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Apr 05, 2014 07:01AM
With My Whine... The official bitch, gripe, moan thread.
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So here's my deal. And you know I love and trust you guys 'cause I'm mentioning this at all. I've been on a low carb diet, with regular exercise, since October resulting in a loss of 30 pounds. I recently discovered that my blood sugar is slightly elevated so my doc has added weight loss meds to my regiment, to help me lose more, quicker. It's now day 3 and I feel like crap! I'm so dizzy and headachy, plus there's the insomnia.
There is an upside.. I have lost an additional 6 pounds.
Ugh that is terrible!! I was on some weight loss meds once and they messed with my anxiety so badly I had to stop!! All that extra caffeine or something. Good luck with the weight loss journey - I know how tough that can be. I lost 70 at one point but then had a baby and gained a lot of it back. Though now that he's 3 I guess I can't call it baby weight anymore. It's now officially cheese weight. Haha.
Thanks. :)This is my second go round on the weight loss journey. I tried about two years ago, lost 30 pounds, had a falling out with my trainer, went into a depression, gained it all back plus 5 pounds too boot.
Then one day I decided to stop feeling sorry for myself, reconciled with my trainer and here we are. It's been a little more difficult this time around (which makes me mad about the time I wasted), but you know lesson learned and all that.
Now with the blood sugar thing I'm even more determined to nip my weight issues in the bud. It's the only reason I'm even trying the meds... I usually avoid things like that like the plague. The symptoms list is enough to scare you to death, but I do not want to go down that diabetes path - especially since there are so many other health issues in my family's history. I'm just thankful I've been able to avoid them all so far.
Good luck! Losing fat isn't easy.I'm a bit worried that you are having high blood sugar while on a low carb diet. Was your doctor worried?
I'm so sorry that the meds are messing with you!I want to ask - are you weight lifting or are you doing a lot of cardio/endurance stuff?
How long do you have to take the meds?
DavidO wrote: "Good luck! Losing fat isn't easy.I'm a bit worried that you are having high blood sugar while on a low carb diet. Was your doctor worried?"
Not yet. It wasn't high just elevated, by like .2. She's more concerned about my family history as a whole.
Good luck, Hon. Maybe the headaches will subside? Anytime I start a new prescription it always takes me a few days to adjust. Thinking of you!
MrsJoseph wrote: "I'm so sorry that the meds are messing with you!I want to ask - are you weight lifting or are you doing a lot of cardio/endurance stuff?
How long do you have to take the meds?"
I was doing a program called Body Combat, and occasionally Flow which is a Yoga/Tai Chi class designed by the same company. My PT teaches both, plus I train with her on the side.
I was doing really well until about 2 months ago then real life sidelined me so I've only been doing PT, but I hope to get back to the classes by summer - specifically body combat, it's a lot of fun.
Laurel wrote: "Good luck, Hon. Maybe the headaches will subside? Anytime I start a new prescription it always takes me a few days to adjust. Thinking of you!"
Thank you! :)
The symptoms are lessening, but in small degrees. Day one was awful - not only was I dizzy and headachy, but I was flush and had tingling in my hands and fingers.
Then yesterday the the flush was gone.
Today the flush and tingling were gone and the headache was worse than the dizziness.
MrsJoseph wrote: "How long do you have to take the meds?"I think it depends how well I do on them. Personally, I'm hoping no more than a month or two at most.
Nyssa wrote: "Laurel wrote: "Good luck, Hon. Maybe the headaches will subside? Anytime I start a new prescription it always takes me a few days to adjust. Thinking of you!"
Thank you! :)
The symptoms ar..."
I know this sounds strange, but my migraine medication is now used as a weight loss pill and I had to adjust to those same symptoms. My doctor eased me up to my current dosage over a series of 3 months (it's a high dose), and if I ever go off of them, I'll need the same amount of time to ease back off. The symptoms did subside for me and I'm 100%. But, if it's the pills I take, you need to drink regularly to avoid some side effects. Regular fluids also reduced my tingling sensations as well.
Not saying it's the same meds, but if it helps...
It might be! I'm taking a two med combo and one is for seizures and migraines. I have been drinking a lot of water and at night I drink sleepy time tea to try and combat the insomnia, but it doesn't last. I might sleep for about 2 to 4 hours at most, then the littlest thing wakes me up. If I'm lucky I might fall back to sleep 4 or 5 hours later and sleep for another 2 to 4 hours.I'm glad I took Thursday, Friday, and next Monday off from work. I don't think I would be able to function. I have my follow up on Tuesday. Hopefully, my symptoms will have diminished, if not disappeared, by then.
