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Feb 19, 2018 02:58AM
This book is important to me because I`m a white female. I`m scared that I`m actually a white feminist. This is something I definitely want to change, and therefore I would like to read this book to become more informed about how the colour of my skin also shapes my view on feminism. I want to see the other side of the story. I would like to shape my feminism into including all women, no matter where they come from or who they are.
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This book is important because I feel the same way. As a mixed race person I’m tired of trying to make a certain segment of society understand what POC have to deal with on a daily basis, if they can’t and choose not to see that there is a very real problem that has lasted decades. It comes a point in time when people get fed up feeling sick and tired about being sick and tired about the way things are. My father, aunts, uncles and grandparents grew up during segregation. Those racist people who lived then, still live now and racism is passed down - some individuals break the cycle others still have a warped mentality. In an age where there is so much technology and information at one’s fingertips, the last thing I’m going to do is put up with willfully ignorant people. It’s not my job to have to explain anything, especially if individuals choose not to listen or even empathize.
This book puts a name to so many systematic issues that I was not able to pinpoint before.As a white person, I lived in the illusion that racism was really a thing of the past just because today it appears in different forms compared to the past and although this book does not have the answers it will open the reader's eyes and make him/her more conscious of the world around us and the impact of everyday actions on society.
There is still much to fight for in the terms of equality when it comes to the race like there is with feminism as well. To really understand how far we need to go, we must understand it from different points of view. To see how people are treated really because there is a lot that we don't see. To make a better world and an equal world we need to understand it from the different perspectives. When we are fighting for equal rights for women and men, we do need to see that race is part of the equation as well.
This book is extremely important in today’s day and age because the idea of structural or institutional racism has been prevalent for centuries and educating the readers and having them talk about the topic brings about change in society. For us to change the subconscious mindset of why we are bred to be innately racist, we have to first acknowledge the issues and educate ourselves on what it means to be a certain color, and then have these discussions with others. The author, presents the facts and cases so vividly that you’re forced to open your eyes and mind to intake the information given. This is a book I’ve given my colored friends, as a way on educating them about their history, and my white friends, to help them understand the differences that are ingrained into society, and I’ve found that all of us are now about discuss these topics and have a better conversations about racism, sexism, equality, and the future.
This book really helps to further break down and delusion that I had grown up with that racism no longer exists. It’s a fabulous reminder that racism both existed and exists outside of the United States. Reno Eddo-Lodge has so beautifully united those who face racism and those who are trying to understand something that can never be truly understood if you are white and live with that ‘privilege’.Thank you for bringing this book into my life.
At a recent National Hockey League game between the Chicago Blackhawks and Washington Capitals, a group of less-than-bright spectators targeted the one black player on either team, Washington’s Devante Smith-Pelly, with verbal suggestions that he go and play “basketball, basketball, basketball”. I suspect that neither of those fellows own a copy of “Why I’m No Longer Talking to White People About Race”, and it’s in incidents like this that we can see why the book is essential reading. In a sport dominated by whites, black players have described the loneliness they feel to be vastly isolating. The last thing that black players need is to be told by fans that they don’t belong on the ice, that they have no place in the sport, simply because of the colour of their skin.
Now, those spectators might not feel that they were being racist - they may even fervently deny the accusation. Racist behaviour, however, can manifest in ways beyond vulgar slurs. This is the difference between isolated bigotry and a systemic form of racism that the perpetrators may not even be aware of. An implication from any party than any human being should be excluded from what amounts to nothing more than a game based on their appearance is, simply put, shameful.
Something too many people refuse to accept is that no kind of dividing line should be placed between races. Races, like nationalities, cannot be generalised, cannot and should not be painted with the same brush. Whether we’re in America, in Britain, in Italy, in China, in Burkina Faso, in any country in the world, we are all unique human beings. Don’t judge a book by its cover - not all black people love hip hop. Not all black people are fast runners. And yes, not all black people play basketball.
Perhaps a careful reading of “Why I’m No Longer Talking to White People About Race” might inform those spectators that what they said wasn’t acceptable, that their behaviour has no place in society, and it might explain to them why they were removed from the arena. Dear (those) white people… hockey is for humans.
