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How I Met My Significant Other
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Feb 18, 2013 07:17PM
Okay...give over...what did he say that made you think he was a jerk, Gisela?
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Gisela wrote: "I did. "Anddddddddddddd?
I was mortified! I turned to leave but he grabbed my arm and asked me to stop. He said:"Wait! I'm sorry that didn't come out right!I'm not a good dancer so I don't enjoy doing it." So I asked him what he enjoyed and talked to him until it was time to leave. I was really hoping he would ask me for my number but he didn't!
Lisa Kay wrote: "Okay...give over...what did he say that made you think he was a jerk, Gisela?"Well, I used to be an electrical engineering student, so when there had been some technical difficuties with some equipement I was asked to help. He said:"It's good to see pretty girls can be useful too."
Oh! Totally chauvinistic and un-PC. LOL!
A few days later my childhood friend called me. (Remember her? She was the one who had tried to set me up with her boyfriend's brother.) She said:"OMG! What did you do?!" I had no idea what she was talking about. Turned out Cute guy was her boyfriend's brother! LOL! Apparenty I made a pretty good impression on him because she and her boyfriend where going to the mini golf that weekend and my Cutie asked her to ask me along. I told her:"Well if he wants me to come then he can ask me himself!" She laughed and told me I was right. It wasn't until we hung up that I remembered that I hadn't given him my number, but I had faith in my friend.
**hee hee**I'm loving this installment way, Gisela. So, did he ask for the number from her...or did she offer it?
Later that day he called me and asked me out. We went to the mini golf and had a blast. That night as I was getting ready for bed, he called to tell me that he'd had a good time and wanted to go out with me but without the chaperones! I accepted and we've been together for the past 11 years.
**snortsnort** Love the, "without the chaperones" - LOL!
Lisa Kay wrote: "**hee hee**I'm loving this installment way, Gisela. So, did he ask for the number from her...or did she offer it?"
He asked her for it. Later he told me that his foot-in-mouth responses were due to nerves. He thought I was the most beautiful girl he had ever seen and as soon as he saw me he knew I was the ONE!
Gisela wrote: "Lisa Kay wrote: "**hee hee**I'm loving this installment way, Gisela. So, did he ask for the number from her...or did she offer it?"
He asked her for it. Later he told me that his foot-in-mouth ..."
Aww :) *swoons*
Lisa Kay wrote: "Aw! That is so neat."ShoSho **The sick chick** wrote:"Aww :) *swoons* "
I know right? I just had to marry him after that!
How awesome are these stories!? Gisela, I love that he knew you were the one. My husband and I just kind of grew on each other...lol... Like mold, but sexier :-)And yes, Lisa Kay, I know I'm bad, I can't help it, lol
Ok, reason I was stood up. He was asleep. He slept for 19 hrs, he says. Apparently, he had been up for a while (can't remember why) and he slept through our date. Over in Spain he had these shutters that blocked the sun coming in and room was totally dark. If he had woke up he wouldn't have been able to tell if it was day or night. Anyway, I gave him another chance...
Love the story, Gisela! It was obviously meant to be.And so glad you gave him another chance, Pamela!
And CaroB - growing on each other is a good thing!
I would love to share these stories with one of my daughters. She is convinced she is never going to meet anyone. She claims that boys only ever want her for a friend and that she is doomed to be single forever. She is about to be 20. Please!!
20 is so young! She needs to not be in a hurry. There IS someone out there. I was 25 when I got married. And feel free to share my story ☺
Leslie wrote: "Love the story, Gisela! It was obviously meant to be.
And so glad you gave him another chance, Pamela!
And CaroB - growing on each other is a good thing!
I would love to share these stories wit..."
Im 21 ! And pretty much think the same :P
And so glad you gave him another chance, Pamela!
And CaroB - growing on each other is a good thing!
I would love to share these stories wit..."
Im 21 ! And pretty much think the same :P
Ah! I think, Pamela, he slept because he was finally able to...it was the relief of finding The One, after all those years. LOL!