Yep, my medication is also used for migraines. I think I had trouble sleeping at first, but it wore off. It helps with weight loss because it completely suppresses appetite. I only eat because my boyfriend does. I remember drinking like a fiend the first few months, but the thirst wore off. I'm still careful to keep hydrated, however. I don't want kidney stones!I hope that things settle for you and the journey gets easier. I really do wish you all the best!
Nyssa, those side effects sound dreadful. Hoping they subside soon and you start to feel better quickly :).
Nyssa wrote: "I was doing a program called Body Combat, and occasionally Flow which is a Yoga/Tai Chi class designed by the same company. My PT teaches both, plus I train with her on the side.I was doing really well until about 2 months ago then real life sidelined me so I've only been doing PT, but I hope to get back to the classes by summer - specifically body combat, it's a lot of fun."
So, I'm going to say something that your Personal Trainer will not agree with and is a little controversial: If you really want to lose fat and keep it off, you should do weight training (with lighter cardio).
I know, I know. Most people don't think women should weight lift and that we'll get "bulky." That's not true unless you are trying to become a bodybuilder - and even then you would have to go to extremes.
I weightlift and I can tell a huge difference between how I handled weight and food prior to and after starting to weightlift.
One of the really great things that happened was that weight started to melt off of me. My scale weight didn't really change but my waist dropped inches (that my booty gained but I did a booty-building specific program, lol), I toned up, I lost maybe 3% of my bodyfat which had turned into muscle.
Of course, I hurt myself and I got sidelined for some months. When was given the clear to start working out again I had to go super slow. I got frustrated so I decided to go back to cardio - thinking it would be faster. Instead of losing weight I started gaining and yoyoing - starving myself almost all week long to only to weigh myself and realize nothing happened. Which was a little depressing...
...so I got back into weightlifting again about 2-3 weeks ago. I still have to go slow and I've deloaded to the point that it's almost laughable... but I lost almost 5 lbs since I started working out with weights again.
*ducks and hides*
Nan wrote: "Nyssa, those side effects sound dreadful. Hoping they subside soon and you start to feel better quickly :)."Thank you, Nan.
MrsJoseph wrote: "I know, I know. Most people don't think women should weight lift and that we'll get "bulky." That's not true unless you are trying to become a bodybuilder - and even then you would have to go to extremes.
I weightlift and I can tell a huge difference between how I handled weight and food prior to and after starting to weightlift...."
Congratulations on your recovery & success Mrs. J!! Its not easy getting back on the horse sometimes.
As for my Personal Trainer...
:D Actually, she wants to start teaching Body Pump within the next 6 months to a year. She just needs to make sure she has the clientele to cover the fees, equipment costs, etc, but she's already planning to take the courses. She actually wants to take all of the Les Mills courses so that she will be qualified to teach all of their classes wherever she is in the future.
The one who would need convincing would be me. :)
I'm all for eating healthy. I eat right and I try to stay active even if its just standing up and doing some squats or whatever. But... please, please, be careful with anything that makes you feel worse. Being healthy should make you feel better about yourself.
Last year someone I know got into a crazy diet. She's always been skinny and obsessive about her weight. She worked out. She went on fasts. And she took pills. It got so bad she almost passed out when she worked out. Well - she ended up having a brain aneurysm and it almost killed her.
So - be healthy. But do it a healthy way.
(I'm not saying you aren't - its just with the experience that I've had I felt I should say something.)
Nienna wrote: "I'm all for eating healthy. I eat right and I try to stay active even if its just standing up and doing some squats or whatever. But... please, please, be careful with anything that makes you fee..."
I agree with you..it is excellent advice!
I am only taking medications prescribed by my doctor. I also tell both my doctor and my trainer what I'm doing so that they both have all of the info. My trainer doesn't like diet meds either but knows that this combo is commonly used. She made me promise to stay on my diet and stay with a lighter version of my exercise routine, and she is one to check up on her clients regularly.
Good luck, Nyssa with your weight loss program. Hopefully, the side affects will go away so you can start kicking ass again. ;) 36 lbs is quite an accomplishment!
