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Jina,Thanks for the update on Heather. Know it has been a n intense time for all of you. Hope you have a wonderful birthday!
Hi All,I have some news, on June 3rd I am getting 2 dental implants ,the Dentist think this will stop my jaw from shifting anymore . It is really starting to pop out a lot. Jen and Bill got an offer today on their house the people who want to buy it need to sell their house first. They put down $1000.00 earnest money. So we will see what happens.
How is everyone doing? I miss all of you! Love Lola
Hi, all -- it's been pretty quiet in here, so I hope you are all enjoying spring. It's been raining here - unusual for May, but very welcome. We need all the insulation we can get against wildfires.
If you have a "Netgalley" account, you can request an advance review copy of Jackson, Emily's upcoming release! I requested it a few weeks ago and was approved today. I've had an account there for about six years and love it. Here's the link to check out Jackson:
https://www.netgalley.com/catalog/boo....
Later!
P
If you have a "Netgalley" account, you can request an advance review copy of Jackson, Emily's upcoming release! I requested it a few weeks ago and was approved today. I've had an account there for about six years and love it. Here's the link to check out Jackson:
https://www.netgalley.com/catalog/boo....
Later!
P
Lola wrote: "Hi All,
I have some news, on June 3rd I am getting 2 dental implants ,the Dentist think this will stop my jaw from shifting anymore . It is really starting to pop out a lot. Jen and Bill got an of..."
Hi, Lola - Thanks for the update! I hope your dental procedure is successful. I have TMJ that flares up every once in awhile and it's jarring. I can only imagine what you've been up against. And I hope Jen & Bill do well with their house.
We finally got a check from the insurance company to repair the hardwood floors, and we have to have the exterior of the house painted, so our next few months are going to be messy. First, though, we have to make it through the rest of the rainy season. More rain coming tomorrow. We were in Napa over the weekend and it felt like January. So weird for this time of year - but as I said, as long as the floors don't flood any further, I can appreciate the rain.
I downloaded Jackson from NetGalley this morning and am taking it over to the coast to enjoy over the holiday weekend. I'm so excited about it. Honestly, I need an emotional, uplifting read and I know Eternity Springs will scratch that itch!
xo
Take care,
Paula
I have some news, on June 3rd I am getting 2 dental implants ,the Dentist think this will stop my jaw from shifting anymore . It is really starting to pop out a lot. Jen and Bill got an of..."
Hi, Lola - Thanks for the update! I hope your dental procedure is successful. I have TMJ that flares up every once in awhile and it's jarring. I can only imagine what you've been up against. And I hope Jen & Bill do well with their house.
We finally got a check from the insurance company to repair the hardwood floors, and we have to have the exterior of the house painted, so our next few months are going to be messy. First, though, we have to make it through the rest of the rainy season. More rain coming tomorrow. We were in Napa over the weekend and it felt like January. So weird for this time of year - but as I said, as long as the floors don't flood any further, I can appreciate the rain.
I downloaded Jackson from NetGalley this morning and am taking it over to the coast to enjoy over the holiday weekend. I'm so excited about it. Honestly, I need an emotional, uplifting read and I know Eternity Springs will scratch that itch!
xo
Take care,
Paula
Hi Everyone!I hope all is well with everyone. Its been an extremely busy Spring here. Between Heather and I we have had a minimum of 8 appointments each week. Heathers dental/jaw surgery will happen by June 10th so appointments will greatly decrease after that. She also has botox injections the last week of each month so I hope that shows signs of helping her soon. My doctor wants me to consider getting my tonsils out but I am leaning toward not doing that. I had shingles for a month, then 6 weeks of strep throat/tonsilitis. They have tried 3 different antibiotics and prednisone and I still have trouble swallowing and sore throats. They told me that my back surgery and pinched nerves must have weakened my immune system so I have been doing a detox cleanse everyday and I am starting to feel a little bit better. I am getting my energy back and not so many headaches or abdominal cramping. The detox is 4ounces of warm water, 20ml or 2TBSP of lemon juice, 1 teaspoon ground ginger, 2 TBSP Apple Cider Vinegar, 1 teaspoon Cayenne pepper, 1 teaspoon Tajin (you can find this on Amazon) and 1 to 2 teaspoons of Raw Honey. Mix together well and drink it quickly. Follow this with 8 ounces of water during the next 30 minutes. Then try to drink at least 72 ounces of water a day. Sam has been doing this for a couple months and she no longer has acid reflux, constipation, GERD and her blood pressure and headaches are much better. I do it as often as my throat can tolerate. I notice that the days I am able to do this in the morning that I feel better by lunch and better throughout the rest of the day and sleep better. I will keep you posted on Heather. I miss you all and cant wait for the next book. Hugs from the girls and I.
Jina
Hi, Jina - Sorry to hear you have been struggling with your health. I'm glad, though, that you're finding some relief with the detox drink. I have to say...I don't know that I could get that down and keep it there.
We've had a busy few weeks here, too. Work got crazy for me, with three deadlines within a week apart. Our new granddaughter arrived - Elizabeth Radell - Joel & Rebecca's first baby. We are going to visit them tomorrow. We also took a few days to escape to the coast for a late Mother's Day celebration. I did a little writing - not as much as I'd hoped - but it was a wonderful break while it lasted.
I haven't started Jackson yet - it's my next read. I had a book to finish for review first, so now I'm excited to start Emily's new one and re-visit Eternity Springs. But no spoilers - so I'll keep my thoughts to myself until we're ready to talk about it together.
Later~
P
We've had a busy few weeks here, too. Work got crazy for me, with three deadlines within a week apart. Our new granddaughter arrived - Elizabeth Radell - Joel & Rebecca's first baby. We are going to visit them tomorrow. We also took a few days to escape to the coast for a late Mother's Day celebration. I did a little writing - not as much as I'd hoped - but it was a wonderful break while it lasted.
I haven't started Jackson yet - it's my next read. I had a book to finish for review first, so now I'm excited to start Emily's new one and re-visit Eternity Springs. But no spoilers - so I'll keep my thoughts to myself until we're ready to talk about it together.
Later~
P
Jina wrote: "Hi Everyone!I hope all is well with everyone. Its been an extremely busy Spring here. Between Heather and I we have had a minimum of 8 appointments each week. Heathers dental/jaw surgery will happ..."
Jina,
I'm sorry to hear your health problems have continued. I pray you will find relief soon. Great news about heather. I saw Sam's post on Facebook about her riding the motorcycle. I wish I could have seen her face. I must say though it sounds like Sam enjoyed it as much as Heather did. It is wonderful to see the loving bond between them. I never had a sister and always thought it would be great to have one. Now I have you, Lola, and all the other lovely ladies of our Sisterhood and it feels pretty good. The closest I had to a blood sister was a cousin I was very close with.
I am with Paula, I don't think I could drink your detox mixture and keep it down. I have a very strong gag reflex and it would not stay put. You have a "very strong constitution" as my Mom would've said. She made me drink a protein drink one day before school and it was disastrous lol.
I have planted tomatoes, and strawberries. I don't think I will do a lot more this year. I have some lettuce seed and some turnips to plant and I think that will be it. I have the front yard looking fairly well. Nothing has died yet so I am taking that as a good sign. I'm hopeful anyway.
