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Lynne (Tigger's Mum)
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May 22, 2016 09:07AM
I leave stuff in both houses and try to travel light. Having had the car window smashed for a break in we never leave a thing in the car overnight. So everything has ton come out even for an overnight stop. I do travel as light as possible but like you Alicia I do have my just in case medicines & essentials.
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Commiserations Lynne,sorry to hear about your dilemma, hope things settle soon across the channel and you and hubbie can then get to enjoy a well deserved break. Thinking of you both and sending hugs .
Thanks a lot Sarah, how are you doing?
I'm doing pretty well thanks though admit this month has been a bit too busy for my liking.Planning on having no plans for the month of June;@) also reviewing my options regarding work.
Alicia wrote: "Patti (baconater) wrote: "Ha! The labels on my tablets are in Russian. I'll just bring the usual paracetamol and some ciprofloxacin then.
Thanks!"
Don't need to teach you anything. Didn't I see..."
Yeah, ciprofloxacin is last ditch. It's a very powerful antibiotic that kills all the good bacteria in your gut as well as the bad.
I've only had to take it once, about 15 years ago in India. Thank god for it, too. I reckon we'd have died without it.
Most tummy bugs resolve on their own. I'll bring some rehydrate powder as well. It's best to let it run its course but stay hydrated.
Imodium, I won't touch. Seen too many friends in worse shape after taking it.
Better bring some mossie spray too. I'll get the good stuff in Canada.
I've really gotta get moving on booking hotels!
Gah, I feel like shit. Probably IBS but I'm not sure, very, very sore tummy, cramps, the works. Might be a chill. Whatever it is, I wish it would piss off. I feel like shit. Oh yeh, I already said that. Still on the upside I've sorted out some tax things about my folks. Got two visits in with petrol at 105.9 a litre. I see, today, it's gone up to 106.9.
Sigh.
If you do hug me, I promise you won't catch anything.
Cheers
MTM
Sorry you're having a shitty day, Mary. :(
M T wrote: "Gah, I feel like shit. Probably IBS but I'm not sure, very, very sore tummy, cramps, the works. Might be a chill. Whatever it is, I wish it would piss off. I feel like shit. Oh yeh, I already sai..."
I wonder if it's something going around. Mine sounds like that. Although it has been a little better today as the pains have been further apart, but still there. Think I'll keep hold of the doctors appointment just to be on the safe side.
Hope you feel better soon.
Make sure you both drink plenty of water. It'll help shift the bug faster, if it's a bug.
I really recommend Enterosgel. Its new on the market. It's in a tube so good for travelling and If you can bear the taste Peptobismol.
I only just saw this thread Lynne, I'm so sorry that you can't travel as you planned, it's awful for you, such a disappointment ! far better to stay here for a while but that doesn't help feeling down about it. Listen to auntie Patti, she's right what she says, I am also very practical and would be doing the same but it's still not nice, have a big ((((HUG)))) Sorry that you aren't well Mary, hope you feel better very soon X X
Have a big (((HUG))) too Sarah, don't want to leave you out ! You have had a very busy mouth so a bit more relaxing one sounds good to me. Are you thinking of working less hours ? Emma sends licks and wags to Holly, said she hadn't sent any for a while. Little Freddie is coming on nicely ( you can see some photos on my Flickr site) he's 18 months already, where does the time go ?
Hugs for anyone else who needs them right now too
You're so nice Anita, I'm laughing at your autocorrect and Sarah's busy mouth. :o)
Lynne (Tigger's Mum) wrote: "You're so nice Anita, I'm laughing at your autocorrect and Sarah's busy mouth. :o)"Oops ! Just saw it Lynne, you have to laugh don't you ! Good job Sarah knows I love her, busy mouth or not !
( glad I gave you a giggle Lynne, keep smiling !)
Anita,you know me too well though I have it officially on record that i do indeed have a very small mouth, the dentist told me recently when he had to take an impression for some cosmetic work I was having done.I laughed so much and when the session was finished I made him call Phil into the room and tell him. Holly sends huge licks back to Emma.