Jackie wrote: "Good luck, Nyssa with your weight loss program. Hopefully, the side affects will go away so you can start kicking ass again. ;) 36 lbs is quite an accomplishment!"Thank you Jackie. :)
Nyssa wrote: "Congratulations on your recovery & success Mrs. J!! Its not easy getting back on the horse sometimes.As for my Personal Trainer...
:D Actually, she wants to start teaching Body Pump within the next 6 months to a year. She just needs to make sure she has the clientele to cover the fees, equipment costs, etc, but she's already planning to take the courses. She actually wants to take all of the Les Mills courses so that she will be qualified to teach all of their classes wherever she is in the future.
The one who would need convincing would be me. :) "
Thank you. :-) And yes, it hasn't been easy. THis aging thing sucks.
I've taken Body Pump a couple of times! It's a pretty cool class and I enjoyed it. It more endurance based than strength based (my preference) but daaaaamn! those girls work it!
I think you should try it! I can't even tell you how skeptical I was before I started - I'm a former dancer and I wanted to regain that body - and I was scared that I'd look like Chyna but that didn't happen at all.
I think you would really enjoy weightlifting - especially once you locate a program that fits your aesthetic desire. It's not all hardcore like a lot of people think. And I think you would really enjoy the body pump class. It's fun and the time passes quickly. You should give it a try!
Safe place to vent...I'm currently on disability for blood clots in my legs and lungs, cause unknown. It almost killed me, but thankfully I'm on the mend. We think it may be Lupus, and it's possible I'll get confirmation on Monday. Or it's not Lupus and I need more tests. That's the background.
As a result of whatever I have, I've lost about half of my hair. Hardly anyone notices but me. However, my Mom is a bipolar alcoholic and often only feels good about herself when she's putting others down. Last time I saw her she made comments that maybe I should think about getting a wig. Today she said it looked like my hair was getting worse. This was in between her dumping other people's wine glass contents into her own when she didn't think people were looking. My brother, thinking he was funny, said it looked like I was catching up to my boyfriend (who has a shaved head). I started crying. He was devastated that I became so upset. He didn't actually mean to be hurtful. My Mom does. The thing is, I feel so self conscious and ugly that I just want to either hide at home or buy a wig. No one else notices my hair. I know my hair looks a bit thin, but isn't all that bad. Why is it family can hit you where it hurts like no one else.
Anyway. There is my whine. I'm going to try and make myself keep busy this week and get over the hurtful part. The hair will grow back.
Thanks for listening!
(((HUG)))Family. They know which buttons to push and where our skeletons are buried.
Seems the comment was your brother's misguided attempt to lighten the mood.
It probably wouldn't have upset you as much if it were not for your mom. I'm sorry hon.
Thanks Nyssa. I'm sure we all have family stories that are awful. The rest of my family were wonderful the whole day. Just like you all :)
Laurel wrote: "Safe place to vent...I'm currently on disability for blood clots in my legs and lungs, cause unknown. It almost killed me, but thankfully I'm on the mend. We think it may be Lupus, and it's pos..."
*hug*
Oh, god Laurel. That's horrible that you've had to deal with that crap while battling with your health.
:(
I know how hurtful family can be - and it may be difficult to do but - is it possible that you can cut her off for some time? She may have issues but that's still no reason to treat you like that.
Laurel, you are one of the nicest and most beautiful people I know. Nothing is going to change that. Hair is nothing in relation to your health. And it certainly won't change how beautiful you are.
I am so sorry you are having to go through that! It sounds so difficult, both the family stuff and just personally as well.I had a family member with extreme hair loss due to illness. She did eventually get a wig just for her own comfort, though we all thought she was beautiful either way. That said, she did start taking that vitamin supplement Biotin and it has since all grown back, and I think a bit thicker than before. Considering she is 85 that's really no small feat!
I'm sure you've looked into all of this before, but thought I'd throw in my two cents of something that worked for her.
And I agree with Mrs. J - to the extent you can, avoid your mother. I know it is difficult, but your mental health has GOT to be in a good place for your physical health to return.
Much love and prayers/happy thoughts/good vibes/whatever you prefer.
Emily wrote: "And I agree with Mrs. J - to the extent you can, avoid your mother. I know it is difficult, but your mental health has GOT to be in a good place for your physical health to return. Much love and prayers/happy thoughts/good vibes/whatever you prefer. "
All of this!