I need to go visit my dad. I am just trying to find a good time. He is anxious for me to come but I have Samuel's birthday on the 13th of June and our anniversary on the 27th. I really don't have a good window for a lengthy stay in June. He will want me for a couple weeks anyway I'm sure. I will figure it out. I am thinking of encouraging him to move near me. I know he is worried about the damp weather but I checked the weather comparison and it is pretty close temperature wise. If anything it is warmer here. Housing is so expensive here though I don't know what kind of house I could get him at a reasonable price. I will not put him in a retirement center, as my brother wants to do. Maybe it is because I am the youngest and the only girl that I feel this way but he is my daddy and I want the best for him. I would like him to stay in his home as long as he can then come up here with me. I want him to be happy and comfortable. He is not the social type. He has always been a loner and is used to doing as he pleases. He doesn't want to move to Utah, I know that much for sure. My brother wants to stick him in a retirement home 25 miles away from where he lives. I can't do that to an 86 year old man who knows no one there, it not familiar with the area and is not a social person. It would be a death sentence. Can you tell I am pissed off about it? Oh I could go on, but I won't lol.
Hope you have a wonderful day. I am going to drink my iced tea and rest for a while. My son came over yesterday and we watched "The Great Escape" on Prime TV. It was after 4am when I got to bed but it was such fun spending time with him. I see the others all the time and to spend time with Michael is a real treat.
Try to stay cool and enjoy your day.
Pass out hugs for me,
Love Linda.
Paula wrote: "Hi, Jina - Sorry to hear you have been struggling with your health. I'm glad, though, that you're finding some relief with the detox drink. I have to say...I don't know that I could get that down a..."Paula,
Congratulations on the newest granddaughter. You must be over the moon. Someday I hope to be a grandma. I have heard it is the best feeling, like being a mom twice. I turn 60 this year so my boys had better get busy and find themselves a really nice girl to settle down with lol. Kimmie and Daniel are engaged but I don't know when they will take the plunge. All in good time, when they are ready. I just want my boys to be happy and if they choose not to have a family I will suck it up and let it go. I have always had the idea that they are their own individual person and they need to chose their own path in life. I only pass out advice when it is appropriate. My momma taught me well when it came to raising my boys. She lead by example and did not interfere. I only hope I can live up to her example. Big shoes to fill.
Well, I hope you have a lovely day. I have to get busy and fight the ants some more. I hate the little devils. They have invaded my house with a vengeance. I am on a murderous rampage. God help me, I feel guilty killing them, but they are in my house everywhere. I know, I'm a big marshmallow inside. I told my boys if I had to kill animals to eat, I would become a vegetarian. I have thought of it anyway with the price of meat. But they would revolt, I know that for sure. My guys are big meat eaters. I have cut down on the amount I eat though. I find I kind of like it. Who knows, maybe I will revolt. lol
Love ya,
Linda.
Hi, Linda - I feel ya about the ants. During rainy season here they run amuck and I feel like Lara Croft Tomb Raider as I launch an attack with my "bio-safe" insecticide. I keep everything in my pantry sealed in plastic bags that's not in a can. I even found them in my flour canister a couple of weeks ago and freaked OUT - I keep THAT in a plastic bag and they got in anyway.
I have moved beyond guilt in killing them - they've been around for millions of years, and will be here when we're gone. I respect their industriousness and teamwork. (I have to admit after I saw Antman with Paul Rudd, I might have felt a little guilty.) But not in my house! I get the heebie-jeebies for days after I go on a killing and cleaning spree with the stubborn little suckers.
Years ago I stopped eating meat entirely, and even went vegan for a few months, but now I indulge myself in a favorite restaurant now and then. I mostly eat seafood and plant protein, no processed meats except on rare occasions. I wish I could say I lost weight, but my relationship with carbs is a constant temptation. Nevertheless, in one month I have a physical and a health screening for insurance, so I am going to spend the next thirty days finding out if I can cut those carbs and go primarily plant-based. My only compromise is cheese and yogurt - because you can't get all your calcium from supplements and vegetables at my age (65, ugh). My bones have to stay strong to defend themselves against my general clumsiness. LOL. I still buy meat and cook it for Ray and our greyhound, Willow. And all of our kids are carnivores.
Keep up the good fight.
P
I have moved beyond guilt in killing them - they've been around for millions of years, and will be here when we're gone. I respect their industriousness and teamwork. (I have to admit after I saw Antman with Paul Rudd, I might have felt a little guilty.) But not in my house! I get the heebie-jeebies for days after I go on a killing and cleaning spree with the stubborn little suckers.
Years ago I stopped eating meat entirely, and even went vegan for a few months, but now I indulge myself in a favorite restaurant now and then. I mostly eat seafood and plant protein, no processed meats except on rare occasions. I wish I could say I lost weight, but my relationship with carbs is a constant temptation. Nevertheless, in one month I have a physical and a health screening for insurance, so I am going to spend the next thirty days finding out if I can cut those carbs and go primarily plant-based. My only compromise is cheese and yogurt - because you can't get all your calcium from supplements and vegetables at my age (65, ugh). My bones have to stay strong to defend themselves against my general clumsiness. LOL. I still buy meat and cook it for Ray and our greyhound, Willow. And all of our kids are carnivores.
Keep up the good fight.
P
Hi Ladies, Paula, congratulations on the safe arrival of your new grandchild.
Jina, So sorry you are still struggling with your health & I hope you soon find some relief.
Lola, I hope your dental work is a success for you.
Linda, I know how you feel about not wanting to put your Dad in a retirement home & how difficult it is to be there for them when you live a great distance away from them. We ended up moving back to Lincolnshire to live with Bob's Dad, our last parent a live at the time, as Bob is an only child.
By the way I also hate ants.
It has been a Holiday weekend here in the UK as well & we had a lovely visit from our son Mark's (Mark is the son we lost two years ago) Stepson & his partner together with their male Labrador 'Woody' who is about the same age as out 'Poppy'. The dogs had a whale of a time playing together in the garden & on the beach. I have posted a photo for you to look at.
Keep safe & as well as possible. Love Lesley xx
Hi Ladies,So nice to hear from everyone ! Lil Sis I am sorry about all the pain , you may want to think about taking out your tonsils , I put it off and kept getting sicker and sicker until I coughed my tonsils out they were so infected it was gross ! I couldn't do the detox with my diarrhea problem that would not be fun!
Paula what happy news ! Welcome Elizabeth ! You lucked out on your Grandmother ,she is the best! I have been looking up dental implants I think I am ready for Monday , crazy how long it takes, up to 6 months to have it all done.
Linda, Have you tried cornmeal for your ants you put in down where ever the ants are , they eat it but can not digest it ,they drink water it swells up and kills them. I used to have ants really bad here but not one now ,all gone! I am thankful for you too Sis.
Thanks Lesley, I have been wanting to get my dental problems fixed for a long time. I looked into bridges years ago but didn't think they would work for me , then the dental implants were just too expensive. Thank goodness like everything else they have come down in price. The two will cost about $5000 ,when I had checked into them years ago one tooth was over $10,000. Too bad the insurance won't cover any of the cost.
I am glad Poppy had a fun time with Woody. I love watching dogs play , Sadie is still a puppy at heart , will play all day long.