Lynne I saw the report on the petrol situation on the news tonight and thought of you. So glad you are safe on this side of the channel.
You have a perfectly formed, beautiful mouth Sarah, I'm sure everyone will agree............................... After they have finished laughing! He heheheh Licks back to you and Holly from Emma and I X X X
Husband has worked out a route and he's packed the car. I've got a horrible feeling it's all going to end badly. We ve got to get the car MOT equivalent in France otherwise we'd wait till September. Swear for me, I've used up all my naughty words.
Bugger.
Strap a couple of bicycles to the roof, just in case?
Oh dear Lynne, we'll be thinking of you
Alicia wrote: "Strap a couple of bicycles to the roof, just in case?"Yup, if you're doing a detour that would be swearing for having to peddle up and down the Pyrenees - or maybe the Alps?
Best of luck, Lynne.
I'll need more than luck, me, him and map reading is guaranteed somebody is going to get shouted at. It's the Alps side Elizabeth. If I see the Pyrenees with my non existent map reading skills and his inability to follow any direction I give him I'll be needing a lawyer and an alibi.
I need a cuddle :o(I'm getting really emotional about having to take Kitty out of nursery when I go back to work after maternity leave. The staff are all so lovely there and Kitty loves it so much and I don't want to have to take her out and I'm sad that baby #2 will miss out. They sent home a consent form for Kitty to be part of a case study for one staff members postgrad and it has set me off again.
I hate how expensive everything is, I wish I had £1 million
Cuddle coming up Jud, but I don't understand the problem. What will happen after you've finished your maternity leave, how long will that be?I understand completely how expensive everything is as that's why I'm looking after my grandson, I know it's helping my daughter financially.
Big hug to you, Jud. It must be a big upheaval for Kitty, after getting so used to everyone there. It's something I hadn't considered about the way the system works.
Just that when I go back after maternity leave we would need childcare for both kids and the nursery is too expensive for us to put both there so Kitty is going to have to leave. I think we are going to drop Kitty down to 1 day a week while I'm on maternity starting in October and even that breaks my heart.The consent form was for Kitty who has been picked to be part of a case study and it upset me again because they thought her worthwhile to study and it reminded me that she will have to leave.
It's all a bit silly really.
Lynne (Tigger's Mum) wrote: "I'll need more than luck, me, him and map reading is guaranteed somebody is going to get shouted at. It's the Alps side Elizabeth. If I see the Pyrenees with my non existent map reading skills and ..."In which case, you probably will have to peddle the bikes, rather than pedal them. Sheesh!
Jud (Disney Diva) wrote: "Just that when I go back after maternity leave we would need childcare for both kids and the nursery is too expensive for us to put both there so Kitty is going to have to leave. I think we are goi..."I've never really understood the maths of childcare.
Childcare demands a pretty small number of children to carers
The carers deserve to be paid a decent wage (and the living wage just about guarantees this) and this means that anybody using childcare will end up paying a substantial proportion of their salary over to cover the salary of the person providing childcare.
I saw where somebody had worked it out that in most families, you can be better off not working and providing your own child care because if you do work, such a high proportion of your salary goes in childcare and extra travel that it isn't actually financially worth working
I hate to be pedantic but I have never ever ridden a bike. The dog wouldn't be very happy either. It's 1100 miles. Jud. It's very hard going, I'm sorry for you and working mums. X
It can be done Lynne
But I suspect some training would be needed.
Jud (Disney Diva) wrote: "Just that when I go back after maternity leave we would need childcare for both kids and the nursery is too expensive for us to put both there so Kitty is going to have to leave. I think we are goi..."That's not good - what will you do with Kitty instead?
Lynne (Tigger's Mum) wrote: "Husband has worked out a route and he's packed the car. I've got a horrible feeling it's all going to end badly. We ve got to get the car MOT equivalent in France otherwise we'd wait till September..."Hope things go well for you - one of my colleagues is going to France over the bank hol weekend, and his tank doesn't hold quite enough to get there and back, so he is hoping he can find some petrol at some point.
