To lie or not to lie...that is the question

[Duffy]

Evie told her mom a whopper of a lie as to where she'd been so as not to worry her. Do you think Evie should have leveled with her mom? Have you ever told a lie for a “good cause?” A wrong thing for the wrong reason?

I’ll give away a Crime Scene scarf like the one I’m wearing in my picture on Friday from the answers.

[Liz]

I have a omitted to tell anything about something. If you omit to tell somebody something I believe you are lying. This is coming out weird because I am using voice and not typing.

[Duffy]

Liz wrote: "I have a omitted to tell anything about something. If you omit to tell somebody something I believe you are lying. This is coming out weird because I am using voice and not typing."

I’ve done the omit thing too, Liz. Sometimes being completely truthful has bad consequences. And in a mystery book people lie all the time. LOL. Have a great day and thanks for chatting.

[Gail]

Yes if you omit something than you are not really lying. Just not telling everything. I can see Evie trying to protect her mom. Besides once you start lying than it is hard to keep your stories straight and sooner or later you will get caught in the lie. So better to just tell the truth or at least most of the truth. I love your scarf.

[Melissa]

I think its ok to tell a little fib...to protect someone's feelings.
But, its not ok to lie.

[Della]

Back when I was quite young (in the 50's) I lied about something or other. My Dad said you should never lie. People lie for 2 reasons because they are selfish and because they don't respect you. I asked for clarification. Selfish - either because they they are cowardly and don't want to accept responsibility for their actions or they want something from you they don't have a right to and so want to manipulate you. We all make mistakes, no one is perfect. When we make a mistake we stand on our own two feet and say "I erred, I'm sorry." But what if we don't want to hurt their feelings? His response? they mistakenly call that a "white lie" remember - a 'white lie' is a 'pure' lie. A lie leaves a sense of betrayal, hurt, disappointment behind it. You tell the truth, it might sting a little, but often leaves the lasting fruit of a real friend and peace. So never lie. We often speak in haste. After you've had to go and say "I'm sorry. I should not have said that" you learn to be more careful of your speech. You tell the truth you don't have to remember anything The thing is, if you can't say something nice. Don't say anything at all.
Those 'white lies' hurts as bad as a 'real lies'...both the same! Causes mistrust...when trust is gone, no replacing it! Some people tell lies, big or small, and don't realize they have been caught and go on to try to cover the first one up! Funny that those that practice this, don't know what fools they look like or that people has seen through them! As the old saying goes...'Oh what webs we weave,when we practice to deceive!' My dad always said "There is no bigger fool than the one who lies to himself, and believes his own lies." It's called justification and there is no excuse for it. But too many today live in their fantasies. Man is the only creature who practices self-deception. Sadly. It's a 'tangled web'. And it's a biggie.

[Sanderella]

I always told my 4 sons that if they lied, the punishment would be worse than if they told the truth. And, as a mother, I told them--I will find out the truth if it takes 1 day, 1 year, or 100 years. 9 times out of 10, they told the truth.

[Sanderella]

I do have to add-- sometimes you have to stretch the truth in order to protect someone or yourself.

[Kayt18]

I have omitted the truth before and when I was young did quite a bit of fibbing. These days though I could never lie to my mother. Just cant do it. Sometimes I will also omit things to others not in my family.