It's fantastic that recently the public focus shifts to important issues like racism, misogyny, oppression and privilege, but a problem in all of these discussions is the fact that members of these minorities still have to fight to be heard. Yes, the more privileged group needs to acknowledge the problem and get involved, but most of all the voices of the people who are affected need to be heard! As a white person, I don't want to hear from another white person what we might better do about racism. I want to hear from POC, because they suffer from it. Their experiences should be valued and their arguments taken into most careful consideration. This is why I think this book is so important: we need to learn from each other, not about each other.
Dear Our Shared Shelf,The main reason I think this book is so important is because there is so much ignorance in this world.
And to be honest, I think I may have been a little ignorant myself. Not on purpose obviously, but as a 17-year-old girl who has never expierenced racism herself, I was blind.
I am Dutch, which means I grew up in the Netherlands and this is a country where black people are generally accepted. And I’ve always believed in equality. I always try to be nice to everyone, no matter what their skintone is. So when I first saw the title of this book, I felt a little offended.
“Why I’m No Longer Talking To White People About Race”
‘Wow,’ I thought. She’s no longer talking to white people about a subject that is thís important? She believes all white people are racists? But hey, I’ve always wanted to make everyone feel included? Why did my efforts go unnoticed? If you believe that being dark-skinned doesn’t make you any less, why would you believe that being light-skinned makes you a racist?
But then I started thinking. I started listening. I started seeing. This woman is not saying I’m a racist. But me thinking she was, is exactly what she is trying to point out.
We may not be speaking out against black people, but we aren’t speaking up for them either. But that is what we should do. Because their voices won’t be heard by the ones that are turned against them.
And that’s where they need us. Just like feminism needs men, anti-racism needs white people. So let’s all open our eyes, raise our voice and let this book be the beginning of an amazing revolution!
I think this book is important because even though I try my best to be aware of the terrible things happening around me, and to speak up when I see things, and most importantly to give support to those who are oppressed due to their race any chance I have..... that’s all still the tip of the iceberg. I still cannot even fathom what it can possibly be like to attack this injustice from the other side. I believe this book is for those of us who want to be socially aware and we want to do/ say the right thing but we can (so far) only attack that with the limited schemes of what we have lived through, and I think this book can help us look through a new lens.
This book is perhaps now more important than ever before. Many people think racism is a thing of the past while in reality it's as strong as ever, only more secret. I live in a society where there aren't many dark skinned people and have on many occasions heard others around whispering "what are they doing here", "where did they come from"... They're human beings, like everyone else. It might make me naïve but it hurts me to see them unaccepted just because their concentration of pigment is higher than average European's. Being a white, extremely white girl has been difficult for me in school, others have mocked my paleness. So I can't even begin to imagine how difficult it can be for kids with African or Asian heritage. And to accept our differences, we must learn to understand them first. That's why everyone should read this book and why it's so important.
I definitely want to read this book because I am white and I am sensitive to the experiences of people of racial minorities. This topic is hugely relevant in today's society, but it is a difficult topic to discuss. I am hoping that this book will make it easier for people of all races to have a thoughtful and open discussion about race with each other.
I think this book is so important and relevant in these days! There is still so much racism and discrimination in modern day society and so many - especially white people - aren´t seeing it. They say, it´s funny and that "those people" shouldn´t behave so huffy, but they don´t know how it is to be discriminated all day long. They don´t see, how hurting it is to be labeled like that and that racism is something you have to face every single day throughout your life. This has to change, and this is why this book is so important. Time´s up. Time´s up to change the way we treat others. Time´s Up to change our own behaviour and the behaviour of others. We have to respect each other, no matter of nationality, skin colour, religion, gender or sexuality.
Dear readers,When I was fifteen, in my high school, I met Africa and her skin was coffee color, she liked to wear bright colors and always paid attention to the white of her teeth when smiling. I lived one of those lonely times that every adolescent lives at some time in her life, she infected me with her laughter and her craziness. Then I started laughing and proudly showing my brackets. Until then, I sat alone in the cafeteria in a corner, she came and sat on the floor with me. I walked away scandalized and she insisted again. Over time our relationship evolved and we discovered that we liked to debate, if there was a topic to be discussed, we debated it until we reached a conclusion. We talked about sexual orientations, about feminism before it became fashionable, about eating and psychological disorders as the reason for my social phobia, another day about idealized love or the so-called "Love of your life". We even asked ourselves if we started being friends and one day we talked about friendship while I was doing little braids in her frizzy hair, perhaps our most widespread and important debate was about racism.
