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[Violeta]

I read and sort of enjoyed this book, but never really understood why Lily left her daughter and her husband.

[Denicemarcell]

She was not a full person with them and had issues to resolve, perhaps survivors guilt. Also it was probably difficult to see a daughter achieving and passing the stages her previous daughter didn't. As the third child was a son the contrast was not strong though she started sending the rocks to kind of acknowlege the daughter and her own grief.

[Violeta]

Denicemarcell wrote: "She was not a full person with them and had issues to resolve, perhaps survivors guilt. Also it was probably difficult to see a daughter achieving and passing the stages her previous daughter didn..."

Denicemarcell wrote: "She was not a full person with them and had issues to resolve, perhaps survivors guilt. Also it was probably difficult to see a daughter achieving and passing the stages her previous daughter didn..."

Thanks for your answer. Good insight.I never thought of that.

[Pat]

Excellent thoughts. Thanks, Denicemarcell.

I think I might have tried to pursue a meeting with my half brother, Anton, so my children could have cousins.
Also perhaps I could have more of a feel for what sort of a person her mother was really. But then again, that is actually opening a can of worms too.

[Pat]

I just checked this site and wanted to clarify, where I said "I think" I meant to say, "If I were Ruth" I might have tried to pursue a meeting.....
Sorry. Just to clarify.