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Feb 11, 2018 03:07PM
Rebecca, so sorry to hear about your mother . Thoughts and prayers for her and you !
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Rebecca, sorry to hear about your Mom.Diane S. at least you have your sense of humor -
Rebecca wrote: "Hi all! I haven't been online much in the past week, my mother fell and fractured her femor so I have been helping out with her, even though she is in a rehab it's always good to have an advocate o..."I am sorry to hear about your mom -- it is nice that you are able to be there to advocate for her or just help her pass the time. Make sure that you take some time for yourself too...
On this side of the ocean things have not been calm. This morning I slipped and fell down the stairs. I took an ambulance to the hospital. They don't think a bone is broken but I have to be careful for awhile and return if the pain gets worse.Three days ago Per was bitten by a dog so he has been in the hospital too.
I am fully aware of the fact that my problems are petty compared to others.
Diane S ☔ wrote: "An update on my medal issues.Seems like this fine establishment has denied my parole request. I, of course, am more than willing to leave at any time, but my lungs are going rogue and not co-operat..."Diane, so sorry your lungs are not behaving but but glad to here that at least the socks are a reasonable colour.
Can't you get someone to bring you in some decent food?
Rebecca wrote: "Hi all! I haven't been online much in the past week, my mother fell and fractured her femor so I have been helping out with her, even though she is in a rehab it's always good to have an advocate o..."That sounds like a double ouch one for your mother and the second for the terrible book.
I hope the situation improves soon on both fronts.
Chrissie, I'm so sorry. I hope both you and your husband recover soon. Keep us posted.Diane, I like your sense of humor despite the difficult situation. I hope you can leave the hospital soon enough. However, it's better to stay there and be monitored until your lungs get better.
Marina, thanks, How have you celebrated getting back your books? Do you have a bunch there you have not yet read?
Chrissie wrote: "Marina, thanks, How have you celebrated getting back your books? Do you have a bunch there you have not yet read?"
I went to my parents' about a week ago and got reunited with my books, although it was just for a short while because I couldn't take them home with me. I can only take one or two at a time. Especially because I will be moving next summer, so I can't stack my shelves. However, it was great to have them back. The only issue was the passive-aggressive letter he sent together with the books. And the fact that he's still writing emails saying he has more books and that he will be sending them. Hopeless.
Marina wrote: "Chrissie wrote: "Marina, thanks, How have you celebrated getting back your books? Do you have a bunch there you have not yet read?"
I went to my parents' about a week ago and got reunited with m..."
Annoying as hell how he is playing with you like a worm on a hook!
Marina, be sure to look in the mirror every morning and remind yourself that HIS behavior is not your fault! It is too easy to forget that.Chrissie, I hope that you and Per are doing better, it sounds like a nasty fall for you. And for him, the fright from a dog bite can be almost as bad as the bite.
Guys, I sorry to hear about your hardships. I will send prayers your way.Keep the faith!
Chrissie, I hope you and your husband are feeling better. That sounds like a bad fall.
Thanks for commiserating. The doctors were super kind. Handsome and knowledgeable.
Chrissie, you must take more caution with stairs; I'm relieved you didn't break a hip or something. As we're getting older, reflexes are not as sharp. Happy for you that you have handsome doctors, lol. Poor Per, nasty thing- a dog bite. Did he inform the dog's owners? It might be a child next time.
I received an email this morning offering me a job at $118,000 per annum. Should I mention the fact that I retired over a decade ago, and have not applied for any job, anywhere, any time lately. I wonder how many people get hooked by scam emails such as this.
Chrissie, sorry to hear about you and your husband. Glad to hear nothing was broken.
Chrissie, so glad you didn’t break any bones . Take it easy . I hope both you and your husband will heal quickly.