Time for bed, everyone take care ! Love Lola
Glad to hear from you all. I have not been on due to eye issues. I had laser surgery to fix a retina tear. They watch me close because I have had bilateral retina detachments when I was in my 20's and a year and half ago my left eye had the large snake like floater so this time it was a very small tear in my right eye. I had been going every 6 months and now it is 4 months. Have to limit computer usage for a while . Have a good week everyone.
Melinda, good to hear from you too. Hope your eyes continue to progress well. Hope you have managed to listen to some good audio books whilst your eye heals. Love and hugs x
Melinda wrote: "Glad to hear from you all. I have not been on due to eye issues. I had laser surgery to fix a retina tear. They watch me close because I have had bilateral retina detachments when I was in my 20's ..."
Hi, Melinda - so sorry to hear about your eye trouble - I just met up with a friend on Wednesday who had a vitreous tear, and he was so miserable. Take good care of yourself and know we are thinking of you.
Paula
Hi, Melinda - so sorry to hear about your eye trouble - I just met up with a friend on Wednesday who had a vitreous tear, and he was so miserable. Take good care of yourself and know we are thinking of you.
Paula
Hi everyone, just chec king in. Weather terrible here today, it's pouring with rain & cold with it. Definately a day to curl up with a good book & hot drink.Jina, how is Heather doing? Hope you are feeling improved as well.
Love & hugs to everyone.
Hi,everyone just having the eye problems. I take a long time to get my eyes to dilate back to normal. Than i had a swollen face so I did not take enough tylenol in the beginning. getting better but limiting my time on the computer. Hope you all are doing well. Lesley, hope your weather is better.
Melinda wrote: "Hi,
everyone just having the eye problems. I take a long time to get my eyes to dilate back to normal. Than i had a swollen face so I did not take enough tylenol in the beginning. getting better b..."
Hi, Melinda - As always, it's a joy to hear from you, and I'm so sorry to hear about your eye issues. I hope you're improving each day.
Paula
everyone just having the eye problems. I take a long time to get my eyes to dilate back to normal. Than i had a swollen face so I did not take enough tylenol in the beginning. getting better b..."
Hi, Melinda - As always, it's a joy to hear from you, and I'm so sorry to hear about your eye issues. I hope you're improving each day.
Paula
Greetings, friends -- it's been too long, I know, and I apologize for not checking in since I posted the Jackson discussion thread. I've experienced some recent setbacks that forced me to take a big step back and re-evaluate where I am vs. where I need to be. This may be a long message because I have a few things to share of a personal nature as well as some moderator updates.
First, the personal stuff -- I've been on "complete hand rest" since last Monday, when I overdid things around the house AND on the job and ended up with the worst flare of arthritis I've had in years. The women on my mom's side of the family tend to develop arthritis in their hands at an early age. My mom's was especially severe. She was a church secretary for more than 60 years. She didn't retire until she was 87 and was diagnosed with non-Hodgkins lymphoma. Like mom, my work - although different - has always focused on using my hands: musician, nurse, writer, editor, blogger, and project consultant. I live on keyboards, literally. And I crochet, cook, and find all kinds of other ways to push my hands to the limit.
I reached that limit last Monday when I knocked myself out for Ray's birthday. The following morning, I couldn't lift anything due to weakness and pain. I missed two days of work because I couldn't use my hands at all. It's the worst flare-up I've ever had. I spent all day Tuesday not driving, not typing, not even using my phone; taking anti-inflammatory drugs and using heat and ice to ease the pain. I've had to force myself to limit my keyboard time. Even holding my kindle reader hurts. It's ridiculous. But it is improving, and the long weekend will help.
I also realized recently that all the joy I felt when I started doing book reviews and promotions years ago is gone. It's been a gradual realization and a pretty rude awakening, but it's true. Right now, I am 5 reviews behind. I haven't even finished Jackson, and can barely stand to check the gmail account I set up just for that purpose.
I'm trying to sort out why it's happening now. Maybe it's over-commitment; maybe it's just normal burnout; maybe it's a compelling need to finish my own book (at last); and maybe it's a degree of disillusionment with the author world, something that's hard to admit. But, whatever it is, it's significant, so as soon as I catch up on the reviews and promotions I've been avoiding out of dread, I am going to walk away, in favor of finishing my own book and being able to read and review what I choose, when I choose. I have reached a stage where I feel like I'm running in circles; between work, home, family, and my writing life, I feel like I'm on a hamster wheel - putting in lots of effort that doesn't amount to the proverbial drop in a bucket. My writing has taken a back seat to other commitments that no longer interest me, and in fact, suck my energy and passion away from things that truly matter. Change happens, it's hard, and it can hurt, but when your heart and mind says it's time to let go, it's time to let go.
Read on to my next post for some group updates and a need for feedback on what direction makes sense for us going forward. It's time for us to re-think and re-focus, as things have changed with Emily that require us to think about what that means for us.
xo
Paula
First, the personal stuff -- I've been on "complete hand rest" since last Monday, when I overdid things around the house AND on the job and ended up with the worst flare of arthritis I've had in years. The women on my mom's side of the family tend to develop arthritis in their hands at an early age. My mom's was especially severe. She was a church secretary for more than 60 years. She didn't retire until she was 87 and was diagnosed with non-Hodgkins lymphoma. Like mom, my work - although different - has always focused on using my hands: musician, nurse, writer, editor, blogger, and project consultant. I live on keyboards, literally. And I crochet, cook, and find all kinds of other ways to push my hands to the limit.
I reached that limit last Monday when I knocked myself out for Ray's birthday. The following morning, I couldn't lift anything due to weakness and pain. I missed two days of work because I couldn't use my hands at all. It's the worst flare-up I've ever had. I spent all day Tuesday not driving, not typing, not even using my phone; taking anti-inflammatory drugs and using heat and ice to ease the pain. I've had to force myself to limit my keyboard time. Even holding my kindle reader hurts. It's ridiculous. But it is improving, and the long weekend will help.
I also realized recently that all the joy I felt when I started doing book reviews and promotions years ago is gone. It's been a gradual realization and a pretty rude awakening, but it's true. Right now, I am 5 reviews behind. I haven't even finished Jackson, and can barely stand to check the gmail account I set up just for that purpose.
I'm trying to sort out why it's happening now. Maybe it's over-commitment; maybe it's just normal burnout; maybe it's a compelling need to finish my own book (at last); and maybe it's a degree of disillusionment with the author world, something that's hard to admit. But, whatever it is, it's significant, so as soon as I catch up on the reviews and promotions I've been avoiding out of dread, I am going to walk away, in favor of finishing my own book and being able to read and review what I choose, when I choose. I have reached a stage where I feel like I'm running in circles; between work, home, family, and my writing life, I feel like I'm on a hamster wheel - putting in lots of effort that doesn't amount to the proverbial drop in a bucket. My writing has taken a back seat to other commitments that no longer interest me, and in fact, suck my energy and passion away from things that truly matter. Change happens, it's hard, and it can hurt, but when your heart and mind says it's time to let go, it's time to let go.
