[F2F Book Discussions] February 2014: What We Talk About When We Talk About Love: Stories by Raymond Carver [Genre: Short Stories] | Moderator: Monique

[Tricia]

Ranee: asexual beings. Feeling ko, parang may career ako sa pagiging halaman lol

[Ranee]

Tricia, chillax!
Punta ka dito sa Sagada para lumamig ulo mo. hehe

[Tricia]

Haha! Pero alam mo mas malamig dyan? (view spoiler)[ Ang puso ko. (hide spoiler)] Haha, corny. Can't help it.

[Tina]

Tricia: OMG HAHAHA BENTA XD

Ranee: Ang iniisip ko yung novel ko. Nagrerevise ako ngayon. :D

[Maria Ella]

(view spoiler)[Nahuli ako ni Tina ha... hahaha: And oh, kaya rin siguro yung friends ko na receiving gifts ang primary love language nila ay nanlilibre pag may galit. Hmm. :) (hide spoiler)]

Tapos yung friendship to exclusive ang meron sila... Kalan. (view spoiler)[Kalandian (hide spoiler)] hahaha. Ayoko rin ng ganyan.

Pwede bang magically one partner for life na lang. Bitter or worse, bahala na batman. (view spoiler)[Mapakla naman ako deep inside eh CHOS (hide spoiler)]

[Cary]

ayan na naman ang kalan mo ella haha!

[Tricia]

Sindihan niyo yang kalan ni Ella lol

[Tina]

Ella: So, nanlilibre ka nga pag naffrustrate ka? Or nagbibigay ka ng regalo sa mga tao? Or waaait...regalo sa sarili mo? XD (view spoiler)[Retail therapy, ahhh ♥ (hide spoiler)]

Haha pero benta sakin yung Kalan. =))

[Angus]

Pinapatunayan kong nanlilibre si Ella kapag frustrated! So I suggest na alamin ninyo ang mga bagay na nakakapagfrustrate sa kanya kung gusto ninyo ng crepes. :D

[Tricia]

Major frustration ni Ella: (view spoiler)[ LALAKE. (hide spoiler)] chos! haha

[Ingrid]

1) When I hear the word "love," I think about (view spoiler)[ how it feels. It's something I don't want to think about, but I do anyway. I thought about how other people made me feel loved, how they did it, how they do it to other people. Then I think about how I make people feel loved. Then I think about other people and how they are loved and how they give back love. It's a chain reaction, a phenomenon I just can't quite explain. BECAUSE FEELINGS. (hide spoiler)]


(2) What is your love language? Are they accurate? Do you agree? Why or why not?

(view spoiler)[Quality Time > Acts of Service > Receiving Gifts

Confeeeermed. Haha.
Just don't hug me or I will (view spoiler)[cry (hide spoiler)]. I cannot trust my feelings. Intense kasi. Haha. Parang tingin na nakakatunaw. CHOS.

(hide spoiler)]

[Meliza]

Tricia: Ok na sana no? Biglang...

Tina: Ouch.

[Tricia]

Wag damdamin... (view spoiler)[ There are many fishes in the sea. Haha loljk (hide spoiler)]

[Meliza]

Ella: Yung friendship to exclusive, pwede naman magtuloy-tuloy hanggang Number 20. Haha.

[Tina]

I quote, from a discarded part in the piece I'm revising:

(view spoiler)[

But I have long accepted the fact that Mark and I were just friends, and will remain friends, nothing more.

(hide spoiler)]

Hehe. Pinadelete sakin yan, masyado daw ma-drama. :P
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MAE: May naisip na ako sa floating in space mo. Astronaut. :D

INGRID: Isa ka pang clingy! Haha pero I understand your hug thing, but that only happens to me pag sobrang stressed ako, or I'm trying to hide what I feel. Okay ako, okay ako, okay ako sabay may hug, tapos huhuhuhuhu T_T

[Tricia]

Teka, ang sakit sa puso nung nasa spoiler tag. (view spoiler)[ *cries in the corner* (hide spoiler)]

[Angus]

"How do you trust your feelings when they can just disappear like that?"