B the BookAddict wrote: "Chrissie, you must take more caution with stairs; I'm relieved you didn't break a hip or something. As we're getting older, reflexes are not as sharp. Happy for you that you have handsome doctors, ..."There was sand on the stairs and on my slippers. That is why I fell. It is impossible to avoid sand if you walk every day on a beach with a dog.
what happened with Per was that there was a van at the beach with homeless, what we call here SDF - sans domicile fixe. A woman was sleeping next to her van; it was 0 degrees C! We did not see her lying on the ground. Per got out of the car and immediately dogs crushed over and one bit him in the calf. Oscar and I were still in the car. He got back in the car. I honked like mad. Then I saw a woman on the ground, She moved a little bit but she did not come and talk to us. I was extremely annoyed. Per just wanted to go home and checkout the bite. There was a hole in his pants. We found out there is no rabies in France. Then he spent the rest of the day he in the hospital and I talking to the municipal police, who drove over and took photos and confirmed they had been there, as the van sped away. He got a picture of the van with a woman and dog in it. Left at the parking lot near the beach was a woman and two dogs, one of which had bit Per. Black and white, it was. Probably they were protecting their owners, but of course not acceptable behavior. Then we spent the late afternoon registering a complaint with the Gendarmerie. It is very important that such is registered--for other people's sake. It is pretty "amusing" to see how the municipal and national police work / do not work well together. Everything had to be done twice! I kept saying, "but the other guy has this information!" And the first policeman had the photos.
Since yesterday I have been sitting with my left leg up on a chair in cold packs.
Oscar was so upset when I disappeared into the ambulance. He is so sweet and super.
B the BookAddict wrote: "I received an email this morning offering me a job at $118,000 per annum. Should I mention the fact that I retired over a decade ago, and have not applied for any job, anywhere, any time lately. I ..."OMG, unbelievable.......except the worst is that it is believable.
Angela and Ruth, if it is not one thing it is another. I have to stop doing these clumsy things....... I am going to be a basket case,
Ouch, Chrissie. That sounds painful. I hope you are up and about again swiftly. And poor Per. The dogs were being protective, I imagine, but it’s still not an excuse
Heather wrote: "Ouch, Chrissie. That sounds painful. I hope you are up and about again swiftly. And poor Per. The dogs were being protective, I imagine, but it’s still not an excuse"Please be careful Chrissie.
Although my Mum is a lot older than you, at 80+ she still gets annoyed that she can't do the things she did at 30.
I think she finally got it into her head to take more care when she was on her way to the doc to get her arm checked after a fracture from a previous fall when she tripped over a paving stone and split her lip.
She had felt a bit dizzy so Dad left her sitting quietly on a bench while he did a couple of errands. Of course 'sitting quietly' is not Mum's thing. She saw something interesting in a shop window and was so busy hurrying over to look at it she didn't watch where she was putting her feet.!!!!
Next thing she was crumpled on the ground surrounded by a crowd of concerned on-lookers.
Esther wrote: "Heather wrote: "Ouch, Chrissie. That sounds painful. I hope you are up and about again swiftly. And poor Per. The dogs were being protective, I imagine, but it’s still not an excuse"Please be car..."
OMG, I must pay attention to what you are saying.Your Mom is like me. When you get older you do not realize you cannot do what you did before..........but how in the world do you know how much you can still do. You cannot just give up. Where is the limit? I am 66 but I do think my body is partially destroyed by my diabetes. I guess I am saying I am happy to be alive.
Heather ouch is right. The weirdest was that about an hour after the fall, when the ankle and calf swelled up, my bg fell like a stone, very low. I think maybe the shock to my body made this happen? It went down to 1,8mmol/l (32mg/dl). I kept drinking sips of coke. So it was good I was in the ambulance. I asked the doctors why this had happened and they guessed my reasoning was probablyright. I certainly can do without all this excitement.
Chrissie wrote: "but how in the world do you know how much you can still do. .."1) Listen to the people around you
2) Make sure you really rest when you rest
To give an example of 2):
My Mum (again!) had swollen ankles. The Doc told her to rest with her feet up. She complained that he wasn't being helpful because 'Every evening all I do is sit in front of the TV with my feet up." We knew this wasn't true because she is up and down like a yo-yo checking on stuff etc.
Then she bought a recliner and the mechanism was a bit stiff so once she sat down she was sort of 'trapped' in it, unable to get up without a lot of effort. She was forced to sit with her feet up for a couple of hours every evening. The swelling went down in less than a week.
Oh my, Chrissie! Both for you and your husband. I'm glad you both haven't serious injuries!
Esther wrote: "Chrissie wrote: "but how in the world do you know how much you can still do. .."1) Listen to the people around you
2) Make sure you really rest when you rest
To give an example of 2):
My Mum (a..."