Read on to my next post for some group updates and a need for feedback on what direction makes sense for us going forward. It's time for us to re-think and re-focus, as things have changed with Emily that require us to think about what that means for us.
xo
Paula
So...me again, this time wearing my moderator hat. As I mentioned last week, Emily is no longer using Goodreads, and has decided to focus her attention on a new Facebook group. This makes sense. A lot of authors have become disillusioned with Goodreads. It used to be author-friendly, but some of its policies changed, and its affiliation with Amazon has been a source of contention. Also, there's a lot of trolling on here - nasty, rude, abusive review behavior - including an unbelievable number of fraudulent reviews driven either by miserable individuals or misplaced loyalty in the competitive author community. Either way, it's unregulated and unchallenged. Goodreads has traditionally been unwilling to support a policy that monitors and deals with abuse, even with hard proof of ill-intent and fraudulent behavior. It's easy to get discouraged and look at other alternatives.
All authors need a reliable social media platform and it's impossible to be everywhere, all the time. So it's understandable that Emily wants to focus on the platform she enjoys and trusts, and most authors have Facebook groups. They're more immediate, more interactive, and easier to maintain overall.
Looking back, I don't think it was ever Emily's intention that this group go on beyond its original intent - to get fans together to re-read the first 10 novels and celebrate the 11th at its release. At the time, she had an assistant, and me, and a publisher representative to support that. Gradually, it was only me - and that was fine - because the group was - and is - so easy to manage, overall. But for the author, at least, I don't think she anticipated it lasting as long as it has.
I know she has been proud and supportive of us, and likely still is deeply appreciative of what we've become. It pleased her that a small group of us "bonded" around a sort of reading sisterhood that went beyond the book series. We've filled the time between ES books sharing details of our own lives and supporting each other through many, many heartaches, celebrating the good things that happen, and encouraging each other along the way. It's been an inspiring highlight in what can otherwise be a cruel, anonymous environment.
I'm going to send Emily an email asking for her feedback on how we proceed, knowing that she is no longer active with us and we generally learn about new releases in other ways. I'm sure she will be supportive of whatever we decide, but as a courtesy, I want to ask her opinion. I know everyone will be welcome in her FB group as well. I haven't joined yet, because again, I don't know where I need to be. I barely have time for FB anymore, and again, my enthusiasm has waned as FB has become more politicized, divisive, competitive and often cruel. Not to mention the privacy issues...and constant changes to the platform that haven't all been welcome. On my own author page, which I use for promotions and updates about writing in general, I am constantly bombarded with unwelcome reminders to spend money to advertise--and recruit more "likes and follows," when I am not ready for that at the moment. The powers that be at FB seem determined to make me feel guilty about not spending money for something they used to offer for free. :-)
So...about this group. Here are some options that have been thrown around:
1. Change the name from Emily March Fans to something more generic and reflective of the fact that Emily is not an official sponsor of the group anymore. We would still read ES and other books by Emily, but also take recommendations about other books, authors, and genres that our members enjoy.
2. Set up a new group on Goodreads that embodies the sisterhood of readers we've become over the last four years. Likely this would be a smaller group, intended not only as a source of reading recommendations and discussion, but a source of empowerment and encouragement for women who share our desire to have a group that, above all, demonstrates respect for everyone's personal journey.
3. If there is no interest in continuing as a Goodreads group, set up a smaller communication circle on an alternate platform - to be determined.
I know that the small core of original members, and a few of our newer ones, value what we have and don't want to lose the friendships that have developed. However we decide to go forward, I need to ask for help as moderator--if someone is willing to serve in that capacity with me.
I welcome your reactions to these ideas AND any additional proposals to make us the best we can be.
Happy 4th of July - I hope you are enjoying your day with people you cherish. Ray and I are going to a movie for the first time since Avengers Endgame. I'm not cooking - it's too hot, so we are going with our favorite chilled salad and some celebratory bubbles.
And, I need to write, after a few hours of hand rest, again.
Take care.
Paula
All authors need a reliable social media platform and it's impossible to be everywhere, all the time. So it's understandable that Emily wants to focus on the platform she enjoys and trusts, and most authors have Facebook groups. They're more immediate, more interactive, and easier to maintain overall.
Looking back, I don't think it was ever Emily's intention that this group go on beyond its original intent - to get fans together to re-read the first 10 novels and celebrate the 11th at its release. At the time, she had an assistant, and me, and a publisher representative to support that. Gradually, it was only me - and that was fine - because the group was - and is - so easy to manage, overall. But for the author, at least, I don't think she anticipated it lasting as long as it has.
I know she has been proud and supportive of us, and likely still is deeply appreciative of what we've become. It pleased her that a small group of us "bonded" around a sort of reading sisterhood that went beyond the book series. We've filled the time between ES books sharing details of our own lives and supporting each other through many, many heartaches, celebrating the good things that happen, and encouraging each other along the way. It's been an inspiring highlight in what can otherwise be a cruel, anonymous environment.
I'm going to send Emily an email asking for her feedback on how we proceed, knowing that she is no longer active with us and we generally learn about new releases in other ways. I'm sure she will be supportive of whatever we decide, but as a courtesy, I want to ask her opinion. I know everyone will be welcome in her FB group as well. I haven't joined yet, because again, I don't know where I need to be. I barely have time for FB anymore, and again, my enthusiasm has waned as FB has become more politicized, divisive, competitive and often cruel. Not to mention the privacy issues...and constant changes to the platform that haven't all been welcome. On my own author page, which I use for promotions and updates about writing in general, I am constantly bombarded with unwelcome reminders to spend money to advertise--and recruit more "likes and follows," when I am not ready for that at the moment. The powers that be at FB seem determined to make me feel guilty about not spending money for something they used to offer for free. :-)
So...about this group. Here are some options that have been thrown around:
1. Change the name from Emily March Fans to something more generic and reflective of the fact that Emily is not an official sponsor of the group anymore. We would still read ES and other books by Emily, but also take recommendations about other books, authors, and genres that our members enjoy.
2. Set up a new group on Goodreads that embodies the sisterhood of readers we've become over the last four years. Likely this would be a smaller group, intended not only as a source of reading recommendations and discussion, but a source of empowerment and encouragement for women who share our desire to have a group that, above all, demonstrates respect for everyone's personal journey.
3. If there is no interest in continuing as a Goodreads group, set up a smaller communication circle on an alternate platform - to be determined.
I know that the small core of original members, and a few of our newer ones, value what we have and don't want to lose the friendships that have developed. However we decide to go forward, I need to ask for help as moderator--if someone is willing to serve in that capacity with me.
I welcome your reactions to these ideas AND any additional proposals to make us the best we can be.
Happy 4th of July - I hope you are enjoying your day with people you cherish. Ray and I are going to a movie for the first time since Avengers Endgame. I'm not cooking - it's too hot, so we are going with our favorite chilled salad and some celebratory bubbles.
And, I need to write, after a few hours of hand rest, again.
Take care.
Paula
Paula~ Praying that your hands feel better soon .. sorry that you have that arthritis battle.I like your ideas for proceeding with this group.
I do not use Facebook as I spend enough screen time @ work & for Goodreads & games.
It IS annoying how they DAILY pop up friend request suggestions. But probably when I retire I will use it to stay in better touch with family living farther away.
I just picked up Jackson (after trying twice at my usual local store) .. found it 90 min. away as I head out for vacation!
Thanks for all your good work as moderator for this group. It is always a joy to see a new post.