My friend always said that her name was very significant, because her parents wanted to teach the world a lesson. For no one should forget the origins of the slaves and how for centuries it was marketed with human beings as if they were merchandise. While the nobility carried umbrellas to maintain their pallor, others were indoctrinated with violently. I remembered Africa a few months ago when the Charlottesville incidents occurred and the supremacist groups came out afloat. For a few moments, I returned to my high school, when not only was someone discriminated against for their skin but also for studying, for their hair color or their accent when speaking. And I have also felt like Reni Eddo-Lodge when talking to white people about the difficulties that people of color face every day. I opened the second drawer of my table and there was the last postcard of Africa for Christmas, she told me that she was in the hospital and that she had a congenital heart disease that had become complicated. I asked her to give me the address of the hospital where she was staying to see her, but she replied that she lived inside me and that I could visit her whenever I wanted. She also wrote that I was strong for both, that I prayed for a change of mentality in the world. And I, who didn't believe in God, I did it.
My friend Africa never existed except in my imagination, she was one of my two invisible friends. My other invisible friend was my adult self. But during our conversations I understood the importance of empathy and I got great lessons in humanity that I'm sure made me better today. Every child should have invisible friends like mine, eventually came real friends, but Africa marked a before and after. It woke up a claiming facet in me that was asleep, it taught me to think about interesting topics that affected society. Our last debate, before it went away completely, was about literature. And we both agreed that the books were great teachers, and today reading "Why I'm no longer to white people about race" I have returned to the high school and I have returned to the debates. And I have also reached a conclusion: "The road is still long but the heroes remain in it".
Kisses much love, Marahia XOXO
I'm really interested because though I'm French, living in France, I used to live in the United States and the race issue was one point that stuck to my mind (the behavior and the speeches heard at different times of my studies). I've been to the UK and I think, that, as in France, the issue is not addressed the same way, probably due to our history as slave traders and colonial empires. I'm really looking forward to hearing the point of view of a Black person, pushing us back the wall and letting us now how our "colorblind" behavior is actually mort hurtful than we seem to believe. I've read books by Coates and Ward before but they are all American voices. A European voice is needed and I think this book is the answer.
I think that this book is so important right now as we are on a cusp of change.We have strong movements of equality, supported by a great number. Whilst also living in a ‘it’s always been this way’ / ‘political correctness gone mad’ mindset which seeks to reduce its power.
There are a lot of white people who aren’t racist who still struggle to understand or identify with the issues and likewise, there are still a great number of people who can’t see that racism is a huge problem as they’ve never experienced it.
This book is stating what the situation is without reducing its importance or emotive nature by trying to appease the audience.
This book is important to read because yes, we HAVE come so far from where we were, but sometimes that progress masks the need for more forward movement, and this book can help remove that mask.
Why I'm No Longer Talking to White People About Race is important because clearly we haven't been listening well. Even when we think we are listening, we aren't actually hearing. Because, like most people, we're too busy formulating our response (i.e., our defense) to shut the hell up for a minute and just
LISTEN
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This book is important because it provides incredible historical context to current policies and ideologies. As a white woman, it gave me insight into how I can be a better ally to people of color.
There has been a wave of racism that has risen to the surface surrounding events like brexit and the elected presidents in America, and movements relating to gender and identity. This book focuses to all these areas. I have found writers very helpful during this time.
I can only speak personally on why I believe this book is more than important today. I’ve read the sample versions of a few chapters and had a knee-jerk reaction mainly in disagreement of what I was reading. Despite the countless reviews, I didn’t think it was worth reading and I’ve lived in my ignorance since. However, I made a New Year’s pledge to myself to read more and was referred to this group and I planned to start from where it left off which was this book. Needless to say, I’m not doing a good job. I’ve realized by ignoring this book is only proving her right. Ignoring her experiences and her voice is only really doing myself all the harm for not listening. Overreacting first before digesting the information gets us nowhere. I believe it is a strong fact that there is a race issue, in America at least, and rather be part of the problem, I’d rather take the positive step forward and be part of the change.