Karen, I think we all think that. I remember wondering constantly why I couldn't find me a guy that I could fall in love with. I went out with a few that were not for me and they thought they were. I wasn't even sure about my hubby when I first met him. But I was a child of divorce and was determined that when I met the right guy it had to be forever. So I was maybe a little too careful. But whatever you do DON'T settle! The right guy IS out there.
Leslie wrote: "Love the story, Gisela! It was obviously meant to be.And so glad you gave him another chance, Pamela!
And CaroB - growing on each other is a good thing!
I would love to share these stories wit..."
Feel free to do so!
Pamela(AllHoney) wrote: "Karen, I think we all think that. I remember wondering constantly why I couldn't find me a guy that I could fall in love with. I went out with a few that were not for me and they thought they were...."My parents were married for 25 yrs until my mother passed away and they were very much in love. We kids knew it and our friends knew it. I was so proud of them, I told myself that was the kind of marriage I wanted. My mother told me once that I should make a list with the qualities that I thought were non-negotiable in a husband and look for them among the guys I dated. She also told me to never date a guy that didn't have them even though I didn't want him as a husband because the guy I would eventually marry would be among those I would date.
And once I found one who I thought could be "The One" to make a list of his faults. If I didn't find any something wasn't right! LOL! Once the list was made I had to analyze them and decide if I could live with them because they wouldn't go away if anything after marriage they would seem worse! She was right! I'm not perfect but he loves me anyway, how can I do less?
Pamela(AllHoney) wrote: "Karen, I think we all think that. I remember wondering constantly why I couldn't find me a guy that I could fall in love with. I went out with a few that were not for me and they thought they were...."
I do want to wait , but in India , especially in my caste , I only have till 23 , then like it or not my parents will start looking for a guy for me :(
I do want to wait , but in India , especially in my caste , I only have till 23 , then like it or not my parents will start looking for a guy for me :(
I am loving all your wonderful stories:)
Karen, I could go with that! I would be happy to find someone for my daughters. It's very nerve wracking for a parent to have to worry about who your children are going to pick. I have two children getting married in the next year and luckily they both found really special people. My son is only 22 and has been dating his fiance since he was 15. So sweet!As to divorce, both my husband and I come from divorced families and we were both committed to not getting divorced. So that helped during the "grit your teeth" days of being married.
@Gisela - wise words from your mom!
Karen wrote: "Leslie wrote: "Love the story, Gisela! It was obviously meant to be.And so glad you gave him another chance, Pamela!
And CaroB - growing on each other is a good thing!
I would love to share th..."
i'm 30 and think the same LOL
Loving the stories though it gives me hope.
My husband and I ment in family therapy.
*Pops in* I have been missing tons after only a week I see. I love all your stories <3
Rinelle wrote: "My husband and I ment in family therapy."Sounds like a good way to work on the issues before they occur.
Susanne wrote: "*Pops in* I have been missing tons after only a week I see. I love all your stories <3"Come back after you're done with your thesis and tell us how you met you significant other ;)
ShoSho **The sick chick** wrote: "Susanne wrote: "*Pops in* I have been missing tons after only a week I see. I love all your stories Come back after you're done with your thesis and tell us how you met you significant other ;)"
Lol! I will!
Love the family therapy cute-meet!I brought my then fiance home to meet my mom and her second husband. She made him come with us to a family therapy session that included both my brothers. It's amazing that he even married me after that experience! He was convinced that we were all crazy, but especially me LOL!
Oh, Lord! Right off the bat? **shakes head**
When I met my husband's family, his father asked me what I thought. I told him I was not longer a bit afraid of taking him home to mine. He asked his wife, "What did she mean by that?"
LOL Leslie. That's quite an introduction to the family.Ours wasn't really family therapy, it was an elective we both took at university. But it always sounds good.
I was in third year, he was in second, and when I came into the room for our first lecture, he was sitting all by himself in one corner of the room. Even though I'm normally quite shy myself, I thought he looked lonely, so I sat down next to him and started talking.