This is a special group that shows how social media can be an asset to our lives.
Melinda wrote: "Hi,everyone just having the eye problems. I take a long time to get my eyes to dilate back to normal. Than i had a swollen face so I did not take enough tylenol in the beginning. getting better b..."
Hi Melinda, lovely to hear from you but sorry you are having problems with your eyes and hope that they soon improve.
Thank you for asking , and yes the weather has improved greatly at the moment and we are able to spend considerably more time outside, catching up on jobs and generally relaxing in the garden. Long may it last.
Take care
Love Lesley x
Paula wrote: "So...me again, this time wearing my moderator hat. As I mentioned last week, Emily is no longer using Goodreads, and has decided to focus her attention on a new Facebook group. This makes sense. A ..."Hi Paula, I like many on here love this group and the frendships we have built up across the miles and I would hate to loose that. I am happy to go with the majority 'vote' for any of the suggestions you have made and all though I have joined Emily's new Facebook group I find that the group here is always very inclusive & friendly whether we are talking about books, family or life in general.
Hope everyone in the US enjoyed your 4th July Celebrations.
Love to all, Lesley x
Paula wrote: "Greetings, friends -- it's been too long, I know, and I apologize for not checking in since I posted the Jackson discussion thread. I've experienced some recent setbacks that forced me to take a bi..."Hi Paula, Sorry to hear that you are considerable pain at the moment from your Arthristis 'flare up' & hope it soon settles again.
In respect of the other happenings in your life at this time, things are continually evolving, sometimes good and other times not so good, as we all know; but you have to make the best decisions for you can for how you are feeling and 'go for it',
I'm pleased to hear that you have got your writing mojo back and look forward to reading the final version, whenever you get to that point at sometime in the future. Are still writing the same storyline that you shared with us before, I loved it?
Don't forget, we in this group are here for you, if and when you need us. Take care of yourself.
Love Lesley x
Paula wrote: "So...me again, this time wearing my moderator hat. As I mentioned last week, Emily is no longer using Goodreads, and has decided to focus her attention on a new Facebook group. This makes sense. A ..."Dear Paula,
I totally understand about your burn-out and I think a few of us saw you over-extending yourself a few months ago and told you to take more time for yourself and what you love to do and want to do. You have a very demanding job, and I know your family needs your attention as well. You have had such dedication and loyal devotion to fellow authors and your reviews that its taken away from the time you could be spending on your own manuscript, and pursuing your own future goals. I know part of your heart is in Virginia and you feel split that way as well. You put 150% into all you do and spreading yourself that thin is very taxing. Something has to give somewhere. I remember when I posted about being spread thin and so overwhelmed that I asked advice here. I dont remember who exactly said what but several of you told me to make a list, prioritize the list and work on what's most important and needed done immediately and to focus on one thing until its done and move on down the list. Life is so super short and we aren't guaranteed tomorrow so there ARE things you shouldn't put off until tomorrow. Do what makes you happy. If reviewing isnt what you want to do anymore, then finish those you have committed yourself to and drop the rest or only review a certain genre that you want or put a limit like "Im only doing 4 a month" so you still have your foot in that door but arent so pressured. When something you once enjoyed is more of a chore or headache than a joy its time to change it to where you can enjoy it again or walk away.
You definitely need to take care of your arthritis and overall health first.
Id be glad to help moderate, I'd need you to train me since its not something I have ever done but I can help take the some of the stress off of you. Maybe YOU need a couple assistants. I'm sure I'm not the only one that would help.
I really hope this group keeps going, either by renaming/repurposing the group. I didnt join in this group in the beginning thinking that the author would be in here answering questions etc.. I joined because I loved Eternity Springs and since Emily is the author thats how I found y'all. Truth be told I love Eternity Springs, Virgin River, Sea Haven, Chesapeake Bay, Rose Harbor, and various other series where community and neighbors helping and looking out for each other is at the center of the story. I think the reason these series are so popular is that we all connect with the characters and they become like "old friends" we visit and revisit with each additional novel to the series. We all love happy endings. :) At the end of the day, I love books, I love this group and you guys very much. I will help anyway I can. So I guess I am volunteering to serve you and this group you let me know if you think you can use me. I will make time, whatever time you need me to help whether its 2 hours a day or more, you have my word I will be here.
I love you Paula. You have done a wonderful job with this group and with your other "jobs" too.
Hugs,
Jina and the girls
Paula,In some form I would like the group to continue. You need to do what you like. As Jina said life is short. I am cutting down on my reviews as well. I need to finish a couple but I am trying to be good and not tax my eyes. I do not really like Facebook but do it for a couple of games. I like the support the group gives to each other. Most importantly Paula, listen to your body.
Melinda wrote: "Paula,In some form I would like the group to continue. You need to do what you like. As Jina said life is short. I am cutting down on my reviews as well. I need to finish a couple but I am trying..."
Hi Melinda,
I hope your eyes are getting better. Its good to see you online again we have missed you. Let us know what and how you are doing. Are you doing anything special or fun this summer?
Hugs to you,
Jina and the girls
Jina wrote: "Melinda wrote: "Paula,In some form I would like the group to continue. You need to do what you like. As Jina said life is short. I am cutting down on my reviews as well. I need to finish a couple..."
Jina,
the eyes are just slow which is normal for me. I am making loop potholders as I can do it without hurting my eyes. Not reading much. My cousin sent me yarn that has loops and it is called finger knitting so I hope to start that this week. What ar eyou and the girls doing this summer? I
Hope everyone is staying cool.
Melinda wrote: "Jina wrote: "Melinda wrote: "Paula,In some form I would like the group to continue. You need to do what you like. As Jina said life is short. I am cutting down on my reviews as well. I need to fi..."
Hi Melinda,
Crocheting is good for you. It is a great stress reliever and creative outlet. Im doing a lot of small crafts, learning amirugami (sp?), felt crafts diamond painting, reading, writing and studying.
Heather has a bad broken arm. Her humerus is broke in 3 pieces and it cant be put in a cast so she is wearing a brace and sling.
Hugs to you. Keep in touch!
Love,
Jina and the girls
Jina wrote: "Melinda wrote: "Jina wrote: "Melinda wrote: "Paula,In some form I would like the group to continue. You need to do what you like. As Jina said life is short. I am cutting down on my reviews as we..."
Jina,
Glad that you are learning new crafts. Sorry to hear about Heather's arm. It limits what she can do but I know Heather is keeping busy as well. tell the girls hi from me.
Melinda
Hello, everyone --
I took myself offline - and out to Virginia - for ten days, and as usual got hit with an enormous case of jet-lag after we got back early last Sunday morning. The trip was, as expected, a joy -- connecting with family and friends in the place we truly call "home" -- and leaving was difficult. But we do what we have to do until we can officially call it our home again - hopefully in two years.
It was sooooo hot and humid, we didn't get to do everything we hoped, but we took Layla to her first official movie in a theater (Secret Life of Pets 2), and to a museum in Newport News, and got some wonderful pictures.
Of course, with all that heat, we also experienced some EPIC thunderstorms. The kind that doesn't involve wildfires and thinking about having to run for your life. Growing up, I always loved your basic everyday thunderstorms -- that is, until I witnessed the apocalypic devastation they cause out here in the West. We stood off our hotel balcony and watched them pass over the beach -- and waited for the rainbows that inevitably follow. A metaphor for life, don't you think?