-Cindy (Michelle Williams), Blue Valentine

Waaah! I'm gonna crey-crey na.

[Monique]

WHOA. Did I open a can of worms here?? Haha. Nagkagulo na sa Friendship to Exclusive. Heee. <3

TRICIA: You should attend the F2F! Mukhang marami kang mashe-share sa amin. Consider it catharsis na rin. :)

DOC RANEE: Maganda sanang board game ano? Haha. But I have something else lined up for the F2F activities, hopefully you'll have fun pa rin. ;)

ALL: Marami bang na-friendzone dito?? Ica-count ko na kayo sa confirmed attendees ha? O pang-GNO lang na usapan to? Haha!

INGGA: (((virtual hugs)))

ELLA: Buti na lang wala akong iniinom o kinakain nung nabasa yung KALAN mo. Maglilinis pa ako ng laptop nun pag nagkataon, haha! Baka frustrated ka ngayong mga panahong to, pwede kang mag-announce dito ng snack o merienda meet-up. :P

[Aaron Vincent]

Maria: Sureness!

Cousin and Angus: You're reading it wrong. Maybe add a touch of cynism there and you'll get it right.

Angus: Haven't seen Blue Valentine but doesn't that make feelings more precious? Knowing that it is fleeting (ephemeral? lolz) makes the feeling more special and you'll hold more tightly on it.

[Gwaxa]

Angus: I watched that pagkagaling sa F2F nung Saturday (or Sunday). Ang bigat sa puso, T_T.

Baket ang dameng comments pag tungkol sa lurve? Disclaimer: This is not a bitter comment. Lol.

[Aaron Vincent]

And while we're on the business of sad quotes...

" Do you know what hurts most about a broken heart? Not being able to remember how you felt before... try and keep that feeling, because... if it goes... you'll never get it back" - Cassie, Skins

Cousin: What have you done?!

[Gwaxa]

Aaron Vincent wrote: "And while we're on the business of sad quotes...

" Do you know what hurts most about a broken heart? Not being able to remember how you felt before... try and keep that feeling, because... if it g..."

Aaron? Really? you have this side pala? Hahahaha.

[Tina]

Gwaxa: a similar thing happened during one of my Religion classes in college. We were discussing Matrimony, and suddenly everyone's listening/contributing to the discussion. :))

Aaron: T_T

Cousin: do we have alcohol on your F2F? Haha. Jk. I think naman at one point, we have all been put in that zone. Or we have pushed someone there. Lately lang naman nauso yung term na yun eh. May nabasa ako in one Catholic teen website about how the friend zone isn't necessarily bad. Being a friend is a high honor naman. What distorts it is our expectations on one another. (view spoiler)[Oh but that zone not being bad doesn't necessarily mean it doesn't suck. Of course it sucks. But it's some sort of growing pain. That just really suck baaad. :(( (hide spoiler)]

Okay ang dami ko na sinabi. Babalik na ko sa pagrevise, excuse meeee. *poof*

[Gwaxa]

Tina: Muka kaseng madaming pinaghuhugutan ang mga tao (gaya mo?), hahahahaha.

Monique: I'm looking forward to the discussion. Tingin magiging madugo yun. ;)

[Alexa]

Naloloka ako sa discussion na to guys =)) therefore I dedicate this song to you http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ts0cNz... SING WITH ME char :))

[Tina]

Gwaxa: I invoke my right against self-incrimination. I am simply channeling my characters' emotions. *bow* Haha. Exciting F2F bigla. (On another note, I can't remember if there's a friend zone story in WWTAWWTAL. Parang wala. Maybe I need to reread it.)

Alexa: OMG THAT SONG. /wrist x infinity Hahahaha. Pero medyo may bad rep na yang song na yan dahil dun sa videoke namin before. Cary, Aenna, Ronnie, Ranee, Ruby, naalala nyo pa? XD

[Gwaxa]

Tina: Okay. Nakakaintriga lang yang book na yan ha.

Alexa: ~Di mo lang alaaaaaaaaaammmm....~

[AennA]

Ang bigat naman ng usapan dito. Haay.