Desley (Cat fosterer) wrote: "Jud (Disney Diva) wrote: "Just that when I go back after maternity leave we would need childcare for both kids and the nursery is too expensive for us to put both there so Kitty is going to have to..."Mum mentioned my dad would be happy to fly over a few days a week to look after the kids so I could work those days and either get a childminder for the rest or maybe we could afford a couple of days at nursery for them both.
Or I'll just have to get a childminder who tend to be cheaper than private nurseries and work part time
Jud (Disney Diva) wrote: "Desley (Cat fosterer) wrote: "Jud (Disney Diva) wrote: "Just that when I go back after maternity leave we would need childcare for both kids and the nursery is too expensive for us to put both ther..."Can you do your job part time?
Big (((((HUGS))))) Jud, it's not fair is it sweetie, they need to make nursery care a price that is affordable by everyone. Poor Kitty, just when she has settled down so well. The good thing is that at her age she will soon adjust, but that doesn't help you and how you feel right now.Please take care Lynne, keep checking in when you can. ((HUG))) for you too.
Desley (Cat fosterer) wrote: "Jud (Disney Diva) wrote: "Desley (Cat fosterer) wrote: "Jud (Disney Diva) wrote: "Just that when I go back after maternity leave we would need childcare for both kids and the nursery is too expensi..."I would need to discuss it with my manager but I don't see why not. It wouldn't be ideal but I think it would be possible
Jim wrote: "I saw where somebody had worked it out that in most families, you can be better off not working and providing your own child care because if you do work, such a high proportion of your salary goes in childcare and extra travel that it isn't actually financially worth working ."That's basically how I ended up as a stay at home dad / househusband.
Please take care of yourself, Jud - in amongst all the many duties you have and will have in the world.
Love that GL. Hehehe. There's a stupid scheme here which gives free nursery to certain postcodes targeting non working parents but giving nothing to couples like my daughter and her partner on ordinary wages. Surely the non working parents have the time to look after their children.
I was a stay at home mum, but had to really struggle to meet the bills that's why I help my daughter out. Jim's absolutely correct in the short term it's not really much benefit in working especially if you consider some of the additional benefits available.
Desley, I've just read around Calais there is fuel, not all stations are own but if it's petrol as opposed to diesel there's more chance of finding somewhere.
I hope he brings a jerry an of petrol along, Desley. That sucks so much, Jud.
Why is it always the woman who has to sacrifice their career?
Okay, 99% of the time, anyway.
I'm thinking of all the #MILLIONSMISSING and their friends and families due to ME today, some of whom are in this group (I'm not the only one), when there are protests in several major cities where we are being represented - by our empty shoes.It is quite depressing to see how little progress there has been in 27 years.
I'd rather be remote from it all, writing. That's safer.
Patti (baconater) wrote: "I hope he brings a jerry an of petrol along, Desley. That sucks so much, Jud.
Why is it always the woman who has to sacrifice their career?
Okay, 99% of the time, anyway."
apparently they don't like you taking full ones through the tunnel, we suggested that
Hugs for Lynne, hope the journey turns out to be better than you fear.Hugs for you too Jud. It's so unfair that worries about childcare should tarnish such a special period in your lives If I lived nearer I'd volunteer as a nanny for you;@). Don't despair,life has an uncanny way of sorting itself out and you've got a wee while to go yet.
Thinking of you and everyone else with ME today Alicia, I hope the march raises awareness and understanding of the condition.
Desley, you can take 20 litres of fuel in a proper metal Jerry can or 3 X 10 litres in 3 separate containers but it's illegal to carry more than 20 litres in France. We've seen the eurotunnel terms & conditions just now. Husband is very cautious and he's taking one of ours out. https://www.eurotunnel.com/uk/carriag...
Philip (sarah) wrote: "Thinking of you and everyone else with ME today Alicia, I hope the march raises awareness and understanding of the condition."Thanks, Sarah - it is affecting too many lives, making too many takers who would do anything to be givers.
The cost of proper care is sky-high, so they pretend it doesn't exist or can be fixed by CBT and 'graduated exercise therapy,' so they can blame the victims and say patients don't follow instructions. Reports on the PACE study have thoroughly debunked those results.