I believe this is an important book because we live in a white-privileged world and the majority of white people are ignorant, and many times, intentionally so. When required to share just as spot of the sun, whites cry for all of it because that has been their experience. We are a society marinated in racism in our historical knowledge. There is nobody, at least in the United States, that have not been affected by racism. The African-American community is reluctant to speak because of the possible blowback of their conversation. When walking black is a crime, driving black can get you killed, then NOW is the time for this book, NOW is the time for this conversation, for all.
I think this book is a lesson in race in current society. I think that a lot of white people do not understand race issues, have white savior issues, or are closeted racists. How many times have we heard the argument of "I have black friends I am not a racist". Most white people live in a shelter world where race is not considered and can not understand racism. Talking to white people in some cases is like talking on deaf ears. As a white person my obligation/ role is to understand this and to listen.
The title of the book was so catchy to me. I really would Like to get a copy. We need this kind of books because it will arouse awareness about this current issue, and as i live in arabic country Lebanon and we are currently suffering from many problems due to extremism, discrimination, sectarianism and so on, this book will really Highlight to the massive problem, racism, which is so related to what we are living. Racism is very act of cruelty! We are humans, and we are equal. We need some books that discuss How much racism is bad, and i think this book is one. We are now in the 21th century, technology changed our life for better, and still, we see some fanatic people. What an odd thing! Here in my country we don't have discrimination between races, but worst, a discrimination between lebanese, syrian refugees and Palestinian ones. It is really brutal to act with somebody according to his/her Nationality, color, sex, and religion. We have to celebrate differences between us.
There is so much content via the media and other social platforms with regards to racism across the world, but not in the UK. I can tell you about the political and systematic injustices towards non white people in America thanks to incredible documentaries like 13th on Netflix, the BlackLivesMatter movement or the numerous accounts from individuals of their own personal injustices due to race, but not in the UK. Only in recent years has the discussion of racism even touched our media due to xenophobic political agenda, giving a voice to a minority which up in till now were mostly keeping their views quiet. But how does this affect non white people today in Britain? I'm not too sure. Reni Eddo-Lodge has started a conversation that should have happened long before now. It is important that we listen to each other, understand an individuals experience so we can then move forward as a collective. There is no desire to promote the notion of racism but if we do not listen and we do not open our eyes to what life may be like as a non white person, then we are not doing enough to promote equality.
This book has come at a time when a political and social clash between race and cultural backgrounds has become prevalent and made startlingly clear in the way we have voted and the voices being heard. Our understanding of racism has become somewhat stagnant. We should not think we have done enough for racism we should be thinking what more can we do to ensure equality in our society. Voices like Reni Eddo-Lodge are important as they highlight the issues which are easily missed by the privileged. It takes this voice to make others sit down, listen and reflect. It's not about being anti white or anti anything, its about the promotion of equality and lifting up others who have been oppressed for too long. It can not and must not continue. So please keep speaking out and we will continue to listen, share your stories and take action with your hand in ours.
We need this book now - as conversations have become more heated and race is still a topic that we cannot discuss rationally. I hope to learn how I can affect change on this topic, and bring it to the forefront in my community.
I followed Emma’s book recommendations for the year.but some books I can’t find in my country.now I’m reading women who run with the wolves,I will finish the last chapter tonight.My English might not good enough to understand all of words and meanings in these books.but I will still insisting on equality between men and women,equality of racial.
Racial discrimination is still prevalent in today’s society.I think this must be taken seriously.so it’s right to promote books about racism.
make people in world more closer.
This book is important now because as an American in today's society our we seem to be moving backwards instead of forwards. Educating others about racism and talking about with help remove some of the stigma.
As a whiter-than-white Elementary school teacher with every race in my classroom, it has always been extremely important to read everything I can get my hands on so I can do my best to understand the journey of each and every child. I have loved and encouraged every child I ever taught and always felt I was in prayer for a better society where my words about their future success weren’t lies or just wishful thinking shouted into the darkness of racismAs a teenager a cross was burnt in my yard for inviting people of color into my neighborhood, into my home. As a Junior in high school I marched against injustice. As a homeowner, I welcomed our new neighbors whatever their skin color as my neighbors muttered under their breath about falling home values. My mother taught all her children to rise up against injustice and teaching was the revolutionary way I could help future generations to move past any ugliness they had been taught at home, to open their eyes to the possibilities and beauty of every person.