Laurel, I'm sorry to hear about your mom making an already tough situation worse (had numerous experiences with that myself when growing up). I hope you get a diagnosis soon and that things improve for you. Best wishes :).
Thanks everyone. I realize you're right. We do try to keep my Mom at a distance. And there has been some good news lately. The cyst on my lungs is now scar tissue so cancer is no longer a worry, and my energy is coming back. Little victories!I'll try the vitamins and think about you all. It's nice knowing others out there have dealt with it. I realize it's just hair. It just hurts to be poked at by the person who's supposed to be in your corner.
Thanks for listening *hugs to all*
Now a new topic. I bummed out the thread like I bummed out our family gathering (for a while) yesterday. Time to turn it around!
You are being too hard on your self! Besides, I started this thread as a safe haven for whenever any of us are not feeling our best and just need a hug, a shoulder, a listening ear, support, a place to let out some frustration or to vent.It's all good hon.
Nyssa wrote: "You are being too hard on your self! Besides, I started this thread as a safe haven for whenever any of us are not feeling our best and just need a hug, a shoulder, a listening ear, support, a plac..."What she said.
I'm sorry to hear about your health problems, Laurel. And don't worry about venting. I have found that sometimes its easier to admit to things that are really bothering us online than it is to people we see everyday in our 'real' lives. If you can find comfort from your friends online - never feel bad about it. I don't know you - but you have my sympathy. And I hope everything works out for you.
I don't think men really understand the importance of a woman's hair. They think they do - most men don't want to lose their hair. But for a woman hair is part of our identity as a woman. And when something happens to it - whether something small like a bad haircut or something major like an illness - it can have a big impact on our self esteem. Plus - its one of the most noticeable signs of many health problems. So it might be "just" hair, but it isn't "just" hair to us.
My co-worker badly damaged her hair by coloring it too often. As it was growing out she wore bandanas and scarves. She found some really pretty ones too. She had enough hair where she didn't look bald underneath, but it covered her hair enough that you couldn't see the thin spots.
The woman I mentioned above (with the brain aneurysm) had to have brain surgery and they shaved part of her head. She ended up getting her hair cut shorter and styles it where the hair she does have covers the shaved section. You can't even tell.
There are also hair clips you can buy too.
Wigs aren't the only option open to you. And if no one notices but you - its probably not as noticeable as you think it is.
Nienna wrote: "I don't think men really understand the importance of a woman's hair. They think they do - most men don't want to lose their hair. But for a woman hair is part of our identity as a woman. And when something happens to it - whether something small like a bad haircut or something major like an illness - it can have a big impact on our self esteem. Plus - its one of the most noticeable signs of many health problems. So it might be "just" hair, but it isn't "just" hair to us."Once, quite a few years ago, I had my hair cut and colored at a new stylist I'd never tried before.
I know. I should have shot myself in the foot before doing something that dumb. But still.
I wanted to have my hair colored in different shades of blonde and golden brown and I wanted cut to just below my shoulders.
Instead, the colorist was aghast at how much work it would entail (I wanted 3-4 shades). I was the client of the person cutting it so she wasn't prepared. SO what she did was to bleach my hair but not tone it. And she did almost 1/2 my hair this way.
Then the person cutting it gave me a blunt cut bob.
It was night when I left and I didn't really see how bad it was.
Oooh! I looked like a bumble bee! A bumble bee! I kid you not.
I was not a young girl at the time - someone who could pull off the "bumble bee" look - I was knocking on 30 and I was unemployed and job hunting.
I looked like a bumble bee.
Laurel, the next time a family member starts being an ass...just think....
buuuuuzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz buzzzzz
Thanks all. I'm going to try some of your suggestions, paint my fingernails today, and just be busy to get over it. I really will be okay, I just wanted to vent. If I told the story to people in my life, they would have gotten angry with my brother who really just put his foot in his mouth. It means a lot that you listened.
New topic!
I can change the topic!Back to weight loss though :P
So I've been dieting and calorie counting for over a month now. Normally it's easy for me to loose weight, but this time.. I don't know if it's the pressure of the wedding or what, but I'm just not losing.
I'm fine with my body shape, honestly. My clothes still fit me, albeit a little tighter than before. But I'm worried my wedding dress won't zip up.. And that's scary for me.
