When exes return

[Gabrielle]

In the book "The girl on the Train" the drunk woman Rachel keeps calling her ex husband. Her ex husband is not married with a baby. Whenever Rachel gets drunk she goes on a drunken rampage and keeps calling him because she is "lonely".When they have finally had enough of her shenanigans they finally go off on her. How would you feel if your ex kept calling you with their problems? Would you have sympathy if they were lonely? Would you still be friends with them?

[Nuran]

Well, in Tom case, though he acted annoyed about his ex in front of his partner and convinced her that he was keeping his ex around out of sympathy and guilt, in realty, Tom kept Rachel around because he enjoyed causing her more pain, and it boosted his ego to see her in such a mess over him, he enjoyed that power over her.

He was probably more annoyed by the fact she kept digging in to the murder, questioning that night she died, and Tom wanted her to stop.

I've not stayed friends with any ex, and I ignore the one ex that tried to keep contact. He kept trying to keep in touch, and it got annoying especially since we were only in a relationship for a few months and didn't even see each other every week. I just went in to tough mode and ignored him. It took a year (he wasn't texting often, about a text a month). I felt like I dodge a crazy bullet after that. When you know the relationship feels wrong, it's not something you want to drag out, and I just cut ties.