If they figure out what it is and fix it, we can go back to the other side of the ledger. We'd all be happier paying taxes (okay, maybe not all - but I would much rather work than not). I will consider it an honor if it is because I can work - and I'd go back to work just for the pleasure even though I'm post-retirement age.
A friend of mine had ME for a while but it went away. Not until she'd had it 4 years though. It sounds really crap. Jud, I feel for you, it is really hard sorting out nursery stuff.
All, feeling a little bit flat and could do with a hug to be honest. Half term is looming so 10 days of fun time - which will be excellent - but no me time which is trickier because I've built up quite a big me time debt over the past few months. Meanwhile I spent the last two writing days before half term all kicks off sorting out the latest crisis with my parents, going through their bank statements to work out what they spend and what on. 9 am through to school pick up time on Monday, 10 am through to school pick up time on Tuesday. 10 hours' double entry book keeping at the OK corale. Then down to see them today which is lovely but hard going because it's a sod of a long way.
I keep hoping that I will get my parents' lives sorted enough to have a life of my own for a few hours a week but it's looking unlikely. I'm too skint to have one anyway. Mum used to bung me cash for petrol etc but she's gone a bit past that now so it's all stopped and I confess that without the odd cash injection from her, it's a big financial burden going down there as well. If I make/buy lunch it's usually a tenner (it's them and the carer as well as me) and I swear petrol has gone up one pence more a litre every time I fill up.
It's no biggie, half term will be a gas but when I lose my time to write I lose my escape and that makes it tough. Sometimes I feel like I'm a mum and a wife and a daughter at the expense of being a human being. I'd like to have time to complete a thought, not just one thought, but two three four or even five thoughts in a row. Not happening. Jud, this must be far worse for you!
There is just no time for me, only other people. And I can't walk away from my obligations and like me!
So, I can be a writer if I want, or I can have a social life and friends but there are only 3 hours to do it in so I can't really do both.
I think that's probably very selfish, I had the whole first 40 years of my life to be a human being in my own right and I squandered them. Now that I've realised how important it is it's too late. I've run out of time and I'll never have any more. It's motherhood until I'm 70 at least, then I'll go batshit crazy(er) (or McOther will and I'll be looking after him) and die.
I have many wonderful people and things in my life but I feel like I have no quality time to give to any of them. I'm having a hard time peeping round the sides of the obligations and duties to notice the good bits.
Hmm... am I having a mid lifer here ... ? Possibly.
Nobody's fault but my own. I'll be OK later but right now I'm just feeling a little blue. And possibly a tad melodramatic! ;-)
Cheers
MTM
Big hugs MTM - having parent troubles like yours is difficult in a unique way. I have been just on the sidelines of a very tough few months for mine, and it has been sooo tough. Fortunately, mine have mostly sorted theirs out and I can now stop worrying. It must have been 100 times worse for you... The big problem for me is a combination of not being able to do anything much because of A. being in a different country and B. being in bad health, but not having any less of the worry. But also having to accept that I will not have my parents back the way they were, and that at some time in the forseeable future they will die. Its like something that has been a reliable part of my life since birth is being taken away, and I now have to rebuild on a different foundation. I think everyone has to deal with this at some stage, but your position is so much worse because of having to be a wife and mother as well at the same time. And the things that make life bearable have been squeezed out by all this painful stuff. ((((((((((((((((MTM))))))))))))))))))
Thanks GL. And so sorry to hear you've been having a hard time. I guess we all reach that point when our relationship with our parents reverses and we look out for them but it's a very tricky adjustment to make.It is crazy, I'm going to a friend's birthday lunch today and instead of looking forward to it I'm worrying that I only have two hours beforehand to buy her a present and card, get the financial spread sheet in order and make sure my parents have enough cash to get them over half term. It's been all my spare time since mid March and although I will get it running more smoothly it's really hard achieving that with constantly changing parameters and so little time to sort it in the first place.
It does help to know someone else is going through it too.
Ho hum.
Cheers
MTM
