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Bless you all, thank you so much... reading all your replies I'm a little bit teary! ;-) I do appreciate it.It helps and all. Yes Kath even your comment! ;-)
Cheers
MTM
M.T. wrote: "Bless you all, thank you so much... reading all your replies I'm a little bit teary! ;-) I do appreciate it.It helps and all. Yes Kath even your comment! ;-)
Cheers
MTM"
I'm sure you are the best daughter you can be, Mary. You can't be more than that. No one should ask for more.
Geoff (G. Robbins) (The noisy passionfruit) wrote: "M.T. wrote: "Bless you all, thank you so much... reading all your replies I'm a little bit teary! ;-) I do appreciate it.It helps and all. Yes Kath even your comment! ;-)
Cheers
MTM"
I'm sure ..."
Bless you. They don't and I know there's only so much I can help with, but it's hard to watch them struggling sometimes. I like that I have compassion, I wouldn't want to give it up, but it's a ball ache to live with sometimes. ;-)
Cheers
MTM
Just to say to Mary, keep trucking! One or two of us have been there with the elderly parents, it is hard, you've just got to do it with the best intentions and love for them even though there are times you feel like running away. It's far worse than looking after children as children thrive, learn and grow. It will pass, you will get through it. Vent here as much as you need. Xx
✿Claire✿ wrote: "I absolutely love my job but I came home tonight and had a bit of a breakdown. This weekend I'm on one of our 'End of Life' vehicles which is aiming to get people home from hospitals or into hospic..."Sorry I wasn't around for this one. Claire the absolutely best thing to do in that situation is to debrief. We have monthly (1.5hr) counselling sessions to help us to cope with things. You never ever get used to it (and if you do then you are in the wrong job) but you learn how to cope!!
Thank you all for the lovely words about what I do. I am very proud of what I do and I love my job but it is incredibly tough sometimes xxx
Mary, massive hug from me. Never rains but it pours, I certainly know that feeling. I have had to borrow money from my 91year old Nan this month who we just dumped in a home, which just makes me feel horrendous!! Sending you loads of love n hugs and stuff xx
Emma (Queen of the weirdo's) wrote: "✿Claire✿ wrote: "I absolutely love my job but I came home tonight and had a bit of a breakdown. This weekend I'm on one of our 'End of Life' vehicles which is aiming to get people home from hospita..."Thanks Emma. I feel ok about it now, just felt very sad when I came in that night. Honestly don't know how you do it. xx
I'm offering hugs to Lynne's hubby and anyone else who wants one
Anita, Emma and Lynne, thanks... Have a big hug back, you guys, and everyone, from me. Especially Emma because that must have been really hard.Things are a lot better today. Had a really good church yesterday and I spoke to my brother about the old dears last night. That helped, we chatted about how brilliant CBT is, too. I had it a while back after I had a total melt down, after being angry and bitter for months and not knowing why. I didn't like myself one bit, suddenly it all clicked, realised what the problem was, spent an entire day in tears and woke up with shingles the next morning. Signed myself up for CBT the next working day. Once I knew what the problem was, I could deal with the anger but the CBT really helped to get me through.
So yeh, cognitive behavioural therapy is ace for helping you stand back from stuff or accept it... and not run ;-)
Cheers all
MTM
I've heard great things about CBT, I know a few people who have had it or are having it. Stuff like that should be taught in schools so you learn at a young age how to deal with everything that life throws at you.Have a big hug MTM, I hope things start on the up for you now
I had six sessions of CBT a while ago. Although I found it helped for a while, I do find myself slipping back to darker times sometimes.I did join MIND but there were one or two staff there that were a bit too 'happy clappy' for me and talked down to you like you were a child. I'm still not great if I have to interact with people face to face. But I think I've improved as it doesn't worry me so much being in amongst people as long as I don't have to talk to them or interact. So now I can go to the theatre or cinema.
I'm always worried in case I make a fool of myself by bursting into tears. As occasionally, when I speak to people, I get emotional for no reason and start crying...what a twit I am.
One day I hope to return to my normal self.
I'm really grateful to all the medical staff I've had dealings with. You and they do a fantastic job and deserve every bit of praise you get and then some.
I think that many people who have life changing, or threatening illnesses, suffer a form of PTSD. I know I went through a personality change when I was diagnosed with Horner's Syndrome and its consequences. Took me over a year to get over that, but still sometimes it tries to raise its ugly head.
Geoff (G. Robbins) (The noisy passionfruit) wrote: "I think that many people who have life changing, or threatening illnesses, suffer a form of PTSD. I know I went through a personality change when I was diagnosed with Horner's Syndrome and its cons..."It is particularly bad (in my experience) when they come out of the other side. We have a few patients who are really suffering with the survivorship thing. In spite of being clear from their cancer they just can't come to terms with what they have been through! It is awful to watch but also very very common so Vanessa, you are not a twit in the slightest xxx
My day has got calmer, thanks Jud, we are definitely travelling tomorrow.
Geoff and Dave, just read your posts regarding Merry Hill. I live in a paradise not far from there - West Brom!
Talking about needing cuddles, my kids keep taking the mick out of my dementia. Well they'll be laughing on the other side of their faces come Christmas when they realise I've left them no eggs under the bonfire!(I hope no one's offended by this).
Geoff (G. Robbins) (The noisy passionfruit) wrote: "I think that many people who have life changing, or threatening illnesses, suffer a form of PTSD. I know I went through a personality change when I was diagnosed with Horner's Syndrome and its cons..."I think that you are spot on. I know my doctor said that people with long term painful conditions like arthritis often get depression.
