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Feb 28, 2014 03:23PM
i created an lgbt support group titled "rainbow support group".its for lgbtq+ people and supporters. no homophobia is tolerated.
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Lori wrote: "Cool beans Julia! Go for it! "
:D
Good luck Julia. People are valued here in the Complaint Department too our Rule #5 is:
5. Intolerance is forbidden especially towards people with disabilities, racial groups, women, and people of all sexual orientations including asexuals.
Rick wrote: "Any criteria for joining?"you have to be a full on supporter of LGBTQ+ people; no homophobia, transphobia, truscum, etc allowed! also none of this "i wont judge BUT my religion says this..."
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I need some advice. I've already come out as bi/pan to my immediate family (mom, dad, sister) and friends and I'm pretty open about my sexual orientation (if someone asks, I'll give them an honest answer.) But I'm not sure if I want to be public with it, like just tell people, or do a speech about my sexual orientation for my speech and debate class. I'm worried about coming out b/c I'm younger, and I do know some pretty homophobic people (but they wouldn't do anything like beat me up). I'm worried about coming out while I'm younger b/c I'm concerned people won't take me seriously, or later in life I'll wish I'd waited until I was older.
Any advice?
Any advice?
Hi Anne,You say you are younger but I don't know if that means middle school age, high school age or college age or older. Perhaps you could let us know the general age group so we can give you better replies.
I came out in high school to my lover. He wasn't much surprised because were in bed making love at the time. Two trusted straight friends knew but not the whole high school.
I came out as gay to my friends, classmates and acquaintances in college. It was not a big deal but of course I was at an art school at a liberal university in the 10th highest city in the US for numbers of gays and lesbians. I didn't shout I was gay but I didn't hide so I didn't need to spread it and hey c'mon this was art school—straight guys were a minority.
I came out as gay to my family right after college to make sure I had a degree before alienating my parents who were helping me pay for it along with my money from me working. It sounds a bit unfair to my parents and maybe it was but without a degree I would be a janitor or flipping burgers and I couldn't live that way. My parents were not overjoyed but they weren't upset and they accepted my boyfriend treating him as a son-in-law.
I came out at work as soon as I had a secure state job that protected against discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation. I didn't holler 'Hey everybody I'm gay.' but when my boyfriend called and left a message with a secretary to remind me to bring home something for dinner, well after about the third time it was obvious and at work there is no need to tell more than one person because word spreads fast.
Coming out originally meant telling other people who were sexual minorities that you were one of them. Somewhere along the way it came to mean coming out to your family and friends and Youtube.
I don't think anyone should come out by telling students in their debating class or any class. It's not up for debate because it who you are and you are not up for debate. If you tell your friends both LGBTQ+ and straight that completes coming out. No one is expected to put a big sign up at school or where they work saying 'Hey folks I'm…' (fill in the blank).
Everyone's experience is different to some degree depending on where you live and whether or not your parents and all you family would be supportive. Also depending on your ability to get long if they are not supportive or your community is full of homophobes.
Tell us a little more. Your age or age group plus the likelihood of acceptance by your parents and schoolmates and we'll be better able to answer your question.
Whatever you decide to you good luck and many blessings to you!
I really can't decide what I am. I know I'm not asexual. I'm not quite sure I'm pansexual quite yet, because I am bullied way too much to even like people, I'm not sure if I'm straight, bi, or a lesbian. If people ask I just say I'm straight but to be honest I am not completely sure. Eh... Help me out here...
Raven wrote: "I really can't decide what I am. I know I'm not asexual. I'm not quite sure I'm pansexual quite yet, because I am bullied way too much to even like people, I'm not sure if I'm straight, bi, or a le..."It's alright to be confused. I was 39 when I finally realized that I was asexual (and about 43 when I realized I was aromantic). It took reading romances for me to realize all that and the help of a friend.
Who are you attracted to? Male, female, does gender matter at all? You could be panromantic bisexual or vice-verse or some other orientation. You have time to figure it all out, so don't stress about it. Take your time, explore what makes you happiest. If real people make you unhappy, try fictional characters or test your reactions to celebrities.
Just take breath and relax. You'll figure it out. :-)
I just don't know. Fictional boys and girls don't bully me and call me fat. But honestly gender doesn't matter. I'd go out with either.
Raven wrote: "I just don't know. Fictional boys and girls don't bully me and call me fat. But honestly gender doesn't matter. I'd go out with either."