It isn’t an easy job. I have held sobbing children taunted for the darkness of their skin, the ethnic clothes they wore, the religion they embraced. I have reassured desperate children that slavery will not return when President Trump was elected. I have seen the prison system destroy families. I am forced to listen to people with pale skin ask “Why can’t they just get over slavery!” when the enslavement of poverty, lack of opportunity, injustice, and hate continues to roll on.
We MUST have books that enlighten everyone to the reality of racism. Everyone, not just enlightened teachers, must actively fight this scourge that destroys!
This book has the ability to spread education. Racism is rooted in the uneducated sectors of our society but it continues to be prevalent in every facet of our world. Racism is a complex issue that needs to be understood to be fought. I would love to read this book because it is important to check your privilege and study the systematic roots of racism in our society. It's everyone's issue and it deserves to be seen as such. We all benefit from inclusion. Help us understand how best to do that. Thank you for the opportunity!
I think this book is important because it can be a real eye-opener for any type of person. I myself am a white female, born and raised in the Netherlands (but currently living in France and identifying as a European more than of a certain specific nationality), and as such I think I've been and still am quite privileged in my life. I'd like to consider myself a non-racist person, as in my opinion skin colour or ethnicity does not change my perception of someone, but then again, I do not know any other cultures than my own and this probably makes me say things that could be considered racist by certain people, who do not have the same perception of things.Whilst I have yet to read the book, I have read Reni Eddo-Lodge's The Long Read article for The Guardian (https://www.theguardian.com/world/201... - for anyone interested) and I think even that article is an eye-opener and very clear.
Unfortunately, racism is still very much alive in this world, but I think every little bit, even "just" reading a book about the issue, is a step towards ending it.
I can't wait to read the book and I would like to thank the publishers and OSS for once again giving us this great opportunity to win a copy of the current read. :)
Not only am I a white woman who lives and works in a diverse Chicago community trying to understand and mitigate white privilege, but I’m also a foster -- soon-to-be-adoptive — mother to an African-American toddler. For the sake of him, and the other children who will one day join our family through foster care and adoption, I am reading and learning all I can.
Jo wrote: "Dear Our Shared Shelf,We are super happy to be giving away 60 copies of our current read 'Why I'm No Longer Talking to White People About Race' by Reni Eddo-Lodge.
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This book is so important now because even though some of us white folks have made an effort to reflect their privilege and prejudice, to view the world and its societies from different perspectives than the one we were raised to regard as normal, I still need to explain, even to participants at diversity congresses and the like, why you do not need to have a bad intention in mind in order to act, think, be racist. And it's all there: the tools and background analyses and documentaries and so on to help you educate yourself on racism. A best-selling, attractive book with a title that just jumps in your face like Eddo-Lodges is needed to once again shine public light on this, as we need to do over and over again if we want what's normal to change.
Of course I could go into how there is still so much racism in our modern society, but everyone is (hopefully) aware of that. I'm probably not the only white person though who is overwhelmed by the dos and don'ts when it comes to talking about racism, esp. to non-white people. I want to understand and to help, but I feel like I'm sometimes doing too much or too little and I can't quite pin-point it. Right now, I'm reading "The Hate U Give" and I'm becoming even more aware of my blunders. So whether I win this book or buy it, I just hope to improve my behaviour and get more knowledge to induce change, which will be my job as a future teacher of Political & Social Studies.
This book is important for me to read because it is my responsibility as a white person to educate myself on how I can help change our American society.
This book is so important because a new wave of civil rights is happening right now — one that cuts deeper than just voting rights and legislation. It requires a shift in language, attitude, and perceptions of white people, which will only occur with the help of white people. I would hope this book could be my manual for being a woke and supportive ally in influencing the white people around me to think and act differently.