Graham wrote: "Talking about needing cuddles, my kids keep taking the mick out of my dementia. Well they'll be laughing on the other side of their faces come Christmas when they realise I've left them no eggs und..."Ha!
CBTCrunchy Bacon Treats.
Makes me happy.
Emma (Queen of the weirdo's) wrote: "Geoff (G. Robbins) (The noisy passionfruit) wrote: "I think that many people who have life changing, or threatening illnesses, suffer a form of PTSD. I know I went through a personality change when..."I sort of sailed through the cancer as that came later. What triggered my breakdown was being made redundant after having the same job for over 20 years and then managing to get another couple of jobs only to be made redundant all over again twice. Meanwhile debts piled up and having no money led me to losing my home, which I'd had a mortgage on for 17 years. By that time I couldn't cope with anything. I saw emergency psychiatrists and they wrote letters saying I was vulnerable and an emergency case but the council wouldn't help me. That's when I eventually came to Folkestone from London. Best thing to happen to me moving down here.
I just lost all my confidence.
Graham, it made me. Laugh. :-)Patti, bacon cures all ills.
Vanessa, being made redundant does really take the wind out of your sails and I think money worries are often the worst. I'm so sorry you lost your house, that's just crap and I'm glad things are better now. Confidence is always hard to rebuild but if you lived through that and came out the other side you should definitely give yourself a pat on the back. I reckon it would floor anyone.
Cheers
MTM
Vanessa (aka Dumbo) wrote: "Emma (Queen of the weirdo's) wrote: "Geoff (G. Robbins) (The noisy passionfruit) wrote: "I think that many people who have life changing, or threatening illnesses, suffer a form of PTSD. I know I w..."Wow, I can't imagine how hard that must have been. I'm glad things are better for you now x
Our Vanessa is a strong, amazing woman.
Graham wrote: "Geoff and Dave, just read your posts regarding Merry Hill. I live in a paradise not far from there - West Brom!"A paradise to football, I presume?
I remember those days here, Vanessa. I remember how worried we all were when you dropped off our RADAR. I'm so glad you came back to us and survived your bad times.
Yes, was a worrying time for the whole group. We thought of you every day and so, so glad you came through the other side.
The support I've had from this group has always been fantastic. You've all helped me more than you can possibly know. I'll always be grateful and know how lucky I have been having you all to talk to.In a way you are all my CBT help as there's always someone to talk to here, whether you have problems or not. You're all amazing people.
This is such a wonderful group, and to think it all started by buying a kindle!
Yay! We're all Crunchy Bacon Treats!We need tshirts.
Patti (baconater) wrote: "Yay! We're all Crunchy Bacon Treats!We need tshirts."
Are you going to change the name of this group to include bacon somewhere?
I'd have to include lettuce as well or Will would pout.Oooooo
Kindle UK BLT forum!
Only if the T stands for torturing!
It can be arranged. Do you require it?
Graham wrote: "Geoff and Dave, just read your posts regarding Merry Hill. I live in a paradise not far from there - West Brom!"Ah.
Another denizen of the People's Republic of Sandwell, eh?
Hi all, extra hugs just in case I missed anyone needing one. Vanessa you are amazing ! Geoff is very right we were so worried and very relieved when you came back to us. I often can't believe how just buying a kindle has led us to so many lovely friendships and we have all been a recipient of the love and support we give each other at one time or another. Long may we continue !
I'll drink to that Anita, it's surprising how kind words on here do help. I know we were strangers (yes some are stranger than others) but you do care when someone is suffering or just feeling down. Long may it continue.
I think we're really lucky to be members of this group. Everyone is so friendly.Even if we have different points of view there's no nastiness.
Even though I've not met any of you I still count you all as real friends.
I think this is quite unusual for an on line group. No matter what your background or age, we all fit in.
Aw sheesh.Does this mean I have to start being nice to Darren and Geoff?
Patti (baconater) wrote: "Aw sheesh.Does this mean I have to start being nice to Darren and Geoff?"
They wouldn't recognise you if you did!
I completely agree Vanessa, it's a fantastic group, I'm so glad I stumbled across it.And big hugs to you and anyone else who wants one. :)
Gingerlily - Mistress Lantern wrote: "Patti (baconater) wrote: "Aw sheesh.Does this mean I have to start being nice to Darren and Geoff?"
They wouldn't recognise you if you did!"
Certainly not Patti ! every group has to blame someone and they both do the job SO well !
Vanessa (aka Dumbo) wrote: "I think we're really lucky to be members of this group. Everyone is so friendly.Even if we have different points of view there's no nastiness.
Even though I've not met any of you I still count you..."
I wholeheartedly agree!
I'm in need of a cuddle. I spent all day yesterday in A&E. My new Dyson Ball cleaner didn't do what I expected.
Typical man didn't read the instruction manual.
I'm not even going to ask, much less look at the photos Graham :o)
Graham wrote: "I'm in need of a cuddle. I spent all day yesterday in A&E. My new Dyson Ball cleaner didn't do what I expected."I dread to think what you were doing with it ;0)
Hope you're ok now though.
I will have a look at that, I hadn't heard of it used for that sort of thing, thank you."
I use it to cope with the state of my folks and the difference between the kind of daughter I thought I'd be when they got old and the kind of daughter I am able to be. There's a big gulf between the two.
Cheers
MTM