My mother is stubborn too. Though she has deforming arthrosis since she was very young (around 20), and now she is 70, she never rests but is always busy with something. We told her thousand times to rest because she is full of pains, but she never listens to us. She always says that for her it is important to keep doing things, that keeping her hands busy is like a gym so that she doesn't get worse and fully paralyzed.
It's useless to give her advices, she is too stubborn.
Chrissie, I'm 62 and still think I can do what I did in my 20's. My job is very demanding physically so I am reminded everyday what my limitations are and frankly it pisses me off that I can't do what I used to be able to do. I just don't have the strength anymore. When there is snow and ice outside I am more careful watching where I walk because I am afraid of falling. I realize that if I fall I could break something and since I have made it 62 yrs without any broken bones I am not about to start now. lol.
I think your theory about your blood sugar is probably right, Chrissie
I think stubbornness is a good character trait as it certainly keeps people going! You do have to know your own limitations though
I think stubbornness is a good character trait as it certainly keeps people going! You do have to know your own limitations though
dely wrote: "Esther wrote: "Chrissie wrote: "but how in the world do you know how much you can still do. .."1) Listen to the people around you
2) Make sure you really rest when you rest
To give an example of..."
Maybe life has shown her what works best for her? It is a possibility, right? She seems to be going strong and she is seventy. I used to think seventy was old. My husband will be seventy in March.
Heather wrote: "I think your theory about your blood sugar is probably right, ChrissieI think stubbornness is a good character trait as it certainly keeps people going! You do have to know your own limitations t..."
You being a nurse probably know about the bg. I think you are right about stubbornness, but I do not always know my own limitations.
I have been keeping up my feet ALL day, and I mean all day. and using ice packs.
I think it is better. Last night I had to take pain killers, tonight maybe I wont.
I took only one short walk out on the street, for 15 minutes walking like a snail. NO walk on the beach.
Esther, I am listening to you.
Ruth wrote: "Chrissie, I'm 62 and still think I can do what I did in my 20's. My job is very demanding physically so I am reminded everyday what my limitations are and frankly it pisses me off that I can't do w..."I am only four years older than you, so we are in a similar position, but I do not work any more.
Oh, Chrissie, I'm so sorry to hear about your fall and your husband's injury from a dog bite. Wishing you both speedy recovery! I've heard so many cases of bone fractures resulting from bad falls. I'm relieved that you didn't have any bones broken. Accidents do occur even if one is super cautious. A few years ago, I fell when walking on a pedestrian crossing and got a bloodied knee. I still have no clue how that could've happened, LOL!
Gosh Chrissie, too bad we live countries apart. I'm swollen up like the Goodyear blimp from the Prednisone, we could sit next to each other with our feet up and listen to audio. Sounds good to me right now, though I may never get out of here. I feel like Bette Middler, in the movie where she said, ",I've been kidnapped by Kmart," I learn something new every day, for instance, did you know that there is a mean girl clique in hospital?Be well, Chrissie and I hope Pers heals quickly. Oh the things we could do, now we can only fly in our reading.
Alice wrote: "Oh, Chrissie, I'm so sorry to hear about your fall and your husband's injury from a dog bite. Wishing you both speedy recovery! I've heard so many cases of bone fractures resulting from bad falls. ..."Alice wrote: "Oh, Chrissie, I'm so sorry to hear about your fall and your husband's injury from a dog bite. Wishing you both speedy recovery! I've heard so many cases of bone fractures resulting from bad falls. ..."
Is your knee totally ok now, years later?
I know why I fell--the treads on my slippers were worn down ad there was sand on them.
The steps I fell on are the ones where I am sitting on my avatar.
Diane S ☔ wrote: "Gosh Chrissie, too bad we live countries apart. I'm swollen up like the Goodyear blimp from the Prednisone, we could sit next to each other with our feet up and listen to audio. Sounds good to me r..."Thanks for popping in when you are feeling so TERRIBLE. Medicines with such side affects are a real pain in the butt.
You write " did you know that there is a mean girl clique in hospital?" What is going on? Do you mean you have run into some nasty nurses? Have I misunderstood? I hope you have kind ones too. You need those nice ones in a hospital. They really can make a big difference. A nice nurse is wonderful when you are ill.