Back home, I have to admit I'm struggling with myself.
While we were away, I took a full-time social media and email break; I needed to disconnect fully and be present with my family. That felt right. It's been hard to re-engage, but I know it's a matter of finding the right balance, AND figuring out what's next.
I haven't been in touch with Emily yet, so nothing to report there - things just got too chaotic here before we left on vacation. It's on my list of to-do's once I get past the overload of going back to the clinic and facing all the projects that don't get worked on while I'm away. I do feel like we've lost our "rudder"--and I am leaning toward a fresh start for the small group that has been so faithful to each other over the past four years. I could really use your suggestions - for a group name and a focus -- if we are going to remain part of Goodreads; OR if we decide to create a private Facebook group where we can share photos and book recommendations more easily. Private, closed groups are the only way to go on Facebook these days. No politics, no trolls, no bots.
Melinda, thanks for the update and know you're on my mind - as are all the other friends we have in the group. Please check in and let me know how it's going. Stay cool and take care,
Paula
I took myself offline - and out to Virginia - for ten days, and as usual got hit with an enormous case of jet-lag after we got back early last Sunday morning. The trip was, as expected, a joy -- connecting with family and friends in the place we truly call "home" -- and leaving was difficult. But we do what we have to do until we can officially call it our home again - hopefully in two years.
It was sooooo hot and humid, we didn't get to do everything we hoped, but we took Layla to her first official movie in a theater (Secret Life of Pets 2), and to a museum in Newport News, and got some wonderful pictures.
Of course, with all that heat, we also experienced some EPIC thunderstorms. The kind that doesn't involve wildfires and thinking about having to run for your life. Growing up, I always loved your basic everyday thunderstorms -- that is, until I witnessed the apocalypic devastation they cause out here in the West. We stood off our hotel balcony and watched them pass over the beach -- and waited for the rainbows that inevitably follow. A metaphor for life, don't you think?
Back home, I have to admit I'm struggling with myself.
While we were away, I took a full-time social media and email break; I needed to disconnect fully and be present with my family. That felt right. It's been hard to re-engage, but I know it's a matter of finding the right balance, AND figuring out what's next.
I haven't been in touch with Emily yet, so nothing to report there - things just got too chaotic here before we left on vacation. It's on my list of to-do's once I get past the overload of going back to the clinic and facing all the projects that don't get worked on while I'm away. I do feel like we've lost our "rudder"--and I am leaning toward a fresh start for the small group that has been so faithful to each other over the past four years. I could really use your suggestions - for a group name and a focus -- if we are going to remain part of Goodreads; OR if we decide to create a private Facebook group where we can share photos and book recommendations more easily. Private, closed groups are the only way to go on Facebook these days. No politics, no trolls, no bots.
Melinda, thanks for the update and know you're on my mind - as are all the other friends we have in the group. Please check in and let me know how it's going. Stay cool and take care,
Paula
Hi Pauls,Lovely to hear from you & pleased that you enjoyed your time with family, it's so precious & even more difficult to leave when you have to return to a place that you really don't want to be.
In respect of the new group, I basically only use Goodreads to belong this group and keep track of what I read through the 'Reader Challenge' so I don't mind if we transfer to Facebook as long as it is a 'Private' Group.
Not sure about a name, I'm sure one of our 'band of ladies' will come up with something catchy but I agree with you that the focus of the group should be somewhere we can share photos and book recommendations and catch up with how life is treating us, if people want.
Hope everyone is coping with whatever weather they are getting.
Take care all
Love Lesley x
Paula wrote: "Hello, everyone --I took myself offline - and out to Virginia - for ten days, and as usual got hit with an enormous case of jet-lag after we got back early last Sunday morning. The trip was, as e..."
Hey, Hey Paula! (Isnt that in a line from a song?) :)
So happy you got to spend some quality time with family for a few days. I know what its like to be away from "home". I rarely get to travel to Nebraska where all my immediate family by "blood" lives and I miss them dearly. I have some guilt over leaving them behind but my terrible divorce and abusive ex-husband made it a necessity to leave and go as far as I could where neither he or I had family that he could come here and mess with to get to us. When he passed away a few years ago about 50 people called my Mom the next day and said "finally "our girls" can come home". Unfortunately with the severity of Heathers illness and her needing to be near medical facilities that can accommodate not only her current conditions but the conditions that are inevitable in her future so returning to Nebraska is not in the cards. She has a semi-rare blood type as well as allergic to so many medications that a heart transplant in not an option. She is allergic to some chemicals in anti-rejection medication so a trying for a transplant that would more than likely fail is not something that the doctors or I want to risk. We hope her heart can keep working so she can live a good quality of life hopefully into her mid 30's. She has surprised and amazed doctors that she has recovered as much as she has hopefully she will continue to recover and surprise us a lot more.
When I return from a visit home I go through the jet lag you speak of but also I period I call the "blues", where the "shoulda, coulda, would'ves" and the "if onlys" go through my mind. That only lasts a few days since we learn to live our lives playing the cards we are dealt. We have fabulous friends that are like family. The last time mt parents came here to visit we had a cook out so my friends could meet my Mom and Dad. They hit it off and my Mom made a comment to one of my friends that after meeting my friends and spending time with them, watching how they have accepted the kids and I that Mom is so glad Im not alone here anymore. My friends told my Mom that she doesnt have to worry, they will look out for tge girls and myself always. It gave my mom and Dad some comfort.
I am glad you have had the opportunity to live in another area and have had wonderful memories and successes where you live. Someday I hope to spend a while traveling with the girls and get a chance to see the west coast, some places up North and Id love to spend some time in Texas as well. Lets just say I have a robust bucket list of all the places I would love to see soneday. You mentioned you may move back to Virginia in a couple years. Is that where your husband is from too? What are you waiting for? Do you still have property there? That would be lovely if all you had to do was go back to a house thats waiting for you. :) I really hope all your plans work out perfectly. Id love to have you move back to the East Coast. Meeting you sometime would be an awesome thing to look forward to.
Like Lesley said, I too only get on Goodreads to see what you guys are up to and so I can keep a list of books I'd like to read. I think a "private" Facebook group would be great as well. Maybe "Paula's Pals" or something with books, sisterhood, or friendship in the name. I will continue to think on name ideas. Most important I want our close group of friends to have a place to keep in touch and share with each other. You all mean so much to me.
Get some rest from your trip. Maybe share a picture of you and your lovely daughter and granddaughter with us.
Hugs to you,
Jina and the girls
Hi, Jina -- Thanks so much for your thoughtful message. I'm leaning toward a private Facebook group, since I only go on Goodreads for this group and to leave reviews, but I'm trying to figure out the logistics -- and, of course, a name for it that resonates with those who want to remain part of it.
