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Guys what do you do when youre loosing your best friend since 3rd grade?

What's going on? I never really had a best friend when I was in 3rd grade, I had one when I was in 4th grade but she moved away after 6th grade. Most of my best friends are far away from me
Well this is a rough best friendship but this is pretty much how it goes. My best friend moved here in 3rd grade and we sat right next to each other in class, back when she had plump cheeks and glasses. We were instant friends and just grew up together becoming closer and closer, living in the same neighborhood and all. The only problem: that was the only class we ever had together until our 8th grade year and even then our seats were even close. Starting highschool she is really busy with volleyball and we havent been able to hang out cuz our schedules dont allow it. I just miss my best friend and we seem to be drawing apart when we DO happen to see each other

That stinks, whenever you do see her just try to talk to her whenever you can, This year I don't get to see most of my friends a lot, I see some of them at lunch but other than that not that much and one of my friends- I'd known her since 9th grade, and we'd had classes together in both 9th and 10th grade but last year we didn't have any classes together but we had lunch together this year we don't have any classes or lunch together so I barely get to see her

So I first met this girl when I was really young because we went to this kids program that our church runs. I didn't really like her at the time because she was really competitive and kind of intimidating. Anyway, so we don't live in the same area, so I didn't really get much of a chance to talk to her properly until two or three years ago when we both joined our church youth group. We didn't talk much, but one night I was sitting alone and she just came over and started talking to me. We talked for ages and we got along really well. Anyway, after that day, we became friends, but it was a bit difficult because we live an hour or so away from each other. So the only time I got to see her was when we met up on Friday nights at youth group. But for a while, everything was fine.
And then I realised something. She was probably gay.
Now that shouldn't have been a problem, except for one thing. I am also gay. Well, I wasn't that sure at the time (I was still questioning my sexuality), which made me feel really weird. Because she is the kind of person who likes hugs and who likes to drape her arm over your shoulders. Basically, she likes physical contact (err...not in a dirty way). And as I started to realise that I liked her, I started getting really nervous around her because I didn't want to say or do something stupid. And so when she hugged me or touched me or anything like that, I would always worry that people would think that we were a lesbian couple. Which probably wouldn't have bothered me if I was straight, but since I actually really DID like her, it made me super awkward around her. So I kind of shied away from physical contact with her and we stopped talking as much as we did before.
And then she started to not come to our youth group. At first I was relieved because that meant that I couldn't embarrass myself in front of her. But then she wouldn't come for weeks and I started to get worried. And with each week, I just missed her more and more and kept getting more desperate for her to come. Then, in the first term of this year, something happened.
She showed up and, as usual, I asked her how her week was. She said "confusing" and I had a tiny bit of a hunch about what she would say. And I was right. She said...wait for it...
"I got a girlfriend"
And I didn't know what to think of that. I just played it cool (I said "well, I see why that would be confusing") but on the inside I was bursting with thoughts. I didn't know whether to be happy or not. On one hand, that meant that she might not have been completely straight. She may be gay or bisexual or bi-curious or pansexual or any other sexual/romantic orientation, I'm not entirely sure. But it meant that I had a chance of her liking me back. It was a small chance, but it was a chance nevertheless. But the downside was that she already had a girlfriend. So that meant that she probably really liked her, not me. So I was a bit confused.
And I haven't seen her ever since. And I don't know what to do about it. I don't know whether I made her stop coming because of my awkwardness or whether she broke up with her girlfriend and she doesn't want to come anymore, or whether she just doesn't feel like it. I don't know. And I can't ask her because I live suburbs away and I don't have her number or anything so I can't keep touch with her. Arrrrggghhh!!! It's driving me insane not seeing her :(
Anyway, I'm sorry for the ranting and yes, I know, it is a pretty long post so thank you for reading until the end. So, any advice? It's a pretty tricky situation to be in, so I understand if you don't know what I should do. But any advice would be greatly appreciated :)

By the way, thank you so much for the advice and the support, Empress. It's really nice to have friends who don't judge :)

*fans self*
Sooooo romantic!