I was kind of hoping to undermine all that by giving you an alternative type of person to check yourself against, but I do know it's really, really hard to ignore such insults. I've always been overweight and though the insults died off as I got older, the damage had already been done and I decided the last few years of high school were better spent in quiet corners with my earphones plugged into a Walkman (yes, we're talking the 80s here, LOL) and my head bent over my slowly, but surely wearing out copy of Dune. Add in the fact that I'm, by nature, an introvert and shy, high school was not a fun place to be. College, on the other hand, especially a small community college with older students who there for a real purpose? That was pure bliss.
Here's a new blog for you if you want to explore: http://panaftbh.tumblr.com. It's brand spanking new, but if you want somewhere you can ask questions about that particular orientation, it might help. :-)
I'm bullied for being fat too but I'm not. You can clearly see my fricking ribs through my shirt! People just want to pick on me.
I think I might be pansexual. But until the bullying stops I guess I'll never know.
Raven wrote: "I think I might be pansexual. "Honestly, till you find yourself attracted to someone you won't really be sure. I thought I wasn't attracted to guys wearing women's clothes until I saw one in a club wearing a sexy dress, and damn he was hot, unfortunately I apparently looked at his legs for too long and I got death stare, but the legs were worth it xDD
I know this isn't quite equivalent to what you're dealing with Raven, but the message at the end of the quote is what I've been, in my own inept way, trying to say is the same. A friend posted it on FB a short time ago and I thought it appropriate:
"Sometimes I am stunned at my capacity as a nine-year-old, to understand my entrapment and escape it. How is it that the boy I was in October, 1929, could, because of the criticism of his fourth-grade schoolmates, tear up his Buck Rogers comic strips and a month later judge all of his friends idiots and rush back to collecting?
Where did that judgment and strength come from? What sort of process did I experience to enable me to say: I am as good as dead. Who is killing me? What do I suffer from? What’s the cure?…
Part of the answer, of course, is in the fact that I was so madly in love with Buck Rogers. I could not see my love, my hero, my life, destroyed… It was like having your best all-round greatest-loving-buddy, pal, center-of-life drown or get shotgun killed. Friends, so killed, cannot be saved from funerals. Buck Rogers, I realized, might know a second life, if I gave it to him. So I breathed in his mouth and lo! he sat up and talked and said, what?
Yell. Jump. Play. Outrun those sons of bitches. They’ll never live the way you live. Go do it." Author Ray Bradbury
Ignore those bullies. Lift your head up and look 'em in the eye and show them you're a confident person, secure in your self, even if you're not. One of things bullies like to do is to tear down other people's confidence in themselves because it makes them feel powerful and superior. It may be a scary thing to do, it may take time, but the more confidence you have in yourself and who you are (one of the reasons I made those suggestions above), the less likely you'll be picked on.
Do you have a GSA or something similar at school? You might see about joining the club. Having someone who's asking the same type of questions you are about yourself is a confidence booster too, because they're exploring the same themes you are. Go to a counselor if you think it might help.
Hey, this is a lithub "final four"
Tournament of Literary Sex Writing
http://lithub.com/the-tournament-of-l...
Tournament of Literary Sex Writing
http://lithub.com/the-tournament-of-l...
Although there are typos... it's good enough... article about dealing with street harassment
Street Harassment Is an LGBTQIA+ Issue, Too
http://everydayfeminism.com/2015/10/c...
Street Harassment Is an LGBTQIA+ Issue, Too
http://everydayfeminism.com/2015/10/c...
This e-mag is aimed at LGBTQIA+ . It's really fun. Especially on Fridays when there are playlists. It's primary audience is 18-24. I first heard of it from a photo of the creator and editor-in-chief...
They take submissions, artwork and more and not just for teens.
The focus is primarily encouraging young people. The music is good for anyone. I never new online magazines like this existed.
http://www.rookiemag.com
They take submissions, artwork and more and not just for teens.
The focus is primarily encouraging young people. The music is good for anyone. I never new online magazines like this existed.
http://www.rookiemag.com
Hey, I'm un-coming out as asexual and instead coming out as bisexual again. Just writing here so everybody knows, haha.If there's any other bisexuals reading this, I made a Goodreads group. Book discussion, queer theory, etc. Please join!: https://www.goodreads.com/group/show/...
