that, so I would get another year contract. However, when I applied for this job my old job also made me an offer (contract extension for 2 years, more pay) but one of the reasons I chose for my new job was that they promised it would be extended into a permanent contract after the year. It was another manager who promised me that though, she doesn't work there anymore, and I didn't have it in writing. So I told the guy all that, and he said he couldn't make the decision on his own but had to confer with the management team. That was today. I actually didn't have hopes for it anymore because it's not policy and I don't have it in writing, but I just received the news it will become a permant job!!!
I'm SO happy. Ever since I started working for real in 2010 I've only had temporary contracts due to the organisations I worked for in combination with the job I had. So I started to think this was something that doesn't exist and it has become some sort of holy grail (I like the security it gives and not having to stress about extensions and going through the whole job hunt again and again). YAY!
Thank you, all. I am doing well, everything considered. Big hug to you all.
Peggy wrote: "I have some happy news, hope you don't mind me sharing. I'll get a permanent contract at work!!!"Happy news is what we are in need of, Peggy! So happy for you! You deserve his. Enjoy.
Good work Peggy. That must be a big relief. Yes I can imagine temporary contracts must be quite frustrating .
I feel bad for not catching up on this thread for a while. I just read through all of the posts from everyone. So sorry to hear about all of the family strife with the funerals, but, yes, it really does happen. I have experienced it too.
Hugs to you, Kristie for your friend and brother, and to you, Sandra for your Grandma.
Gosh.
Peggy - how wonderful for you not to have to worry about all of the temporary contracts and having to interview all of the time now!
Sandra wrote: "My grandma passed yesterday. I am very sad but also calm. At some point I realized that my anxiety was specially linked to my terror of her being in that unconscious state for too long. She was lik..."so sorry Sandra.
Congrats, Peggy! That is great news! It just be such a relief to not have to worry about job searching anymore. I'm so happy for you.
Esther wrote: "Sandra wrote: "My grandma passed yesterday. I am very sad but also calm. At some point I realized that my anxiety was specially linked to my terror of her being in that unconscious state for too lo..."Thank you, Esther.
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