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Progress maybe at last. Fingers cross for you and yours.Thanks for all the hugs
Aw Katy, I have just read through all of the above posts!! I can't believe how much are taking on those very young shoulders. I have a similar situation with my 91 year old Nan. She is very needy and it all lands at mine and my brothers feet (not my mum and my aunts - ie. her children!) but we have it very easy in comparison!Your Nan is very young to have all these problems lovely, I really hope they get to the bottom of it all real soon.
I know I am not here very often but my Goodreads family are never far from my mind and helped me through a lot of crap in the past. Take all of our hugs (and you too Pat) and keep us all updated xxx
Thanks, Emz. Sorry to hear that you're going through the same thing! horrible, isn't it? Fun and games today. She's trying to play the doctors off against each other so that she can go home. She's threatened to walk out and phone a taxi. She's told the doctors that she has no trouble moving around and would cope fine at home and probably heal better.. She's also told them that she won't even consider surgery because of the problems I've had with my knee (which I have explained to her, and so have the doctors, was a complication of how I did the injury and nothing to do with the op). Very frustrating!
She's scared Katy, and I can understand that, but she needs to understand that getting her problems diagnosed is important. Better a few days in hospital now than weeks, months down the line, when things really go wrong because of the lack of a diagnosis and treatment now.
Geoff (G. Robbins) (The noisy passionfruit) wrote: "She's scared Katy, and I can understand that, but she needs to understand that getting her problems diagnosed is important. Better a few days in hospital now than weeks, months down the line, when..."I totally agree with Geoff but I know it is impossible to persuade people to stay in hospital even if it is their best interests! Did she get the blood transfusion?
I know that she's scared and some of the tests that they want her to have aren't very pleasant, but it's very frustrating when she isn't giving the doctors all the facts. We just can't make her understand that she needs to get some answers and get better. I know how awful hospital is but surely it's better to stay get better, instead of leaving and having this drag out? She hasn't had the blood transfusion yet, Emma
Is not fair on any of you. You need answers.I hope your uncle can persuade her to stay in. She needs those tests x
Huge hugs for both Pat and Katy (((HUGS))).Katy your grandma strikes me as a very frightened (not so old) woman. My hypothesis is that fears for her failing health, grieving for her recently deceased sister and concerns about so many changes in family dynamics have combined to affect her mental health.
I would be interested in finding out about her previous personality type. Was she a very strong woman, who liked to take control of situations? If so she has now been hit by a series of events over which she has absolutely no control whatsoever so has chosen to try to grasp control where she can ie with the family members she knows she can manipulate because they love her so much.
I would suggest you ask for a psychiatric evaluation to be done while she is in hospital, depression is the curse of the strong after all and perhaps a course of antidepressants could help her cope better.
Insist a discharge plan is in place before she comes home and ask social services for an urgent carers assessment to establish what health and social care support your family can expect to help with caring for your grandma. Don't take no for an answer!
As others have said don't give up your dream, were grandma in her right frame of mind I'm sure she would tell you the same.
Philip (sarah) wrote: "Huge hugs for both Pat and Katy (((HUGS))).Katy your grandma strikes me as a very frightened (not so old) woman. My hypothesis is that fears for her failing health, grieving for her recently dece..."
I totally agree with this Sarah, Depression is so so difficult (I am currently trying to help a friend who has admitted to me has been suicidal!). Can affect anyone x
Oh good. Sarah, I was hoping you'd come along.Katy, listen to our Sarah most of all.
She has professional knowledge and will help you.
Sarah, you're a blessing.
Thanks, Sarah! I have been considering a psych evaluation. She's forgetting things (more so than normal) and making things up. She has admitted this and is always telling the doctors that she 'gets very muddled' when they correct her about something.
Before she got ill, she always liked things to be done her way. She'd get a bit diva-ish at times about it! :) She is strong and very stubborn!
Since we lost my grandma, she's also been very independent, which I know is killing her at the moment!
Try to encourage her to resume control in more appropriate ways. Ask her to listen to your essay, give advice on what to pack etc. If she feels needed it may just take her mind off her own worries and reinstate her gradually back to her matriarchal role. If she gets reinforcement only for being ill she may become increasingly dependent and this will be difficult to change.Depression can present with pseudo dementia symptoms especially if the person is physically ill as well.
Anything is worth a try!
Lovely to see you Emma, congratulations on the promotion.
Thanks, Sarah. I'll get mum to talk to the nurses about depression. That sounds quite plausible :)I've tried asking her about what to pack or talking to her about my course but she just isn't interested. I'm assuming this is because she doesn't want me to go. I'll keep trying.