So the stats... I'm normally about 122 lbs. Right now I'm at 127... Where I've been since I started dieting. I've been working out but that just seems to make me gain more weight. Take Saturday for instance. I woke up and weighed myself.. 125! AWESOME! Tracked my calories all day and was golden on intake versus that I burn (I have a fitbit and I follow Weight Watchers). Then I went to the movies and figured I could eat a few handfuls of my fiances popcorn... Maybe 2 cups total? Thought at most I would gain half a pound but that was fine, I wanted a treat. Weighed myself yesterday.. 127 lbs. Great.
So yesterday I tracked everything I ate and had a great diet day. Did the Insanity work out and then took a milk walk with the dog. Did a lot of sitting around other than that, playing video games.. Weighed myself this morning? 127.2.
No one gains muscle that fast. And trust me, it's not muscle. My scale has this body fat percentage calculator, which I avoid like the plague.. Did it this morning because I thought maybe if I tracked in a different way (other than weight and measurements which aren't changing) I'd see progress. It was my first time checking, so obviously I don't know if it's an improvement.. But I was at 31.5%. WTF. That's classified as obese.
So I'm basically a big soft blob of fat wrapped around some bones, with muscle barely adequate to the task of wobbling me around.
:(
Just feeling crappy and discouraged. Wanting to give up and just starve myself or something because I don't know if it will ever get better. I don't feel like it's possible to get in shape, or lose 5 pounds and fit in my wedding dress. Or get down to 21-25% body fat, the normal range.
Blah all around.
1. Definitely sounds like stress is involved.2. Our weight does fluctuate daily, so don't let that upset you.
3. You may not be using the method that works best for you, but that's more for a doctor to say.
Dawn, Body fat scales are notorious for being inaccurate. Also, small fluctuations in weight are just water, not fat. You need to watch how your weight trends and not sweat the fluctuations.
LOL, just re-read my initial post... "and then took a milk walk with the dog".Yep, a milk walk. Drank 10 gallons of milk as I walked. I can't understand why I gained weight!!!
A mileeeee walk.
And Nyssa - I know it fluctuates daily, and I try not to weigh myself every day.. I just can't help it. I'm weak. I'm afraid if I don't, I'll suddenly have 20 pounds to lose because I didn't know it was getting out of control. And also, I love the feeling of seeing a low weight. It makes me happy all day.That sounds so sad. But it's the truth.. I wish it weren't though, trust me on that.
No, I get it! It's exactly why I hate weighing myself everyday, because I get frustrated when the numbers don't move the way I want them to. That's actually one of things my trainer and I argued about initially. Plus, my scale is stupid - I might gain or lose a pound just by taking a shower.
LOL, yep. I always weigh myself first thing in the morning, after I use the bathroom, before I shower, no clothes. I gain weight when I shower as well :P
I saw a trainer on TV who advised clients to weigh once a week or even once a month to help them see the bigger picture, rather than getting caught up in micro fluctuations each day. They said clients became less frustrated and were able to stay focused on the long term goal.Not sure if this helps?
I know that's what I'm supposed to do... Just don't know if I can actually handle that. Especially since my first dress fitting is a month away. I need to know where I'm at every second of every day!!!! Or at least once a day... lol :PI promised myself I'd weigh myself today (weigh in day for Weight Watchers), and then not again until Friday (so I can have a weekend forecast: how am I doing? can I go out to eat?). And I'll measure myself of Saturday, since I did my last measurements this past Saturday. We'll see how that goes...
I used to do that, too. The daily weight. Or as I called it, the Daily Depressor. :(Doing that is so not good for your emotional health. It drove me CRAZY and I could never see any difference and I didn't stop until hubby threatened to throw away the scale.
Also, there's a study that shows [most people] are heaviest Sun-Tues and our weight goes down during the week with your lightest being Fri (I'm assuming morning before food).
I just wish I could stop caring. But instead, I usually end up spending money.
Last week I bought a fitbit. I actually really love it, but it's not like buying that will lose the weight for me.
Today I decided I needed a heart rate monitor so I can see how many calories I'm actually burning. Because maybe that will make me work harder, right? Right? That's the though. We'll see!
I tried to not buy it. I researched, then put one in my cart on Amazon. Then I came to my senses and deleted it. Then later I went back and put it on my wish list. Then during lunch I googled more, checked my bank balances and credit card balances, and then powered through the buying process before I could have second thoughts.
I'm ridiculous. Seriously.