Here is a hug to cheer up with (((((Diane))))) from Chrissie.
Diane, I am trying to send you good wishes so you get home quickly and in better health. I wish I could help you.
ETA: How is it going with your testing audiobooks? Any progress?I was going to suggest you try Our Souls at Night, but I went and checked and you have already read it.
Chrissie wrote: "Maybe life has shown her what works best for her? It is a possibility, right? She seems to be going strong and she is seventy."This could surely be, but she does a lot of useless things that she could avoid, and this doesn't mean that he has to rest the whole day. It's ok if she still wants to make homemade pasta and whatever she needs to use a lot her hands, but she could do it only for herself and my father, my sister and family. No, when she prepares something, like pizza, preserves or some sweets, she does them for nearly the whole neighbourhood! She has also a lot of flowerbeds and she is always there doing something despite her back and legs ache. Well, she has wonderful flowers and everything grows with her. Lol, every plant that comes in my house dies after a few weeks; she is able to have orchids also where they shouldn't bloom. When there is something to do, she is always the first one that offers herself to do it. I really admire how she deals and bears with her pains. Lol, because of her character she torments always my father. He is 80 and does really a lot for his age (garden, woods, long trips with the car, etc.) but for my mother he never does as much as he should.
dely, I think your mother sounds like a wonderful person, I believe that making food for the whole neighborhood gives her happiness, and of course your neighbors love the food too. I think you have to see it that way. Getting in another person's head is difficult.That she is not perfect, I am thinking in relation to your father, only makes her human. People, even spouses, tackle life differently.
Chrissie wrote: "dely, I think your mother sounds like a wonderful person, I believe that making food for the whole neighborhood gives her happiness, and of course your neighbors love the food too. I think you have..."Yes, but we are worried for her health. But she is so so so stubborn. It's useless to talk to her :D
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Yes, but we are worried for her health. But she is so so so stubborn. It's useless to talk to her :D"
As usual with elderly people!!!
LauraT, elderly people know how they want to be, or you could say what is important for them. Often they care little about what others think. I remember my mom and I would argue all the time, but you cannot change people to how you want them to be but instead you have to accept them for who they are....with the knowledge you are not perfect yourself.Hopefully there are attributes you like that balance out those you dislike. Kids are another matter. There it is your responsibility to raise then as best you can.
dely wrote: "Chrissie wrote: "dely, I think your mother sounds like a wonderful person, I believe that making food for the whole neighborhood gives her happiness, and of course your neighbors love the food too...."I understand that you are worried about her. That is what love is all about.
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And now that I've no one left of my elederly parents, I really miss them, stubborness and all!
Chrissie wrote: "Alice wrote: "Oh, Chrissie, I'm so sorry to hear about your fall and your husband's injury from a dog bite. Wishing you both speedy recovery! I've heard so many cases of bone fractures resulting fr..."My knee is totally OK now. But It took three months for the gash to heal. I was wearing the sneakers that I had always worn, and the weather was fine and the road surface normal. Still can't figure out the reason.
dely wrote: "Esther wrote: "Chrissie wrote: "but how in the world do you know how much you can still do. .."1) Listen to the people around you
2) Make sure you really rest when you rest
To give an example of..."
dely, perhaps one reason your mother keeps busy with her hands and making other people happy in the process is that she can thus distract herself from the pain.
Alice wrote: "Chrissie wrote: "Alice wrote: "Oh, Chrissie, I'm so sorry to hear about your fall and your husband's injury from a dog bite. Wishing you both speedy recovery! I've heard so many cases of bone fract..."Totally weird what has happened to you, and that is a long time to heal.
LauraT wrote: "Chrissie wrote: "LauraT, elderly people know how they want to be, or you could say what is important for them. Often they care little about what others think. I remember my mom and I would argue al..."Exactly. Do you ever think abut what others will think of you when you pop off? I do.
Alice, I wear a type of sneaker, Skechers, but find the sole will catch when old and that's when I have most of my 'trips'. My sister (same age) gave me a big talk the other day about how bad my balance was becoming and how many times I have fallen (only two, to be fair). But I swear it's my old comfy Skechers.Glad to hear you've recovered.
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