[Alexa]

I have a whole playlist of the stuff HAHAhahuhuhuhu

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nW9Cu6... pinakahugot song ng mga taong friend zone

ayoko na, good night :))

[Cary]

Hahaha! Tina, nakakatawa naman kasi ang video nun, panira sa pag eemote. ayan natatawa na naman tuloy ako dito.

Tricia, wala na yatang mas halaman pa sa akin, bagay nga ako sa kagubatan. bigyan nyo nga ako ng konting emosyon. (view spoiler)[ kelangan ko lang sa singing career namin ni anna!haha! (hide spoiler)]

P.S. At napahagalpak ako sa exclusive friendship! parang tales from the friendzone lang ni pareng Ramon ah.

[Angus]

Aaron: I agree naman, kaso kasi when she said that line... panoorin mo na nga lang! Add to Watch List sa Letterboxd. It's timely, malapit na ang Pebrero.

Gwaxa: Inupdate ko nga ang aking wallpaper nung movie poster. Haaay. T___T

[Mae]

Nag-birthday dinner lang kami for my mom, ang dami nang kaganapan dito.

Friendship to Exclusive pala ha. Ang tawag diyan, M.U. as in (view spoiler)[Malanding Ugnayan (hide spoiler)] or pwede ring (view spoiler)[Malabong Ugnayan (hide spoiler)] Take your pick. Choose your own adventure.

I have nothing to say about this friendzone business. Heh. :P

[Gwaxa]

Angus: Ang lungkot na Pebrero naman nyan. Maygulay.

Aaron: Angus is right. Just watch it.

Mae: M.U., pwedeng (view spoiler)[Mag-Un? lol, korni ko (hide spoiler)].

[Bennard]

Can I be that smug bastard and say that I can't relate to the conversation here?:p

Seriously though, what's up? Bakit parang hardcore bigla ang usapan?

[Maria Ella]

Lahat kasi kami may konting kalan sa katawan. Kahit halaman ka pwede kang sindihan. Mistulang kalan na rin. Bounce na~

Hi benny~~~~~~ :D

[Tina]

Mae, Gwaxa: my favorite definition of MU has always been (view spoiler)[Mukhang Unggoy (hide spoiler)]. XD

Benny: see what people talk about when they talk about love? :) Some of the things, anyway. ;)

[Meliza]

Gwaxa: Yung Blue Valentine talaga una mong pinanood? As in pagkauwi ng 3am? Haha.

Masama ba yung Friendship to Exclusive? Hindi naman di ba? Haha. It's just friendship that turned into something else.

[Monique]

Okay people, settle down! :P

COUSIN AARON: Um, opened a can of worms? :D

GWAXA: I'm hoping that it will be an interesting discussion! The book itself is also quite interesting, actually. Pero medyo on the heavy stuff sya, and as far as I can remember, there's nothing in it about young people getting friend-zoned - the stories are mostly about older couples who are in various stages of love and un-love. :)

ALEXA: Waaah! Napakanta tuloy ako. :D

BENNY: Bah, humbug? :))

COUSIN TINA, MAE, GWAXA: MU for me is (view spoiler)[Mabahong Utot (hide spoiler)]. XD

MELIZA: Hindi masama! Depende lang kung ano yung "something else," haha! ;)

[Tricia]

Omg, people, calm your tits! Haha!

Mae: ang lakas ng tawa ko sa MU mo. Panalo e.