To this day I have no idea why, it's totally unlike me. But I'm very glad I did!
Oh, that's neat, Rinelle. Glad a risk worked out for a HEA.
Susanne wrote: "Lol! I will! "hmmmmm I remember someone said that she will share her story !!!
Oh ladies, I forgot. I'm on my phone but I will tell you as soon as I log on my computer xD
It is very difficult to tell your story. It's like I want to write a whole book. Bear with me xD Lol!As some of you may know, I met my significant other at work - or more correctly at the PhD program. I had seen him during our undergrad studies in the lecture hall, and I thought he was cute but our paths hadn't crossed before. It wasn't love at first sight, but definitely crush at first week. Lol! It was just there. There was so much chemistry between us, and my stomach was filled with butterflies. We both knew that there was something between us; that kind of thing is just there but he had a girlfriend at the time. Previously I had pushed guys away, and been stuck in the friend trap because I was too scared but this time I was determined to do it differently.
However, at the first exam party he stayed after everyone had left and we were out on my balcony he said that it was a very complicated situation for him. I asked why and he said something about him having a girlfriend and the feelings between us and I said (very bravely) that he should break up with her then. We did kiss that night, but nothing else happened until he broke up with her the next week. We started dating very slowly - even though everyone else thought it was a bad idea because we were in the same class, and he was just out of a relationship and what if it doesn't work out. For us, it was so strong that we couldn't not date - we just had to see where it would lead. We sneaked around in the corridors and stole a kiss or two in the copier room!
We are still very much in love four years later and getting married in May! *Twirls* The start wasn't optimal but I am very happy that I went for it, even though it was scary. I was a bit jealous in the start, but he was very supportive and now I know that we have a very rare kind of love in real life (but very common in romances). It is "safe but exciting". And as icing on the cake, he ticks off almost all the qualities I put down on my husband-wishlist when I was 17 xD xD
Susanne wrote: "It is very difficult to tell your story. It's like I want to write a whole book. Bear with me xD Lol!
As some of you may know, I met my significant other at work - or more correctly at the PhD pro..."
yay :D great story susanne :):) You are v v lucky :)
As some of you may know, I met my significant other at work - or more correctly at the PhD pro..."
yay :D great story susanne :):) You are v v lucky :)
"safe but exciting"I love it!!! Thanks for sharing that with us Susanne. :-) And May is not far enough away at all, how's all the planning going?
Ah, Susanne! Thanks for sharing that sweet story. An very brave of you to tell him how you felt.
Thanks Karen! I feel very blessed xD And I too wondered if I would ever meet anyone, and at one point I started doubting that love even existed (!).Me too CaroB! The planning is going fairly well, but right now I'm stressed because no one from the venue is calling back to me when I try to book a meeting for planning the day *frustrated groan* I guess they will eventually xD I looked for a ring a couple of days ago, and that was much more exciting! And I have the dress, the photographer and the guy. Lol!
Thanks Lisa Kay! I felt very brave xD I had actually been in a similar situation a couple of years back with another guy, and then I didn't tell him. A year later he told me that he had a crush on me too but that he didn't know what I felt. And by then he had met someone else, and the opportunity was lost. Now I am happy for that because I met the one I was supposed to be with, and when I met him I knew that it hurts more to miss it than it can possibly hurt to try.
Susanne wrote: "... it hurts more to miss it than it can possibly hurt to try."Wise words Susanne!
Ohmygosh, so true!! I always regret the stuff I didn't do than the things I did and failed at.
What a great thread! Love to hear all your stories! CaroB - I laughed my ass off (pun intended, LOL!) with yours!!I'll share mine as well. ;)
I met my husband in College. And no, he wasn't a fellow student. He was my teacher. (Usually at this point, most people ask me...so what grade did you get in the class? *wink, wink* To which I usually respond, I got an A BUT my GPA was 3.83 so I got A's in most classes.)
The rest to come later. ;)
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