As an educator, it is my humble responsibility to teach children about kindness, diversity, culture and acceptance of others. Much of our ignorance and non-intolerance of others is based on a lack of worldly education. It is my honor to educate our children about the human race.
This book is important for so many reasons but it boils down to the state of America. I’m hesitant to add much more detail because I don’t actively seek out battles on the internet BUT lemme just say it says a lot when people are angered/scared about the idea of making others equal
I believe that the this book is highly appropriate for the climate that we currently live in. Racism is very prevalent currently in our society. It has always been in the room but it's being more publicized now and more people are taking notice. I believe this book opens up a good conversation and discussion on how it's hard to have an opinion denouncing a topic when you don't experience the problems yourself. Which is something I know A LOT of white people struggle with. I have seen these occurrences first hand in both online conversations and in conversations held face to face. I think this book could help educate some people that are less knowledge on the situation and how problematic some of their statements really are.
If not now, when? The time is always right to continue learning about race. As a white person, I am constantly learning something about myself, my community, the broader world, and the experiences of people of color and how race impacts them. I am excited to read this book and continue learning more.
I think it’s important to read this book to understand different perspectives- what others are feeling, why they’re feeling it, what are they’re frustrations and struggle, what actions am I doing to contribute (good or bad), how can I help, what can I do to promote progress to a more peaceful, compassionate, loving society.
I believe this book is important because of the simple fact that racism exists— everywhere. It exists in movements of radical supremacist groups; it exists in casual encounters of hate and discrimination experienced whether you're quietly lounging at a park or going through your daily commute; it exists in jokes and banter shared even between family and friends. And people who enjoy privilege and manage to avoid being in the receiving end of racism, do not often acknowledge (much less realize) the benefits they've reaped, and the misfortunes they've unknowingly avoided, because of the privilege they were born with.In modern times, it can be said that "With great privilege comes great responsibility." In this aspect this book becomes intriguing, because the privileged are the ones who must be enlightened and made to recognize the plight of the minorities. The title of this book sounds counterproductive, but I trust there's a reason behind this and there's more than meets the title.
Given the chance, I would read this book, and choose values and principles I consider worth embodying into my own life.
Because ignorant is real. Because I have poor cultural intelligence.
Because I am blessed to live in a country that has racial harmony.
Because lesson has to be learnt and history always repeats itself.
I confess that I do not have much knowledge of this book and I try to refrain from reading the reviews to form any sort of pre-read judgement. That's how I try to be more open-minded in a relatively conservative country. However, to be open-minded, you need to have the knowledge and awareness of what goes on around you and beyond. Its a struggle to find the best mix.
I hope this book will be an eye opener and help me gain knowledge of what gaps I have that needs to be filled. If I win this book, I will do a book review on it to let whoever think I am deserving of it to know how it may have impacted my way of thinking, good or bad.
Because I am studying global health now and realise how narrow my encounters with all these cross-cutting issues are.
Because Sustainable Development Goals are finally looking at issues beyond surface.
Because in 2017 I finally realised how huge gender related issues are and the people affected by modern slavery.
Because reading is one of my favourite ways to gain knowledge.
Because our current discussion about equality is still mostly held by white people. Our politicians are white, our teachers are white; people with power are white, whilst they are the ones shaping the public opinion of what racism is. Obviously, this doesn't make any sense. We need to be educated by people who know what it feels like to be treated differently, to be suppressed and spoken for. We need to listen to the people who have a story to tell, who can help us understand how we together can change. We need to accept what we hear because there is no doubt that I, as a white person, don't know what it feels like to be black.
I was recently a part of a staged reading of a new play that dealt with "race" and I did a lot of research on it and I find it a very interesting and important topic that I'd like to explore more. I think this so universal and relevant now as much as it was 50 years ago or 200 years ago. I'm European but I live in the United States and things are quite different in both places, with different histories on this issue, so I'm interested in learning about this from all sort of angels/sides to broaden my mind and hopefully be a respectful, understanding and open-minded human being.
I have students who have talked about this book a lot in my humanities class I teach but I have not had a chance to obtain or read the book yet. I need to do this. I appreciate the chance here.
This book has been on my to-read list, as I'm trying to read mostly books written by people of color. I didn't realize that is about racism in the UK, not the US - makes me want to pick it up even more!
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