My current state of mind is ... more complicated than usual. On the one hand, I try never to lose sight of the blessings in my life, and take some time each day to reflect on gratitude. I am aware that I have a good life, a strong marriage, a small but loving family, and every reason to be grateful for each day I live. On the other, quite honestly, I'm isolated and lonely. I lost every last bit of my self-esteem when I lost my job five years ago and although it may ultimately have been for the best, it destroyed my confidence in a way nothing else ever has. I haven't recovered, and I often wonder if I ever will. For a while after that, I had an amazing journey getting to know some of my favorite authors, reviewing and promoting them, and feeling like I was making a difference. Not so anymore. Bloggers are a dime a dozen, and loyalty, in the social media world, and in the writing "community" itself, is at best superficial, and at worst, non-existent.
Recently, my entire sense of purpose seems to have evaporated, and I feel washed up and useless, like "my time" has come and gone. I can't explain it well, but everything I've tried since losing my hospital job feels like a failure, even though my rational mind says that's not at all true. But maybe because Ray still has a thriving career--a job that wants him, patients who need him, co-workers who care about him -- I feel lost and more alone than I have at any time in my life. Even when faced with being a single mom, in night school and working full-time, I felt empowered and hopeful. I had a strong sense of purpose, direction, and goals; an untarnished outlook on life, family, friendships and the future.
I can't pinpoint exactly when where this lost feeling started, but I know it's exploded over the last three weeks. Even my book is floundering at the moment - and it's the passion project of my adult life, the one thing I still feel is "mine" -- and only mine -- to do, whether it succeeds or not. And I'd like to write more than one, eventually, because when I'm writing, it feeds my soul like nothing else.
I'm reasonably sure these feelings are temporary, and that with help I'll be able to lift myself out of this dark place. I have a counseling appointment later today that I hope will help me start sorting out what's beneath the surface.
I'll post some photos to my FB page next time I'm online.
Take care,
Paula
My current state of mind is ... more complicated than usual. On the one hand, I try never to lose sight of the blessings in my life, and take some time each day to reflect on gratitude. I am aware that I have a good life, a strong marriage, a small but loving family, and every reason to be grateful for each day I live. On the other, quite honestly, I'm isolated and lonely. I lost every last bit of my self-esteem when I lost my job five years ago and although it may ultimately have been for the best, it destroyed my confidence in a way nothing else ever has. I haven't recovered, and I often wonder if I ever will. For a while after that, I had an amazing journey getting to know some of my favorite authors, reviewing and promoting them, and feeling like I was making a difference. Not so anymore. Bloggers are a dime a dozen, and loyalty, in the social media world, and in the writing "community" itself, is at best superficial, and at worst, non-existent.
Recently, my entire sense of purpose seems to have evaporated, and I feel washed up and useless, like "my time" has come and gone. I can't explain it well, but everything I've tried since losing my hospital job feels like a failure, even though my rational mind says that's not at all true. But maybe because Ray still has a thriving career--a job that wants him, patients who need him, co-workers who care about him -- I feel lost and more alone than I have at any time in my life. Even when faced with being a single mom, in night school and working full-time, I felt empowered and hopeful. I had a strong sense of purpose, direction, and goals; an untarnished outlook on life, family, friendships and the future.
I can't pinpoint exactly when where this lost feeling started, but I know it's exploded over the last three weeks. Even my book is floundering at the moment - and it's the passion project of my adult life, the one thing I still feel is "mine" -- and only mine -- to do, whether it succeeds or not. And I'd like to write more than one, eventually, because when I'm writing, it feeds my soul like nothing else.
I'm reasonably sure these feelings are temporary, and that with help I'll be able to lift myself out of this dark place. I have a counseling appointment later today that I hope will help me start sorting out what's beneath the surface.
I'll post some photos to my FB page next time I'm online.
Take care,
Paula
Goodness, I did not realized it had been so long since I had checked in here. Please forgive me. It is good to know everyone is doing well and enjoying their summertime. We have had a round of the summer flu in our house. I hope we are getting to the end of it. It really knocked me on my butt. I have been tending my garden some and mostly staying close to home. As you all know, I have my ups and downs and I tend to stay near home when I am not at my best.
I am planning a visit to see my dad soon. He seems to be doing well but keeps asking when I am coming. I miss him so much but he doesn't feel ready to move and I will not push him. My brother is moving to Utah in the next few months so that may be the deciding factor. I will still be six hours away but if he wants to stay in Oregon I told I am a phone call away. He has his caretaker who checks in on a regular basis for basic needs. There will come a time before too long that he will need more care but he wants to be on his own as long as he can. Who can blame him. He is not a real social person and likes his privacy so there is that to consider.
Dave's mom is not doing well. We may need to make a trip to Alabama in the near future. She is the same age as my dad, 85, but has much more severe health issues. Dave has not seen her in over ten years. It is really going to be painful to see her at this stage of her life. I know when I saw my mom in the state she was in it broke my heart, I can't imagine how devastating it will be after such a long period of time. I pray he can hold up under the realization of the impending reality. He lost his father years ago so this will be very difficult for him. Their family unity is much different than mine. We have always been so close. We keep in touch with one another. He only speaks with his siblings when a crisis occurs. It is just strange to me. I think this may bring a world of regrets but there is nothing I can do about it but pray.
Paula, I am so happy you were able to spend time with your loved ones. It sounds like you also got some much needed rest and relaxation. It renews the soul when you can take time away from the pressures of the world and spend it with the people you love doing things you enjoy. I pray you will find a new sense of purpose and refreshment in your everyday life because of your time away.
As for the group. I am of the thinking that a Facebook, PRIVATE group would be a good idea. We have the Emily March group now and I think we could establish a small, private group of our own to keep our sisterhood in tact. I love all of you so much and I treasure our friendship. As for names, we are a "Sisterhood of Safe Harbor" for one another. To share our concerns and joys and seek advice and understanding. We know we can share anything with one another and there will be no judgement only loving acknowledgment and an ear to listen. We are forever friends. So that is my suggestion. A Sisterhood of Safe Harbor. I love you all.
Linda
Paula wrote: "Hi, Jina -- Thanks so much for your thoughtful message. I'm leaning toward a private Facebook group, since I only go on Goodreads for this group and to leave reviews, but I'm trying to figure out t..."My dear friend Paula,
I can feel the tension in your written voice. You are hurting. I share some of your feelings. I understand loneliness. I understand loss and regret. But, from what I think I heard as you wrote, I think you are grieving. You lost something very dear to you in your career choice. Something you worked hard for and it hurt you deeply, to the core of your very being. Some how you must acknowledge that loss and allow it to die, to bury it in the depths of the past. Easier said than done, I know.
I am trying to deal with my childhood traumas. I want to bury them in the past and allow them to die. It's the memories of fear and loneliness. Of striving to be perfect so I would be worthy of love and accepted by God. I have learned there is no such thing as perfect on this earth. But as a child, I lived every day in fear because I didn't know any better. Knowledge is a gift. Maya Angelo said "We did what we knew to do at the time, when we knew better, we did better."
We both need to give ourselves a break and realize we are in a constant state of learning in this life, and we are gaining knowledge we never had before. We are dispelling the truths of our past and replacing them with facts that prove we are worthy of all the gifts God has given us. We are good people and we don't need to prove that to God, He knows us as we are and accepts us warts and all.
I am praying for you, my friend. You are special, you are loved, and you are a unique creation of God whom He loves more than you will ever know.
Peace be with you, my friend. We do not travel this journey alone.
Forever your friend,
Linda
Hello Ladies,It is lovely to hear from you all, I really miss out 'chats' when you are all so busy with your family & lives.