Thanks very much for your help :)
I hope she does admit to the Doctor so she can get the best treatment
Can I join in the cuddle? Had a tough few shifts the last few days with some pretty difficult calls, got back on station last night, pulled out in my little car and then promptly back in as my car was juddering with no power, had to get a lift home, so was an hour later than I would have been and then, because I was so late, missed out on something I was really looking forward to. Didn't get much sleep last night so I'm just feeling a bit sorry for myself this morning :(
Oh sweetheart. Yes, you need a cwtch.Have some chocolate for breakfast.
((((((((((((Hug))))))))))
Have a few more hugs from me too, Claire. It's awful when all the 'going wrong' things pile up and deliver themselves all at once.
Cuddle for Claire, incoming. Sounds like you had a chain reaction. Not at all nice.Hope today is better, Claire.
Let's hope that's the end of the chain of bad luck, Claire. Xxx
Sorry to hear you're having a tough time, Claire :( *cuddles* Hope this are better for you today! x
Thanks everyone. Feel a bit better for the hugs. Last shift of 4 today so hopefully 4 days off will give me time to destress a bit. Just need to get today out the way and my car fixed (the aa wouldn't look at it earlier because I wasn't with it, despite me giving permission).
The AA and RAC, etc are getting to the point where they are just turning into collection services, as the cars are so complex nowadays.
Claire, if bad things come in threes then you've had yours so it will be better from here on in, as evidenced by all the hugs.
Fingers crossed for getting the car fixed.
Thank you very much everyone. Car is now fixed (had to go back to work today though!), I had an ok day at work yesterday and a good night's sleep. Feeling much happier today, think I've just had too many serious calls over the last couple of shift runs and it all piled up a bit. Hopefully a day and a bit of packing and then two days with my Mum will get me ready to go back to work.
I've only just seen this thread and I'm sorry to hear about everything you've been going through Katy. I hope things are getting better for you and that you decide to continue your course. I think you may regret it in the future if you put things on hold - best wishes with everything. I'm glad you got your car sorted out too Claire, and that you seem to have come to the end of your run of bad luck. I hope you have a good day at work today. :)
✿Claire✿ wrote: "Thank you very much everyone. Car is now fixed (had to go back to work today though!), I had an ok day at work yesterday and a good night's sleep. Feeling much happier today, think I've just had ..."Claire, I feel your pain. Some patients or circumstances really get to you huh? Hope your next few shifts are not as hard xx
Aw! I just made myself very sad. I was thinking about Maureen and I had seen a post about her from recently and was trying to find it again just to say that I often think of her when I add books on here as she quite often comes up as a suggestion for someone who would like it.I typed 'Maureen' in to the search bar and found the thread from back in March on her birthday!! She was so lovely and I can still hear her voice from the Skype calls!! I am going to check if I am still friends with her friend that informed us of her death and see how her son is doing.
I will let you all know xx
Think I will start an extra hug, just because it's nice to take a few seconds out of busy lives and life's ups and downs to send hugs to each other, so here it comes, ((((((HUGGGGGGGGGGGG)))))))
That feels bit better doesn't it x x x
Thanks Anita! That should stock us up on hug for a bit :)
I often think of Maureen Emz, still makes me very sad to loose such a lovely young lady, she was lovely, would be great to know how her son is doing.
Anita wrote: "Think I will start an extra hug, just because it's nice to take a few seconds out of busy lives and life's ups and downs to send hugs to each other, so here it comes, ((((((HUGGGGGGGGGGGG)))))))
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What a lovely gesture
It's a Cuddle Bank :)
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My granddaughters' puppy has a pink pig toy that's nearly as big as he is. He alternates between trying to bite its ear off and giving it a big hug, just like that.
I think Jud likes the picture...
I love this thread, makes me feel all mushy!!! And I am with Jud on the pic, sooooo cute!
Aren't animals wonderful! Thanks Gingerlily.
Gingerlily - Mistress Lantern wrote: ""AWWW,the wee puppy is the image of Holly when we first got her. Now I'm feeling broody!
I thought of Holly when I saw the photo Sarah, Freddie was just the same but black. No wonder you are feeling broody ! Thanks for that GL, I think we are all like Jud as far as this photo goes, who couldn't be.
I might need this thread on Monday as Evie starts school
Well here's a big hug for you in advance.((((((((((Anita))))))))))
Aw!!! Big hugs Katy ((((0)))). Your virtual home is here for you xxx
Hugs Katy ((((((((Katy))))))))
Huge Hugs Katy, as Emz says we are all here for you petal!Make some of your lovely cakes and bring them to College on Monday, you'll soon be surrounded.
As someone once said 'there's no such things as strangers, only friends who've yet to meet'.
More hugs and Holly lickles for next week Anita!
Grandma spent the night in hospital and they've said that they're going to do a lot more tests. They want to know what is causing the anaemia. Hope we finally get some answers this time!