Meliza: Hindi naman masama yun e pero depende kung anong klaseng exclusive ba yan like (view spoiler)[exclusive friendship, exclusive taga-libre, exclusive momol, exclusive hohol, exclusive huhul, exclusive cocol, exclusive kalan, or talagang exclusive dating lol (hide spoiler)]

Alexa: Medyo nabasag ako sa kantang yan. Hindi ko na nga pinapakinggan kasi sobrang /wrist lol

Monique: Tama si Tina, do we have booze on your F2F? loljk (view spoiler)[ boto ako for the alcohol lololol (hide spoiler)]

Cary: Nung isang araw, pinanood ko lahat ng episodes ng Tales from the Friend Zone, nakaranas ako ng (view spoiler)[pre-emptive supalpal at check lahat ng Ayaw Sayo Signals lol /wrist (hide spoiler)]

[Aaron Vincent]

Gwaxa: You didn't know that I have what side? The one the quotes pop culture a lot? Isn't that tad bit obvious? I am a pop culture slut! Hahaha Or were you referring to the pseudo-romanticism? Minsan lang yan so pagbigyan. :p

Angus: I just did. I checked the page. It was from the same director who did The Place Beyond the Pines and I (almost) love that movie! Guess I'll be watching this one pretty soon.

[Mabelle]

Meliza: Ganda, one of the best things sa friendship to exclusive mo (especially if your exclusive is the bf-gf thing) is that you have a stronger foundation for your relationship...

;)

[Meliza]

Mabelle: Yan, that's nice. But let us not say "friendship to exclusive mo". Hehe. Hindi 'yan akin. :P

[Tin]

(1) Finish the sentence: When I hear the word "love," I think about__________ (view spoiler)[ Purpose. I think it drives almost everything; our lives, our stories, the universe!(or multiverse!) (hide spoiler)]
(view spoiler)[Although when I read Tenth of December, (I seriously cannot stop talking about this book) it's the first time that I began to consider that love can be seen as chemistry. You know, it's a release of chemicals, hormones and stuff in your body. It's a neurological thing much like hunger. Therefore, can be altered by drugs / science. When all along I have always seen it as something uncontrollable, something that happens to us, without our command. I don't know, baka sa future they might develop love inducing drugs. and not only lust. That will be strange. Ewan ko...thinking aloud lang. (hide spoiler)]

(2) What is your love language?(view spoiler)[
8 each for: Quality Time, Acts of Service, and Words of Affirmation. Then 4 for Receiving Gifts, and 2 for Physical Tats.

I got a three-way tie on my first take. But when I took the test the second time, I came out with Acts of Service as the top followed by Words of Affirmation, and Quality Time. The third time nanguna na yung Quality Time. Ang gulo ko. Hehe. Pero in all three takes, palaging 4 ang gifts and 1 ang touch. Hindi nga ako mahilig sa touch. Palagi akong inaasar ng ilang kaibigan dahil hindi ako mahilig mag beso kapag kami ay nagkikita. Naninigas din ako kapag ako ay kanilang binebeso. Haha. :D (hide spoiler)]

[Monique]

TRICIA: What kind of alcohol do you have in mind? Red Horse ba o medyo pang-laid back drinking lang? Since you guys want it (right?), I can sponsor it. ;)

TIN: Aha, a scientific take on love. No one can dispute that of course. And thank you for offering another perspective, courtesy of Tenth of December! (view spoiler)[I swear I will read that this year. (hide spoiler)]

[Tricia]

Tin, regarding neurologic take on love: Limbic system of the brain is responsible for emotions (love). Wala lang. Haha (view spoiler)[ so pakistimulate nalang ang Limbic System natin (hide spoiler)]

Monique: pang-laid back lang pero may tama. Haha!

[Maria]

May tequila akoooo! Pero sa F2F ko pa dadalhin, hehehe.

I second Benny, d ako maka-relate sa convo na ito. *ganda ko lang* loljk

[Lynai]

Parang gusto kong ma experience yang friend zone na yan ha. Di ako maka-relate. (view spoiler)[ang ganda ko lang din bwahaha j/k (hide spoiler)]

[Cary]

Lynai wrote: "Parang gusto kong ma experience yang friend zone na yan ha. Di ako maka-relate. [spoilers removed]"

ako din hindi makarelate sa friendzone na yan kasi (view spoiler)[ bukod sa isa akong halaman, meron din akong autofriend zone feature! :p (hide spoiler)]

[Lynai]

^Like ko yang feature na yan! Naka-on kasi yan nung kabataan ko haha! Kabataan talaga :))

[Cary]

Ang ingay ko pala! haha. titigil na nga ako. :)