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Nate
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Jun 22, 2017 03:54PM
...I swore I'd never get married, why f-up what we have? But I also know how important it is to her and I suppose it'd be selfish to deny her the dream of walking down the isle and that whole fairy-tale. errr nightmare. So....yeah.
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Nate wrote: "...I swore I'd never get married, why f-up what we have? But I also know how important it is to her and I suppose it'd be selfish to deny her the dream of walking down the isle and that whole fairy..."Yeah you should have seen Richard's reaction when I mentioned you guys were engaged and getting married eventually. It was hilarious.
Lynx - I'm not sure I want to know just what the reaction was...laughter or pure shock.
I still got 2...3 years? I want 2020, she'll be done with school and its my own lil inside joke. cus hindsight is 20/20 ....
Nate wrote: "Lynx - I'm not sure I want to know just what the reaction was...laughter or pure shock."Both. Lol.
Ha. Yeah, do 2020. XD
Everyone is pushing for sooner cus I proposed last year so its like a 4 yr engagement. I'm like what's the hurry? and I really like 2020. If I cave on certain things for her she'll concede to let me have 2020...though not sure how much I am willing to compromise. THIS alone is a huge compromise...is that not enough?
Does it matter if it's a 4 year engagement? Or even the decision for any of them? Consider it extra time for saving and planning. I would have loved to have so much time for planning and crap. Not only that but more family could have made it. As someone who planned a wedding in a matter of months (we had to change the date so some asshole family members could go) and helped a friend plan, 4 years sounds like a way less stressful dream
That's what I say, not to mention....well ok, maybe it just puts off the inevitable but still look at the bright side. Plenty of time to plan and change things. I want small, and quick ceremony. She wants the dream wedding. smh I told her just let me know where and when I need to be there, she can do the rest...but then I add things like I'm not wearing lavender or any pastel shades....no stupid things like releasing doves and....the list goes on then she gets irritated and says I have to take part in some of the planning...isn't that what wedding planners do? what do we them for ?
We had a small and quick ceremony. So did our friends. Sometimes that's all you need for a lovely wedding. Ours was done in 5 minutes. 15 max for our friends with a pagan wedding, and maybe 30 for another friend who had a more religious ceremony. It's nice having a simple, sweet, custom ceremony. I suggest taking at least a little action in planning, though. Definitely a no go list in order of how much you care (or to make it more positive you could have a list of things you would like to have a say in, such as colors). But it's super stressful to plan a wedding and sometimes some input can seriously help. Ted had a similar stance of leaving it all to me. We got into so many fights because he just would not give me input
I suppose, some impute might elevate some arguing though...I just don't even want to go there, I mean we've got plenty of time, weather I win out and get 2020 or we bump it up we've still got at least 2 yrs. I don't see the rush but they (my sis and her friends) get all giddy and excited about planning. I want low key but I think its gonna end up being a bit more than I want...c'est la vie which is odd cus neither of us have huge families.
Gotcha. Yeah low key is nice. One, cheaper. And second, you actually can relax. By the end of our wedding day and during our reception, we wanted nothing to do with any of our guests. Literally we just wanted to sit down and have a chance to eat. XD same with our friends at their wedding. By the time the reception was underway they kinda hit a point of just wanting to eat.
My sisters wedding and reception was waaaaaay tooo much,....she had a lot of extra too so, but about an hour after the reception started I needed to breath, I stepped out for bit, I can only imagine being the groom or bride and you're expected to be present. smh They're going to have to give me some space and let me have a break or its not going to go well. I'll add that to my list - down time btw ceremony and reception
I have a feeling this will be a topic of convo over holiday, especially once her, my sis and mum pair up. Stake me now.
GRRRRR! I hate when they do this. smh Last minute shift change. It's rare but still, should have called to verify. Looks like I am working Friday DAY instead of night which means I can't work this shift so they owe me another shift and my holiday begins Sunday. Guess who's gonna end up working a double? c'est la vie, that's time and a half...I'll take it.
I can't remember the last time I slept til 9 AM...or more than 5 hours in a row. Is this what normal is like?
I am not going to let this ruin a good day, I am not going to let this ruin a good day.....
Humans can be so ignorant. smh Really would like to throttle this one....
I'm gonna try to enjoy this down time b4 I have to go back into work tonight....& I'm probably working dispatch, not my favourite thing.
Every I look at the car I pissed off all over again. smh
Mentally preparing myself for what is to come. Perhaps I am over reacting?...idk
I just cleaned the windows, and sliding glass door. I should get a reward!
I think we need to plan a memorial service for these once thriving groups: Goodreads Social
The crypt
Writing on the wall
The Devils Advocate
*taps plays* RIP
Sometimes the very thing I admire about her is also the thing that drives me mad....pouring rain, and there is this little turtle in the parking lost, its dark and Cass is worried the turtle is going to get run over. After about 15 minutes of pleading guess who went down to remove said turtle and relocate it to a safer location. smh
Went out to a club, we're just getting back and now I have a pounding headache. This was not how I intended to finish off the evening.
I can't help but think this headache is symbolic...
headache is starting to eb, though I'm in a strange mood, not sure how to describe it.
My sister should be arriving shortly...explains the sudden drop in temp. Brrrrrrrr
So the abuse has begun...I asked my sister how her flight was, she goes into how it was fine and blah blah blah, meanwhile I held a puzzled expression she finally asks what my expression was all about
"I just hadn't realized how far broom flight had advanced."
*smack* "always the smartass." She laughed.
Out to dinner. Bored. I feel like the third wheel. My sis and Cass have been talking non-stop.
...when you have nothing to contribute to the conversation.
I need viewer number 254 to step up, cus the number 253 is bothering me.
...not that its all that relevant or that anyone gives a shit, just stating an observation.
We all die some day, some more than once.
Taking a break. Still have about another 4 hours to go.
I should have paid for another room. May God have mercy on me.
Traveling with siblings can be hazardous...to their health.
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