CHOOSING TO MAINTAIN CONTROL of MY LIFE question

I have been writing this book for almost 65 years I suppose. This writing is a culmination of many of the important lessons I have learned from a variety of people. What I eventually came to realize is growing up in a small town where the community raised the children and took care of each other, everyone acted to control their own lives in positive ways. Those people (parents, teachers, neighbors, friends) also taught each other about 'controlling for success'. They did not use the word "control" but I came to realize what they were doing WAS about controlling in a positive way their behavior in their lives. As a child, my Mother started teaching me how to 'control' for success. I am not sure she ever used the word, but she taught me self-control. I learned to follow directions, make responsible choices, and be home on time for dinner. I could take chances (RISKS) but she would stop me if I went too far...but she would let me go far enough to learn and achieve. Those 'risks' eventually built self esteem. And the community did the same. Everyone knew who you were and where you should be and they had permission to 'straighten you out' if you were off track at some point. It was a good time to grow up in the 1950-60s and people during that time did CONTROL their actions for best results. In writing this book, I came to realize that is what is needed in much of what we call 'parenting': teaching kids about how to control their behavior for success. The concept of "maintaining" control came along in recent years from a good friend who said, "The MAIN things is to MAINTAIN!" and I agree. Maintaining Control of our acting and thinking for positive and successful results is what it this is all about. Control for GOOD ... that's a good thing. Once we learn HOW to control for positive outcome and success. And that is what the CHOOSING is about as well.