Age Gaps in Relationships

[Lo, I'm a waste of time]

How do you feel about couples with large differences in age? (Like, somebody 40 years old dating someone 20 years old, for example?)

[Maddison]

I don't really like it. Well I don't really see how it could work but it's none of my business

[[deleted user]]

It's generally up to the individual's involved, but all aspects of their relationship needs to be looked at before they decide to commit.

[Ruth]

It seriously grosses me out when there's that big of an age gap. Especially if it's the girl who's like 40 when the guy is like 20. As much as ten years I can handle, but then only if the guy is older. If the girl is older any more than five years is sickening. But then, I can't stop them. If they really think they're in love, then more power to them.

[Lo, I'm a waste of time]

Ruth wrote: "It seriously grosses me out when there's that big of an age gap. Especially if it's the girl who's like 40 when the guy is like 20. As much as ten years I can handle, but then only if the guy is ol..."

What's the difference between an older guy and an older woman?

[Lo, I'm a waste of time]

H99 wrote: "Theresa wrote: "It's generally up to the individual's involved, but all aspects of their relationship needs to be looked at before they decide to commit."

Agreed.

If they truly love each other, t..."

Agreed.
Though I think there's a law in some states (in the US) where it's illegal to date someone at least five years older than you?

[Ruth]

Lo♪ wrote: "Ruth wrote: "It seriously grosses me out when there's that big of an age gap. Especially if it's the girl who's like 40 when the guy is like 20. As much as ten years I can handle, but then only if ..."

I don't know, it just freaks me out.

[Lo, I'm a waste of time]

Ruth wrote: "Lo♪ wrote: "Ruth wrote: "It seriously grosses me out when there's that big of an age gap. Especially if it's the girl who's like 40 when the guy is like 20. As much as ten years I can handle, but t..."

I think that might be a little sexist. Are older woman so disgusting that younger partners should never be with them?

[Lo, I'm a waste of time]

H99 wrote: "Lo♪ wrote: "Ruth wrote: "Lo♪ wrote: "Ruth wrote: "It seriously grosses me out when there's that big of an age gap. Especially if it's the girl who's like 40 when the guy is like 20. As much as ten ..."

That's just ridiculous.

Personally, I think as long as both sides love each other then it's fine (as long as it's not for pedophilic reasons.) Doesn't matter whether the male or female is older (or in homosexual relationships, either).

[Faye]

40 and 20? That's a lot of gap. Age difference is fine for me as long as it's not two or more years lol. And it is much more acceptable these days if, well let's say, the guy's not younger.

[[deleted user]]

Okay....I'm okay with it. I'm in a relationship with someone eight years older and my grandparents are sixteen years apart.

[[deleted user]]

Thank you.

[[deleted user]]

It's my step grandpa....though. He's 36 and my grandma is 52

[Sierra]

Ruth wrote: "It seriously grosses me out when there's that big of an age gap. Especially if it's the girl who's like 40 when the guy is like 20. As much as ten years I can handle, but then only if the guy is ol..."

I don't understand why people think it's ok for the guy to be older but not the girl...I think that as long as the people are both mature and really love each other it's fine. Personally, the furthest I would go is 7 or 8 years but if other people love each other with bigger gaps then people should just let them be.

[Islam Ahmed]

So long as the couple has no problem with the age gap, then why should I?

[Evan]

If it's legal, so the are at a legitimate age of consent and they love each other then who am I to judge its love and that is the way of life.

[Leah, I'm HI-larious! (Head Mod)]

Evan wrote: "If it's legal, so the are at a legitimate age of consent and they love each other then who am I to judge its love and that is the way of life."

Exactly

[ℂᖺαᖇᒪἷ℮ ⊰1017 &Tardis⊱, Lend me your ears!]

Often I am doubtful of the amount of 'love' in relationships with people who have large age gaps, but it's really not my place to judge, though under some circumstances couples get together publicly the second the young one becomes legal, I think that's a little weird.

[Arwen]

I don't mind to much but i do have my limits like when a guy of like 60 marries a girl of maybe 20. It just doesn't seem right

[Arwen]

wow, really?
I don't judge but wow

[notyourfriend]

Yea, that's grosss too.

[notyourfriend]

Yea, 4 years is pushing it. No more than that.