Jina, Hope you & Heather Jayne are progressing well healthwise.
Paula, I hope your counselling appointment helps to give you some support. Like Linda it seems to me that you are still grieving for something that was taken away from you before you were ready. I had counselling when we lost both my Father & our son & just talking to an 'outsider' where you can say whatever you are feeling without censure or guilt helped me tremendously.
As a writer have you tried keeping a 'private' diary of your thoughts & feelings? It might also help.
I love Linda's suggestion for, Sisterhood of Safe Harbor' for a PRIVATE Facebook group.
Linda, I hope you are recovering from your 'Summer Flu'. The weather is so unpredictable this year we seem to be getting four season in one day sometimes, which doesn't make life & gardening easy.
Please go and see your Dad ASAP, I don't want you to have regrets if something happens to him before you make the trip, the same with Dave. It makes the loss so much harder to bear. Can you Video call him so that you can at least see him that way?
The sunshine on my horizon at the moment is that our Grandaughter is coming to stay for a couple of weeks from the 9th August and then on the 24th August we are supposed to be having a Family Get Together for as many of the extended family who can make it. It is hard work but everyone 'mucks in' with food ect. Praying for good weather. Also our Grandson, who is 18 in September, is taking his entrance exam to join the RAF, so fingers crossed.
Don't know about anyone else but I don't seem to be getting much reading done - don't seem to be able to settle my mind. My TBR pile is increasing rapidly so I have some catching up to do. I have just preordered Emily's next book Tucker.
Must go, I have yo be at my Volunteer session at the Library soon.
Love and hugs to to everyone, Lesley xx
So good to hear from you, Lesley. I had a good counseling session and am having another one next week. I will see about setting up a FB group this weekend and add a re-direct link in this space when it's ready.
I'm having a serious book hangover. I read a series that was so amazing I can't even pick up a new book right now. I do have one that I've been asked to beta read by an author I met a few years ago on Twitter - and I'm looking forward to that one. I also have the latest book by the author of the series that got me all hung over - but I want to re-read the last two books of his epic series before I start the new one. I want to leave reviews for them and see if I can get past the let-down that follows a deeply emotional and captivating read.
I also need to finish Jackson. I put it down, intending it to be temporary, and in all the stress of the last few weeks I haven't picked it back up yet. I know when I do I'll really enjoy seeing how it ends.
Take care. Virtual hugs are coming your way.
Paula
I'm having a serious book hangover. I read a series that was so amazing I can't even pick up a new book right now. I do have one that I've been asked to beta read by an author I met a few years ago on Twitter - and I'm looking forward to that one. I also have the latest book by the author of the series that got me all hung over - but I want to re-read the last two books of his epic series before I start the new one. I want to leave reviews for them and see if I can get past the let-down that follows a deeply emotional and captivating read.
I also need to finish Jackson. I put it down, intending it to be temporary, and in all the stress of the last few weeks I haven't picked it back up yet. I know when I do I'll really enjoy seeing how it ends.
Take care. Virtual hugs are coming your way.
Paula
Paula wrote: "So good to hear from you, Lesley. I had a good counseling session and am having another one next week. I will see about setting up a FB group this weekend and add a re-direct link in this space whe..."Hiya girlfriend,
Really? You are going to drop the "this book series is better than sex" hint and not tell us what series it is so we can get hungover too??? Lol Dont keep it to yourself! Share the love babygirl!!! Im going to pull a Heather and hold my breath until you tell me... (no emojis here of holding my breath and turning blue, so thats another plus of a facebook group, we can OD on emojis and gifs.
Love you
Jina
Hi, Jina -- trust me when I say you would hate the series. For details, message me on FB. It was truly amazing but definitely not a genre I suspect you'd want to read.
The mystery deepens... LOL.
The mystery deepens... LOL.
Hi All,I had to start a new page on Facebook. They would not let me sign in with my password don't ask me why ! So if you get a friend request from me it really is me. Love You All, Lola
Hi Melinda & Brandi,Hope you are both doing okay. We were just wondering if you were both going to join us in Emily's Book Group over on Face Book as Paula, Jina, Lola, Linda & myself are all over there & would love it if you could join us as we miss your chats & updates.
Emily March Book Club
https://www.facebook.com/groups/34325...
That goes for anyone else in the group who would also like to join us and keep up with what Emily's up to.
Love & best wishes to everyone from Lesley
Hi ,everyone! Just have not joined Emily's group yet. My eyes are finally almost normal for me.I will join the group this week.
Lesley,
Are youexperiencing any of the flooding rains ? Stay safe.
Melinda wrote: "Hi ,everyone! Just have not joined Emily's group yet. My eyes are finally almost normal for me.I will join the group this week.
Lesley,
Are youexperiencing any of the flooding rains ? Stay safe."
Great to hear from you Melinda. Good news abut your eyes & we look forward to you joining us on Emily's Facebook group.
We have had a lot of rain luckily our area has not as yet had any serious flooding only some standing water on some of the roads & some warnings of possible high tide surges along the coast.
The warnings seem to have started early this year so I have a feeling we could be in for a long, wet winter season. I do hope not. Love to everyone. Lesley x
Lesley wrote: "Melinda wrote: "Hi ,everyone! Just have not joined Emily's group yet. My eyes are finally almost normal for me.I will join the group this week.
Lesley,
Are youexperiencing any of the flooding ra..."
Oh Melinda, I am so happy to know your eyes are getting better. My prayers are with you. I hope to hear from you on the Facebook page. I am not on there everyday, but I do check in regularly. We need all of our Sisterhood together.
Peace be with you.
Melinda wrote: "Hi ,everyone! Just have not joined Emily's group yet. My eyes are finally almost normal for me.I will join the group this week.
Lesley,
Are youexperiencing any of the flooding rains ? Stay safe."
Hi Melinda,
So happy to hear your eyes are better!!! I go in for the next step in my dental implants on the 15 th & my cataract exam on Halloween. I can't wait to be able to chew without using my front teeth. Love Lola
Lola wrote: "Melinda wrote: "Hi ,everyone! Just have not joined Emily's group yet. My eyes are finally almost normal for me.I will join the group this week.
Lesley,
Are you experiencing any of the flooding ra..."
Lola,
Praying all goes well with both exams. eating is not easy when your teeth or month hurts.
Thank You Melinda ! How is this years class doing? We are starting to plan our trip to Texas we are taking next Spring, I am pretty sure this will be our last trip down there , we have become such home bodies since Wolf retired. You take care ! Love Lola
We spent Saturday & Sunday with our son John & his family over in Doncaster. Back home today. Weather great."
Lesley,
Glad that you were a..."
Hello Melinda,
Thank you so much for the card. It really made my day. I talked to Heathers cardiologist today. He is starting her on another heart medication to try to calm down her ventricular fibrillations. So now she is on 3 heart medications twice daily. Her pharmacist expressed concern for her when getting the latest filled. Evidently it is a super strong medication and said "it must be serious if he is adding this to the medication she already takes for her heart." Heathers a trooper and the strongest woman I know. But as her Mom I will always worry and she will always be my baby girl. Thanks again for being such a sweet friend, and somehow knowing when I need some encouragement.
Love and hugs,
Jina and the girls